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Maybe he's waiting for you to text him... I had a couple of similar situations where one of the guys at work said "don't text her for a few days, see whether she texts you first" and hey presto a few days she text first. The girls get told the same thing from their friends so it's a stalemate haha. I can't be bothered with all these games, why do I have to wait to text someone without it looking like I'm a weirdo. I hope it was cheap wine though :eek:

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Perhaps it's the old "treat them mean and keep them keen" game.

I am beyond such games these days.

I just play on my wife's Catholic guilt mentality.

Piece of piss.

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Hahaha! But yeah for sure, it's exactly that :thumbdown:

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Unfortunately my house mate decided to give a dinner to 7 people that evening, despite me telling her beforehand (a week before) that this guy would be coming round. Luckily he seemed to enjoy himself and was very talkative the entire evening - so I don't think that was the issue so much.

$10.25 for a bottle - cheapest I can get in the local liquor store - wasn't bad actually :lol:

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:lol: some cheap bottles are surprisingly good though! Which one was it just out of interest?

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I'm going to be honest and say I really don't know:unsure:

It was a BC wine and it began with P and it was a shiraz (I think)...this just shows you how I pick my wines - not much thought goes into it :rofl:

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Probably a good looking label :p

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Just playing devils advocate here for a bit. Say it works out with UK guy and he can find a way to come to Van, but after a year or so wants to go back to the UK, what do you choose then? Plenty of stories on here of one partner liking it more than the other and having to choose the path of least resistance. If he really couldn't stand here, would you be happy to return to be with him?

On the accent front, I have found it helps me. I made sure I put I was English in my online dating profiles, I have men who say "I love your accent, just keep talking" when answering the phone at work. One guy after one "date" was planning an Shakespearian style wedding in England with me - so yes, the accent can have the same effect on men as it does on women. Saying that though, I don't think the accent was a big factor for my boyfriend.

The strange thing for me is, part of the reason for the split from my ex was that he flat out refused to entertain a return a UK even though I was desperately homesick and had planned an escape back a couple of years previously without him!!!! Now I have a Canadian boyfriend with young kids and no chance of returning to the UK in the foreseeable future and I am perfectly happy with that. He is open to a move, maybe, one day, somewhere closer to England and I can live with that.

The whole dating thing isn't easy. I was very lucky to stumble across my man in the crazy world of online dating and I am so very glad I am not dealing with that any more.

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I am not likely the average guy since I have anxiety stuff, but when I was dating, I rarely made contact first or after, I figured if she liked me she will call, text or otherwise contact me.

Try sending him a text and see if he replies, why wait and wonder?

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No definitely don't contact him. You cooked him dinner and gave him wine and he can't be bothered to contact you to even say thank you. Very rude!!! Just keep looking or not really looking and try and make some friends and get on with making a life without a man- hopefully something will then fall into place :fingerscrossed:

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thanks - I think this is one of the best pieces of advise:thumbup:

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Why would someone need to say thank you again if they said thank you at the time when they departed?

The games people play confuses me.

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Because you do. You send a thank you letter/text/email/message. It's polite.

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To me, if someone says thank you at the time of leaving, they might just be being polite. If you get a text/email/phone call later on or the next day then they have made an effort and make me think that they really enjoyed the evening and am hoping to do it again sometime .

That would be my take on it

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It's not even remotely a game... It's just good manners.. It applies to anything or anyone who makes an effort to do something for you.