Roland Hulme

Seriously, marriage is totally unfair. When your wife is upset with you, you're expected to work out WHY and WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT all by yourself.

Where's the solidarity? Where's the collected pool of masculine knowledge ont he subject? Where's the Haynes manual?

Seriously, I'd LOVE to have a book that has a complete strip-down and rebuild of the '78 Italian/Jewish lowrider model with the big headlights. Next time there's a problem, if would be so much easier to scratch my head, scan the index, turn to page 102 and find out I need to say this, followed by that, refill with a glass or wine and then she'll be back in full working order in no time.

ugacrew

Okay Roland. What did you do and why did it take you so long to apologize for it?

neil

My one usually prefers that I let her get over it by herself. I have set expectations low so she does expect to get upset with me at regular intervals, and I constantly remind her that I can be a dick sometimes and she knew that before we got married so she can't blame me.

basementwaj

I would never read a Haynes manual, i would just hit said broken object with a hammer..... you could try that

Roland Hulme

WELL. I have been having a slight disagreement with my parents, in which my wife has taken her usual interest (scanning and 'approving' all emails before being sent, etc.)

Now I sneakily sent a concilitory email to my folks without her knowing. And now she's angry at me for emailing them without her knowledge and for 'wimping out' by trying to smooth things over (without 'sticking up for myself' in a disgreement in which I was possibly not entirely right.)

Which is followed by the announcement that she's utterly depressed and isn't happy being married to me and nothing I can say will make her feel any better, she's off to bed and not checking her email any more.

Roland Hulme

Hmmmmm. I think that might end with a stint in the electric chair.

zargof

You realise that if she sees this thread then she will be even more upset....

As for trying to figure out women.... men have been trying to do that for countless generations and have had no success. Just accept the fact that you will always be wrong no matter what you do and always be ready to apologise regardless of fault, and you may, just may, get somewhere.

Lord Lionheart

Being a typical man I wouldn't read the manual. I prefer the hands on approach, fiddle around with the various bits and pieces, until they break.................. one week a month
Then take it back and get the latest model

basementwaj

i know how this is... im in an argument with my sister.. haven't spoken with her for 6 months. My folks want me to reconcile, but my wife is adament i should stick to my guns..

You just gotta do what you gotta do.

As for her not being happy married to you, just show her your knight rider picture on a regular basis and she will remember why she married you

SagenOnion

"If a man is alone in the woods and speaks, and there is no wife to hear him, is he still wrong".

chicagojlo

There are two things you need to learn:
When we tell you our problems we don't want you to fix them, we just want you to listen and let us know that we are not alone. We repeat do not want you to fix them, or offer us your actual opinion, or your solutions. Just listen and assure us that we are right to feel upset.
When you tell us your problems we take this to mean that we have to fix them, and any attempts to thwart our efforts will not be taken lightly. Clearly you weren't able to fix it yourself alone so it can only now be fixed if you follow our advice. And if you don't then don't come moaning to us because we told you what to do and you ignored us. Clearly we don't know what we are talking about so you will now have to sort your own mess out and leave us out of it. And don't come asking for advice again any time soon. Ungrateful moron.

Sally Redux

I think you should have the major say on how you handle your side of the family. Get your own email account.

zargof

Thanks for the example. <David Attenborough whisper> Here we see a women in her natural state with no rational thought and no obvious signs as to what could have possibly caused her anger. This is one of the strange wonders of the natural world. Fascinating. </David Attenborough whisper>

Lord Lionheart

Of course you can upgrade the model you have with a larger set of headlights, modify and trim the intake manifold.
Dress up kits are available in a variety of colors, most popular are black, red and white.
External additives available on the market can also cut down on the smell and sound proofing for noise reduction is recommended.

ugacrew

You could purchase the sweetest ride and mod it to death, preferably a Bugatti Veyron, but if you don't know how to drive stick then what's the point.