I wondered where you had gone - sorry to hear the crappy news

Woman can be cruel and heartless - I split with my OH for a few years and he was and is a fantastic father to our kids - BUT I was a complete cow, in order to try to manipulate everything to my way ..

When I look back on it now I shudder and hate what I was then

Sorry to hear that you are going through a difficult time. Be respectable at all times, don't react to anything she says or does,your son is the most important person in all this business. Also, take care of yourself, make sure you eat properly and get plenty of exercise and rest. You need to have your wits about you.

Hugs
Ruby

Thank you everyone for the words of support and encouragement.

Shitty situation all round mate ! - hope you get it worked out

You got some great advice from others on here. Remain dignified, record everything and maintain a wonderful relationship with your son. In the end, that's what he will remember and make him the man he will become. Good luck!

So sorry to hear of your predicament. Keep your chin up, easier said than done I know.

Sending all positive vibes to you and your boy X

Thank you everyone.....it's one of those things that you thought will never happen to you, but here I am and God knows I gave the marriage my all, and hoped that it will work.

Just keep in mind that, insofar as your son is concerned, the Court really doesn't care what you want, or what your wife wants, and will make a decision based upon what is in your son's best interests.

If a form of shared parenting is appropriate, that is what the Court will Order. Child support will follow the Court's decision on parenting.

You should be taking the advice of your lawyer.

I wish you all the best

Sorry for your troubles. Sounds like you are doing the right thing by your son, thats to be commended.

Good luck.

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See what you could afford to offer in return that she agrees to your idea of child sharing and custody. I know it sounds awful and like paying for your son but everything that could settle this quickly and with as little stress for the kid as possible is good in the end.

I come from a family where the parents fought a lot etc. and although they did their best to keep it away from us kids we did know and notice and it does harm the kids.

Be there for your son and never forget it's not his fault, he loves mummy and daddy and although for you his mum is a bitch for him she's the best mummy in the world and it should stay that way.

Good luck mate!

In my experience, when a party is acting unreasonably, an Application to the Court and the Judge explaining to them that their conduct is unreasonable, usually does the trick. Clearly, some litigants do not care what the Court says and will continue to act unreasonably but most don't. Particularly if the Court indicates its displeasure by Ordering costs to be paid by that party.

Unrepresented litigants frequently have no idea what the Court is likely to Order, particularly if they are taking advice from friends. Is there any reason why you are not being advised to make an Application for an Interim Parenting and Child Support Order (I appreciate that this is likely to require one of you to leave the matrimonial home)? That would likely solve most of your initial concerns.

All of which is the Court will not be able to review as it will be priviliged

I have a date for the mandatory information program in a couple of weeks, followed by a first court date (admin stuff) couple of weeks after. After that A case conference can then be booked, which can be followed by bringing motions.

Would the judge expect/demand the order to have a non-removal clause or is this up to the lawyers to negotiate?

wow shitty situation and really sorry to hear of your troubles. I agree with Greenhill. Leave the situation with dignity - it's not about "winners and losers" because ultimately you've all lost right now anyway.