Hello peeps,

Well as you know the OH and I did a lot of talking and decided to look at returning to the UK after 10 months of being here..

Off he went last weekend back to the UK (a few days after the decision) to have an interview, and was sent away being told that he would have to wait a couple of weeks before they got back to him (please see other confuse thread!)

Then, since Wednesday afternoon, we have talked non stop about stuff.

The state of play is this ..............

Whatever the outcome we are going to keep on keeping on in letbridge with him working away three weeks rather than 4 at a time and home for two hopefully and then going on a two on and two off rotation in the winter for the heliskiing

The reasons that made us want to stay (and believe me I really tried to convince myself with little luck that going back was a better option, but all I did was end up arguing with a friend and getting more down in the dumps!) were the kids have settled, we are happier here (with the exception of not being together as much as we hoped) we both want this for the kids, and we both quite like life here too...........

New Outlook will be:
we are going to really concentrate on quality time when he is at home and I am going to kick myself up the arse and get back to the gym, take the job that I was offered and really try to proactively have someone to look after the kids one evening a week so I can get some me time (as it is I go for months without an hour to myself - quite literally and then meet up with Minihaha and get rip roaring drunk (not good) ) The living apart from each other will never be an ideal situation, but the bringing our kids up in the UK, knowing that we have thrown away this opportunity doesn't feel good either.

So that's us for the moment.

We are now looking to head to mexico on holiday on Sunday for 10 days, for some sea, sun, and sex to be quite frank !!!! So yes, I am looking forward to that.....

I just want to say thank you to everyone, for your words of support and understanding. And would say to anyone out there who's feeling like chucking the towel in, to take time, stand back and as Iaink said, be careful of the 10months window period. I think it's when real life and the exhaustion of having got here finally kicks in.

However, it was amazing how many people PMd and said they haven't had the guts to really talk it through with people etc, or didn't want to tell their partner, or that they felt like they were dying inside, I can honestly say, it was at the point where it was put on the table that I was able to see things much more clearly..............that how us women work after all eh? talking stuff through works.

The kids are pleased, the cat looks relieved and Me and Mr Miggins are feeling good about our decision. We are stll going to try and sell the house, as Minihaha pointed out, I have always hated this house, so hopefully finding somewhere I feel at home will really help too. And I would also say, that the summer being here (gorgeous day here today!) helps a bit too.

I have been given some great advice on here, in all sorts of tactful and not so tactful ways but all equally as valuable, and am really pleased to have you all as part of my life in cyber world.

So Minihaha, Gay, Sheffspurs, you're stuck with me and thank you all for being you

Take the best of care, and I'll have a pina colada or two for you all next week.

(Iaink don't get too smug ............)

Anyway, I best go defuzz, pluck and do all that stuff to get ready, because one thing is for sure - this is one cyber person who truly deserves a holiday

Adios Amigos and chat to you all soon
Mr and Mrs M and the Mini Miggins xxxx

Hi Mrs Miggins
I don't know you personally but I feel that I do through reading all your honest "from the heart" posts.
I felt really sad that you had decided to return to the UK after only 10 months
It is such god news that you have decided to stay. Looking for a house that you really like will be fun and will keep you busy over the summer
If we lived nearer then I would offer to babysit once a week but it's a bit far from Vancouver Island
You seem to have made solid plans for the future now so you can go ahead and enjoy your holiday in Mexico (sun, sex and sand)

Have a great holiday and a very happy future in Canada

Jo

Big decisions have to be made at times, and I'm sure this decision will be a good one for you and your family.

Good luck with the house search, but most of all, for now, enjoy your holiday.

Have a great holiday, Hope you come back refreshed and happy, the weather will be getting better ready for you to enjoy more time together when Mr M is home the days seem longer and everything is more relaxed when the sun is shining.

Great idea to get more time for yourself we all need time off as much as we love the little darlings, your new job will help good luck with everything

Nice to hear that you are staying on. Just a pity I can't be surrogate auntie as too far away!

Have a great holiday - you definitely deserve it!

You've almost got me in tears again, you silly moo

I'm with you all the way - I'm delighted you will give this whole idea another bash and with a little more hard work (like you haven't done enough already), I'm sure you and Mr Miggins can make this work. His schedule has obviously been a major stumbling block and I guess any little amendment to that can't do anything but good.

I'd be interested to know what hubby thought when he landed back in the UK for his interview. Did he feel it might not live up to expectations?

I suspect you've got a good little bunch of people rallying round for you down there in Lethbridge (hello minihaha - well done ) - and perhaps, when you lay your cards on the table like you have, the good 'uns will come up trumps for you. Definitely take that time for yourself Mrs.

So - in the meantime, cheers to a fabulous, hot and steamy holiday

Big hugs XX

Have a great vacation!

Even if you do change your mind again, whatever decision you make will be one that is good for you and your circumstances.

I think that having ME time is important and getting a job to get out of the house is as well. Also, selling the house you hate is a good one. Once you find a place you love you will find that you are much more happy with where you are.

What a roller coaster it has been reading everything. I can almost feel the weight being lifted off your shoulders. I am glad you have managed to sort something out and wish you all the best. Enjoy that holiday you all deserve it

Glad you have decided to stay on and I hope your husband manages to get a bit more time at home and that you manage to get a few more nights out!

Have a wonderful holiday

Lisa

Wishing you the best of luck

I am glad yous have sorted it all out and now its time to relax and enjoy the sun and have a few drinks when you get to mexico.I wish you all the best of luck and hope you find your happy home cos all said and done you have to be happy in your home not stuck in a place you hate,all the best to you and your family
kate

Good choice

I'm so pleased for you, you seem relieved in your post and things will get sorted. Enjoy your me time
Terese

Hey Mrs Miggs!

You know, we didn't settle properly until we bought our second home. The first one we bought because it was actually still for sale in a highly bouyant market. It was a case of 'It's for sale lets buy it.'

It was too big, too impersonal, to new, too overlooked, too empty blah blah blah.

We were lucky in finding this house - okay so it needs some work, really not sure how much longer I can put up with the sunshine ceiling in the kitchen but the bathrooms have to come first

So maybe the ticket for you would also be to find a house that you and the rest of the Miggins love.

It must have been an awfully hard decision to reach, to stay, when you had decided to go, whatever hapens you will do the best for you and yours. I really hope it all works out for you and you know we're all here for sounding out ideas/problems! All the best xx