For those that have sent private messages, I am unable to access them so have been unable to respond.

Sorry to all.

Hi i seen you post about things getting any better and its like me,we have been in alberta since july i m really homesick and so is my 13yr old son,but my OH and daughter are ok,we are going to give it 6 mths and then if i still feel the same go home,so i just wanted to let you know that i feel for you and its hard,but your not on your own and if you every want to talk please email me.
jami

Well this is getting silly. I'll be leaving again on June 28th.

Shame.... will be thinking of you!!! If you are passing through Brum at all we will be here until the 8th!

Do you think you've not actually left the uk for good and this is just a long trip away from home?

I see from your sig and they way you refer to the uk as home maybe you're in the wrong mindset from the off ?

Maybe try and think as canada being your home now?

i cant imagine what your going through as we've yet to make the move ourselves but the way you describe it reminds me of the way i used to feel on a long deployment...

The poster only started posting in her own right after this had happened, which I guess is where the name comes from. The fact that she chose that as her name does more or less indicate her mindset though, I agree.

I do wonder exactly when that change took place ... I think she said it was as they landed, but it has to go further back than that .......

There presumably was some point when she did think it was the thing to do though, as they'd been working on coming for two years!

It took us two years to get here, having decided to do it, and I remember that the latter period is when the doubts might kick in, even though we had visited the once (as tourists) ..... and for us it helped to actually come over and plan places to live, talk to job prospects etc., and rekindle our enthusiasm .... obviously they didn't feel they could afford to do that, but in the end it has cost them a whole lot more anyway.

How important are research trips? I'd say vital! .... for all sorts of reasons, this included. I know it seems like a lot of money, but think of it as an investment, or even insurance.

im going to miss all of my friends and family, some more than others...!

im going to be spending the first 6 months concentrating on my training so my mind will be occupied my other half might have to spend quite a bit on her own which will be worse for sure, just hope she can find a job soon to keep her mind busy too, which i think might be the key to unlock the pain.

when i get those im i doing the right thing thoughts i usually get the dvd out i made of of research trip.... 10 mins of that im and usually right back there !

Hi guys,
e hae arrived in maple Ridege/Pitt Meadows near vancouver.I came here toi be near my best friend as our holiday here was fab last year,we have arrived and been surrounded by Brits I have got to say our first 3 weeks here have been so easy and fantastic the thought of the UK scares me HOWEVER I have not started work yet I do that in a couple of weeks,have failed my drving test the practical one ,but still feel ok.Yes I am missing my frinds and family but having skype and webcam is great.Just look at the news in the UK and whats happening.You may soon realise that this is ok ,like I say I will update further when I strat work just need to pass drving test!!!!.
DON;T give up yet.My son was classed as gifted in the UK ,he has been at school 2 and half weeks is being assessed and falls into the same bracket here,you need to push things,get the kids having playdates and sleepovers,think about the grim and grime ,the dirty streets,ASBOs ,hoodies etc etc,go and have a walk on your own look and the countryside yes you could be in Scotland but does it equate to where you came from,I doubt it,have you had any emails from home what are they saying same old ,samel old!!!!!!!!
GOOD LUCK

hi sorry to hear about your driving test! Did you take a few lessons first to get used to the different rules? Did they take your UK licence of you too?
my wife spent 2 months getting used to the roads before doing her test in the final month her lic was valid! Still think it's stupid you need to re take in BC but not in Alberta and other provinces!

In 1989 I left to study in Belarus (Ex-Soviet Union) and it was my first trip abroad. I felt like I came to another planet. everything was different. at the begining, it was a bit interesting as I was discovering this new culture but after a couple of months, panic started and I wanted a reason to go back home but I couldn't live with the idea that I may regret leaving later on. My father advised me to keep myself busy and not to think about it and it really worked. I spent seven years and went back home with a Master degree, a lovely wife and a two years old son.

I can't imagine what would be my life by now if I gave up and went back home. In March, I will complete my seven's year working in Kuwait and hopefully I will get my PR visa and leave to Vancouver by June 2009 to start a new chapter in my life.

I'm also terrified about the move to Vancouver (with four kids now) and I'm confident that my first year will be difficult. You may find me on this forum complaining but my advise to you is HANG ON. For your sake and for the sake of your kids. I'm sure you will find a way to make your life easier.

I see on this forum an endless support from different people who advised and will advise you how to go thru this experience. try to benefit from our experts experience and you can make it.

All the best and keep us updated.