Just need a little moral support so i brought the padded cell back.
For those that are new...
The Padded cell is a safe place to offload all your wows of the day. The only thing in the room is a little fly in the corner. Happy little fellow that with be an inspiration in your time of need.


Well let me be the first....

Yesterday i left work in tears.. The children that i take care of were completely out of control. I was so humiliated. Their mother asked me to walked them down to the dental office where she would meet us.
The would not listen to a word i said walking down the street(extremely busy road). Get to the dental office as it is as though i am invisible. Mum comes in and informs me she is going into a different room for treatment and i can stay with them whilst they had the treatments. She then says "when you finish you can walk them home". She has the truck in the parking lot!
Three kids, 6, and twins 4. One of the twins is severely disabled.
Well we have huge tantrums, Then the 6 year old sits in the dental chair. Would not listen to the dentist at all. Rude!... Understatement. Kept telling her and me to be quiet. I spoke to him and is was as though i was nothing. The dentist even spoke to him to no avail. She would tell him to keep his hands down and he would raise them. The 4 year old was running around touching stuff and would not listen either. Whilst the special needs boy was whining in his stroller. I was pulling my hair out. I was embarrassed and i felt powerless.
I then did the Nanny thing and took them both aside and came down to their level and talk to them both about the dangers etc...
What did they do?............ Yes you guessed it... Ran around some more and touched everything. The dentist looked at me and she knew what i was going through.

This is a typical day for a caregiver. I know i am not alone with this as i know many other Nanny's that are in the same situation. children that are so spoiled that they don't know the value of anything or anyone.
Don't get me wrong, i love the kids and i know they are just another sad product of todays society. Over compensation and ridiculous amount's of toys etc.
Those that know me understand that i have been through many things in this job. I try so hard to teach them manners and social skills then when i leave work it all goes out the window.
I don't feel appreciated for the the hard work i do or the long hours i work. 11 hours a day. I get my PR soon and an Open work permit. I can't wait..
I get the impression that they think i am only capable of being a nanny!
I have had been a manager(which i do well). I have been a nurse, I have been a fund-raiser and organiser. I am trained as a counsellor. How dare people categories the likes of me...I have coped in many near death experiences and death itself(my own daughter). I am strong, intelligent, great organiser,caring and adaptable. I am doing one of the most important jobs ever. I am taking care of the future, their children.
I am a mother myself and i would never allow my children to ever speak to people or act this way. I know i am not alone with my thoughts.
This is why society is falling to pieces! The whole family thing is breaking down and people never see it until it is too late.
I am not a skivvy nor an idiot. I remember once, the mother introduced me as ' this is Tracey, she looks after our kids whilst we work. Can you begin to imagine how i felt?
People say you should leave as these people really are taking the p**s out of you. Never that simple. I came here under the Caregivers programme and now i would have to go through the sponsorship system again. Too much hassle at this late stage. I am simply trying to bide my time and then leave. They will never get anyone to accept these working conditions. Although i feel for the children, it is not there fault and they do love me very much. We do so many activities and crafts. But at the end of the day they are their children not mine.
Sorry guys as i know some of you have heard my stories before. I am so low right now and this does not help with the settling here either. I know eventually i will feel good about getting up and going to work but right now it is extremely hard.

I am not asking for people to feel sorry for me as this was my choice in the beginning. I just needed to off load.
It helps to get it off your chest.

Feel free to offload and have your say about anything.
The little fly in the corner is here to help....

Tracey,

Not even going to say I know how you feel, cos I'm not in your position so I dont.
BUT you do have my sympathy, and your post shows those of us who think that rude and spoilt kids dont exist in canada that they DO.
Sending you some Karma cos you deserve it, and heres wishing you get your open work permit soon.

hiya only me to say today is a new day.....

this is the beginning of a new day
i have been given this day to use as i will
i can waste it or use it for good
what i do today is important because
i'm exchanging a day of my life for it.
when tomorrow comes,
this day will be gone forever,
leaving in it's place whatever i have traded for it.
i pledge to myself that it shall be...
gain, not loss;
good, not evil;
success, not failure...
in order that i shall not regret the price i paid for this day.........

source unknown.....hope today is better hmmm now where's me fly swat

Gosh I really do feel for you.I was a nanny in Ireland and England but had fantastic families whereas my friend who was aRomanian Au pair had a terrible time.She was treated like dirt even though in my mind anyone who looks after your children should get the utmost respect . For some reason even though she was highly educated and responsible had no rights at all.The families were horrible to her and treated her like they were doing her a favour and she should be grateful. Hang in there as you say your open work permit will arrive soon until them keep up the good work and some of your values will sink in Im sure the kids will remember you for a long time to come. Sending you some Karma if I can figure out how to do it.

That is strange you should say this becuase before me was a romanian nanny. She only stayed eight months and left a letter on the table and ran. I don't blame her at all. At first i thought she was terrible to do such a thing(poor family etc) then reality sank in. She really did put up with alot. This family are exactly the same. They treat me as if they are doing me a favor.
The only favor they are doing me is.... Making me stronger and deffinatly wiser. Not to be sucked in like a fool.
I asked them if i could have a few days off as i was so stress out and had just moved house. I was told that her and her husband had no holiday left. Well guess what?..
They had days off here and there and this weekend they are off on a cruise.
This sort of thing happens all the time. The stories are impossible. I am actually considering writting a book about the life of a nanny.
facts not fiction!
thanks for the support!

Sorry you having such a bad time. Hope you got my email?

Really hope than once you are free of them things improve for you.

Keep smiling here if you need to talk.

Tracy x

Hang in there Blue! It wont be long now This too will pass

Some days kids are like that I guess, you just have to hang tough and accept that, and try and put yourself in their shoes and figure out why. The parents are tossers, nothing you can do about that, its not your fault.

I just read a good book that basically said "situations are neutral, its how you react to them that makes them good or bad" The book sounds like a great idea!

My rant too....

I've had a crappy few weeks, potentially serious brush with the law, started new job, blokey situation is falling apart, and to cap it all, I'm living this month on two weeks salary. Then last night I managed to prang my car on another steel pole.... just when you think things can't get any worse.

Hopefully I'll be back to my normal perky self in a couple of weeks time. For now, life is pretty unbearable...

... and the bubbly will flow!

It sounds very frustrating! I would have dumped paint all over their cars by now. I admire your patience and perseverance.

In your book, a whole chapter on revenge fantasies would be interesting! You could probably get going on that today!

Focus on your goal and try to let all the other stuff roll off your back (I know that's easy to say, hard to do). Take care.

I have before me a bill I cannot pay from the accountant my lawyer had me hire to demonstrate to my wife's lawyer that I do not have any money. I also have bills I cannot pay from my lawyer and, since she doesn't work, my wife's lawyer. I can collapse RSPs to pay these bills but then I'll have a tax bill I cannot pay.

It's not ideal really.

Damn, that's a lot to cope with all at once Sarah.

I hope the few weeks are kinder to you.

great title for the book
THE REVENGE OF THE SUPERNANNY!

Inspirational stories, truth, no fiction.
I could gather horror stories from other nannies and explode with exploiting terminology!

I am writing as we speak........

Little fly on the wall Say's

"Hold on in there. They can't get blood from a stone" The cannot take what you do not have.
(little fly flutters his wings and grins suggestively)

little fly on the wall has sent you karma.

Fly say's
"hang on in there, the sun always shines on the glowing hearts"

I would say raise some funds by having a garage sale but... eugh!