Need "personal" advice
Apr 24th 2010, 9:37 am
#31
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Re: Need "personal" advice
I didnt say you did, and what you get up to in your own home is entirely up to you...if the fancy did take you it's no-one elses business. Nobody on here will shoot you down in flames or take the piss. The lovely, broad minded and relaxed people on here would just leave you and the rabbit to stew in your own juices.
What I meant was, you would not be a high priority, like Mick and his er....pet.
What I meant was, you would not be a high priority, like Mick and his er....pet.
Apr 24th 2010, 9:41 am
#32
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Re: Need "personal" advice
Some women have aparticular attitude to porn, they see it as a threat, as a personal insult, as something degrading to the women involved, a slur on womanhood in general...
I dont.. porn has been around since time began... plenty of evidence of such.. using the computer to access it merely shows an advancement in technology
HE doesn't use my puter for porn, couple of reasons..
1, I have a a probably not irrational phobia of HIM accidently going onto an "illegal' site ... and not realising until ... well ... not realising quickly enough ... I imagine thats quite easy
2. we have kids who are more puter literate than either of us.. and would be likely as to find it...
3. HE'd hog me pc and I'd loose contact with the outside world
Apr 24th 2010, 9:44 am
#33
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Re: Need "personal" advice
you,ve been talking to HIM again haven'y you.?
Some women have aparticular attitude to porn, they see it as a threat, as a personal insult, as something degrading to the women involved, a slur on womanhood in general...
I dont.. porn has been around since time began... plenty of evidence of such.. using the computer to access it merely shows an advancement in technology
HE doesn't use my puter for porn, couple of reasons..
1, I have a a probably not irrational phobia of HIM accidently going onto an "illegal' site ... and not realising until ... well ... not realising quickly enough ... I imagine thats quite easy
2. we have kids who are more puter literate than either of us.. and would be likely as to find it...
3. HE'd hog me pc and I'd loose contact with the outside world
Some women have aparticular attitude to porn, they see it as a threat, as a personal insult, as something degrading to the women involved, a slur on womanhood in general...
I dont.. porn has been around since time began... plenty of evidence of such.. using the computer to access it merely shows an advancement in technology
HE doesn't use my puter for porn, couple of reasons..
1, I have a a probably not irrational phobia of HIM accidently going onto an "illegal' site ... and not realising until ... well ... not realising quickly enough ... I imagine thats quite easy
2. we have kids who are more puter literate than either of us.. and would be likely as to find it...
3. HE'd hog me pc and I'd loose contact with the outside world
I agree, I think she probably feels insulted and slapped around the face. If she is a little insecure, that's just bought it to the surface.
Apr 24th 2010, 9:48 am
#34
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Re: Need "personal" advice
I guess it depends on what type of porn it was. I mean if it was kiddie fiddling I'd be fairly pissed to say the least. If it was something harmless to have a wank to I wouldn't give a monkeys provided you hadn't made a mess on the lappie 
Apr 24th 2010, 9:52 am
#35
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Re: Need "personal" advice
I personally have no problem with porn... I just think each to their own. Personally porn can be either a sex aid, a release to one or both or just seedy *(not an exhaustive list, just a few from the top of my head).. dependant on the persons values or foundations..
Taking this into account, I can see why the wife is so upset. To OP : there really much you can do to make this better except perhaps reassure her of your motives... ie, its just a release (am assuming this now!?!)...
Anyway... if it were me, i'd recommend involving her a little or perhaps mixing things up a bit? But ho hum, each to their own!
Em x
Taking this into account, I can see why the wife is so upset. To OP : there really much you can do to make this better except perhaps reassure her of your motives... ie, its just a release (am assuming this now!?!)...
Anyway... if it were me, i'd recommend involving her a little or perhaps mixing things up a bit? But ho hum, each to their own!
Em x
Apr 24th 2010, 9:54 am
#36
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Re: Need "personal" advice
You need to be blase about it. Porn is no big deal and as you say most men have partaken. Get her involved and perhaps give her a good seeing to while watching some lighter female oriented porn ( storyline required)
hmmmm... bit slow tonight... I shall stick to Eastender then maybe?