Marriage Troubleshooting Guide: Does anybody have one?
#61
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Well, things are much better this morning!
We talked and discussed things and I think there were various aspects to her outburst, including cabin fever, which had sent her over the edge.
So we're happy families today.
What Lord Lionheart was saying reminded me of a joke, though.
A man and a woman are on an airliner, when the engine explodes and it starts plummeting towards the ground.
"We've only got a few minutes to live," the woman huskily breathes. "Please, make me feel like a woman one last time..."
"Sure," says the macho man, tearing off his shirt. He hands it to her and says: "Iron this."
We talked and discussed things and I think there were various aspects to her outburst, including cabin fever, which had sent her over the edge.
So we're happy families today.
What Lord Lionheart was saying reminded me of a joke, though.
A man and a woman are on an airliner, when the engine explodes and it starts plummeting towards the ground.
"We've only got a few minutes to live," the woman huskily breathes. "Please, make me feel like a woman one last time..."
"Sure," says the macho man, tearing off his shirt. He hands it to her and says: "Iron this."
#62
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Re: Marriage Troubleshooting Guide: Does anybody have one?
And you're right, I would most certainly have you thinking I was putty in your hands
#63
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Thinking you're putty in my hands is good enough, like I said it's about boundaries
#64
Re: Marriage Troubleshooting Guide: Does anybody have one?
Well, things are much better this morning!
We talked and discussed things and I think there were various aspects to her outburst, including cabin fever, which had sent her over the edge.
So we're happy families today.
What Lord Lionheart was saying reminded me of a joke, though.
A man and a woman are on an airliner, when the engine explodes and it starts plummeting towards the ground.
"We've only got a few minutes to live," the woman huskily breathes. "Please, make me feel like a woman one last time..."
"Sure," says the macho man, tearing off his shirt. He hands it to her and says: "Iron this."
We talked and discussed things and I think there were various aspects to her outburst, including cabin fever, which had sent her over the edge.
So we're happy families today.
What Lord Lionheart was saying reminded me of a joke, though.
A man and a woman are on an airliner, when the engine explodes and it starts plummeting towards the ground.
"We've only got a few minutes to live," the woman huskily breathes. "Please, make me feel like a woman one last time..."
"Sure," says the macho man, tearing off his shirt. He hands it to her and says: "Iron this."
#65
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Again, it's all down to attitude, self realisation and down to one's own character and ability to right the wrongs. It took a year before my daughter said, 'Dad, you know what you told me a year ago? Well - you were right"
Doh...
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#67
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I find this ironic because my wife got on better with my mother, our one remaining parent, than I.
I don't like all this chauvinism for it's own sake. Each marriage, or partnership, has to figure out the best balance of strengths for them, not to some formula. My wife didn't like my method of bookkeeping with the bank accounts, I didn't post anything but kept a fairly accurate, running, total in my head. When the statement arrived, if it was within a buck or two of my total, I let it go, it wasn't worth the time to track my error. My wife had been raised in great poverty, and needed to know to the penny, so I left it to her to handle the bookkeeping. Some men, particularly back then, think/thought that wifey should be given an allowance and no additional information, but I wanted a wife, not a servant.
It worked for us and that is all that mattered.
I don't like all this chauvinism for it's own sake. Each marriage, or partnership, has to figure out the best balance of strengths for them, not to some formula. My wife didn't like my method of bookkeeping with the bank accounts, I didn't post anything but kept a fairly accurate, running, total in my head. When the statement arrived, if it was within a buck or two of my total, I let it go, it wasn't worth the time to track my error. My wife had been raised in great poverty, and needed to know to the penny, so I left it to her to handle the bookkeeping. Some men, particularly back then, think/thought that wifey should be given an allowance and no additional information, but I wanted a wife, not a servant.
It worked for us and that is all that mattered.
#70
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Yes the first words out of my mouth when she was born were 'oh no she's got ginger hair'. I'm not joking.
The real meaning of my words were that I had expected her to have dark hair like myself and my husband. Having a baby that doesn't look like you expect it to is somewhat unsettling! And of course because we both have dark hair my husband gets weird looks when we're all out together...
The real meaning of my words were that I had expected her to have dark hair like myself and my husband. Having a baby that doesn't look like you expect it to is somewhat unsettling! And of course because we both have dark hair my husband gets weird looks when we're all out together...
#71
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Seriously, marriage is totally unfair. When your wife is upset with you, you're expected to work out WHY and WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT all by yourself.
Where's the solidarity? Where's the collected pool of masculine knowledge ont he subject? Where's the Haynes manual?
Seriously, I'd LOVE to have a book that has a complete strip-down and rebuild of the '78 Italian/Jewish lowrider model with the big headlights. Next time there's a problem, if would be so much easier to scratch my head, scan the index, turn to page 102 and find out I need to say this, followed by that, refill with a glass or wine and then she'll be back in full working order in no time.
Where's the solidarity? Where's the collected pool of masculine knowledge ont he subject? Where's the Haynes manual?
Seriously, I'd LOVE to have a book that has a complete strip-down and rebuild of the '78 Italian/Jewish lowrider model with the big headlights. Next time there's a problem, if would be so much easier to scratch my head, scan the index, turn to page 102 and find out I need to say this, followed by that, refill with a glass or wine and then she'll be back in full working order in no time.
Marriage is the single most deadly form of unarmed combat known to man, yet we still dive headlong into the fray and then wonder why we get the living cr@p kicked out of us.
Suggestion:
The next time she is totally unreasonable, try killing her with kindness, sit back and let her guilty consience do your dirty work for you. It may take a while to effect as she will be pretty confused, but you are much are less likely to get bruised, bitten or bloody and you'll look a complete saint as well.
Its not the only angle, but its a good one as its usually unexpected. If that doesn't work, there is always kevlar.
#72
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Yeah, even at my "mature" age, I'm not so keen on having my shortcomings pointed out, lovingly or not in the middle of a "discussion",
#73
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I jumped ahead before reading your post in its entirety and this immeadiately came to mind in context of the predicament in question.
My father used to say to me that the secret to marriage is discussion & compromise..... that's why I don't bother.
maybe this will help clarify matters for many... atleast you'll get a good chuckle out of it.
#74
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I can actually make up a whole scenario about this where Mrs Roland is completely in the right and he is the one who messed up. But we have NO idea of the background of this story or what agreement Roland and Co had regarding family communication and this issue.
Nip this shit in the bud Rolly and be a man. What you are doing now is laying the future foundations for your marriage and relationship. Women will usually push you as far as you let them. Time to grow some balls ( even if they are ginger). Reading and approving your e-mails FFS. Is she your Mommy or your wife?!?! Trust me, a woman will respect you more if you take control. Do it now before she loses respect for you. They won't admit it but most woman like strength of character in a man, not a shirt button.
You're a poor substitute; at least when our Dear Departed posted something silly like that, the joke was perfectly clear. Aren't you just stealing someone else's material?
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Women.. ahh yes bit like getting a flat pack from B&Q (UK) Home Depot(US).Beautiful when you put them together but always find you have one screw missing !
Standing my ground, honest chaps !
Standing my ground, honest chaps !