How long have you got?

Well I wouldn't understand the inlaw bit but the mother and the from hell bit; je comprends.

Ok I'll condense mine!

Mrs Cassidy was away from Yesterday am till this afternoon, SO FIL took the opportunity to come and visit to inform me that MIL says unless I right a letter of apology for everything I've done to offend her over the last 20 years (Mrs C and I have known each other since we were quite young ) including taking her precious daughter to Canada SHE (MIL) will ban the whole family from visiting us!!!!

I've got just under 200 miles between me and my MIL. That ain't enough! :scared:

Way to close for me - and I get along with my in-laws. Thank goodness they live about 5000 miles away so we only see them at xmas! :scared:

3 and a half thousand miles from the parents aint enough either. They've just decided to visit me when I'm going on holiday. Thanks!

So you have a control freak MIL then. I guess your family will just ignore her then.

I have the out and out evil MIL. I'll try and keep it brief but basically my MIL was very upset when we told her of our intended move. I was very understanding with her at first. Having lived in the same place all her life and not travelled out of blighty much she feared that we would a) be eaten by bears as soon as we got off the plane or b) die of the cold. I nearly LMAO at the bear theory, 'cos she was'nt joking.

One of the main things has upset me is that when we visited she's tried working on each of us separately to put us against Canada and each other. She's not at all interested in our happiness, only hers. It doesn't matter if the kids will have more opportunities over in Canada, she can't afford to come and see us, won't be able to afford health insurance because of her age etc..... But funny enough she finds the cash to go to Europe and spend lots of money on other stuff. We have visited less and less because of the above and the effect on our kids as it's upset them. She works with kids so she knows exactly what she is doing psychologically, that for me makes it unforgivable. She said something awful to one of our kids on our last visit and she's blown it now. That's it, the kids no longer want to visit and she's brought it all on herself, which I think is sad. I've tried to keep the peace until now for my hubbys sake and have explained before how stressful this is etc. but to no avail. She has gone out of her way to be manipulative and nasty each visit to the extent that my hubby and I have come home having chest pains from stress. No more, I'm done with her now The worst thing is, my hubby is in the middle.

I am so sorry to here this. It makes me so angry that people can do this and through legal loop holes they always come out of it somehow. Why should you have to pay these costs? This is ridiculous.
I hate the expression 'crime pays' but sometimes it makes you really stop and think when you are such a law abiding citizen.
where is the justice in this?
I will pray for you and i hope that all goes well for the future. Sometimes, when we start a thread like this it actually helps put your life into prospective.
What a low life!
take care
my thoughts are with you

Babyblue you couldn't of timed this thread better!

I havn't got health problems like others, I am greatful for that but the whole Immigration thing is getting me really down.

I am not nice to be around at the mo I get really irritated by the smallest thing and I feel so sorry for anyone who gets it.

Everything I felt was going smoothly with the process, so when we got our medical requests we where exstatic an added bonus was that we where flying to Calgary a week later for a reccie. We managed to book a medical in between then. We absoulutley loved Calgary and decided that is where we were going to live. We were hoping to get our PPR in time for Christmas but if not then January would be just fine. We booked our leaving do in December for the end of January so we could wave goodbye to our family and friends.

Well 3 months from our medicals we still havn't had our PPR what makes matters worse is the guys who had their meds a few months after us but have also had their PPR through! What the bloody hell are the CHC playing at, we are around a month away from exchange on our house, got bank accounts setup and planned our shipping. All we want to do is book our flights, give the shippers a date, quit our jobs that we are fed up with anyway and move out!

All the time we are waiting the housing market is going up and up in Calgary so the houses we are looking at on the net may not be affordable when we eventually land!

Anyway I do feel better for my little rant on here, best wishes to all on the forum I hope all your dreams come true.

Steve

I am with you on that, but thankfully she disowned me about 18mths ago (again)so alls quiet on the western front at the mo ! BUT what has really hacked me off today is my sister, the only family member i have anything to do with, she phoned in a panic its her husbands 30th party Friday and she forgot to order a cake would i make a cake so i have spent all my day and evening making a large cake for a party that I'm not even going to I've just phoned her to say all done, and where is she?? in the f***ing pub <aaaargh!!> i must have stupid wrote all over my head.

Why is it that family can really push your buttons i shld have known better as the only time she turns up is when she wants something (money, Mr w to do diy, money)and she has been so negative about us wanting to move to Canada, and has slagged me off at every opportunity to anyone that will listen (derr! best not to tell yr friend that works with my brother in law) she just doesn't see the bigger picture, and doesn't get that we want more for the kids and ourselves, shes too wrapped up in her latest mobile phone or what shes brought the kids or where shes been out drinking.......

Am feeling slightly calmer now a cup of tea and chocolate fix should just about finish the job

Wish mine would disown me (think I'm almost there now) She hasn't called for a while now as hubby is the only one who will talk to her.

I hope your sister appreciates the cake you made her wonderwoman?

A few musings have come popped my brain at this late hour.

"You can't please everyone, so you'd better please yourself"

"Live life for yourself and not your family"

"Families will try and hold you back, and not always for the right reasons"

Our immigration experience so far has been a real journey, in more ways than one. It has made me a stronger person, more determined and brought my immediate family closer together. I value the true family and friends I have more now.

Thank you for the kind words, Life must be quieter with MIL not talking to you . you are so right about it being a journey, at times i have been really surprised with peoples reactions to what we are doing, it really shows you who your real friends are! and we are trying to live our lives for ourselves not be governed by others but it can be so hard constantly fighting your corner, still these things are sent to try us and as for my sister, i doubt she'll appreciate it, but as Mr W keeps saying i'm running out of family members so play nice

Thanks HWP and everyone else who has passed along best wishes and kind thoughts.

Actually the cancer to me is a minor inconvenience as I see it as being "fixed" after the surgery.

The cardiac problems a far more irritating to me as there are limits placed on what I can do. I can no longer hike the hikes I used to enjoy in the mountains I have to satisfy myself with much flatter terrain.

I am not allowed to shovel snow (I know most of you would be thrilled if someone told you not to that little task anymore) but it is frustrating to watch my wife do it and not be able to go out and help. Next year I'm going to arrange to have some come and do it for us, I don't care what she says.

No longer allowed to carry anything more than about twenty pounds and so on and so on, it's extremely frustrating.

There I've had another rant and now I feel much better.

Thanks again all of you.
Steve

What a knob

How large a family are the in-laws ? Are they stupid enough to have "their" decisions made for them by the outlaws ? If so, will it really be a great "loss" never to see them again ?

guys i just want to thank you all for being so supportive. It it great to know that you are able to offload at some very difficult times.
Steve i hope and pray all goes well for you. I hope the sun shines upon you now and always.

I feel much stronger today as i realise i am a day closer to escaping this hell.
reading through this thread i am so deeply touched at the responses.

YOU ARE ALL GREAT!!!!!!
Once again thank you.

Little fly says
"I am sitting here listening and i will help in any way possible. Don't worry, nobody needs to know we spoke"