Australia should be wary of the Dutch effect.

It needs to invest abroad and lessen the strain on the AUD.

The grass aint always greener just a different shade i would like to have a look at that different shade if thats ok?

Nuclear power may be Clean but the Nuclear waste is not.

Until a safe way to dispose of nuclear waste is found, this sort of power should be put right on the back burner.

Just before leaving the UK 11 years ago, I saw first hand how the government was dealing with obsolete nuclear submarines and their reactors.
They were all tied up alongside in Rosyth dockyard. No one knew how to dispose of the reactors safetly.


Ditching the waste in some third world country is not the answer.

I don't whinge about life in oz, it's a good country but rest assured, if I ever got as miserable as Arkon my flights would have been booked long before that.

It's not a stuck record, I'm stuck here. Nothing I can do to go back. You don't know the whole of my situation that has me stuck here so you are'nt really qualified to comment or give such glib comments are you.

That's fine, but maybe you should slag the UK off slightly less though in the meanwhile as your going to look a bit foolish when you decide to return in a couple of years time or like me you have to stick it out here in a utopia that is sadly lacking.

When are you getting to Sydney Arkon?

Sounds like you are in desperate need of that pint...


S

Well mate, unless you are in Villawood or otherwise detained in Australia, there should be nothing that forces you to stay. I dont need to know your whole story since it wouldnt change my opinion that if you are truly as miserable here as you have been posting for quite some time, you could pack your bags and bugger off to blighty.
You cant use any excuse really since you live your life and noone else keeps you from that (even family if you are here for that reason).
No money ? The British high commission would give you a ticket that youd have to pay back at some point.
Why not try to enjoy your life mate, youll feel heaps better than you do at present.
You mentioned to another poster that they shouldnt slag the uk off since they would be back there in a couple of years. By the same token, you shouldnt make out the Uk is so fantastic if you arent prepared to go back, you may just be eating your words if you actually DID move back. Is this your fear ?

All going well Sydney in about 30 days time.

Unfortunately I can't just abandon my 2 year old son, and I'm amazed that you could if you were in my situation.

Arkon, there is always a way. Ever thought of The Family Court Of Australia, it's where one fights for custody.
Also, if you have the means you could also make the move and do frequent visits back to oz until your son is old enough to travel on his own.
Miilions of people do similar, take people in the armed forces for one.
If you can get your head around the fact that there IS a way it may help.
I know exactly what you are feeling, Ive been there myself. It's never easy, but never impossible.

Luke, you have a very black and white view of the world. Unfortunately when family, children, love and emotions are involved, life just isn't that cut and dried.
Maybe he doesnt WANT to put his son through custody battles. Maybe he is sacrificing his happiness for the sake of the child at the moment. I think most of us as parents understand this.

Perhaps, however, when you are openly miserable it does more damage to others (children included) than if you put yourself in happier environment.

Its a fact that 2 parents shouldnt stay together just for the sake of the kids, its very damaging.

My views are not abrupt, or black & white, they are practical.

At 2 years old the son wouldnt even be talking very much let alone know what a court is or custody battle is. I know all about divorce and custody btw, been there, done that, got the degree of misery it can cause but also the solution to a rotten situation.

I'm with you Luke, talking sense you are

I agree in principle on the staying front, I walked out on a marriage myself, but none of us know the other factors involved. Sometimes you have to weigh up all the factors and make ugly decisions based on what may be best in the long term future. Having to sit and suffer for a while maybe the best options for him, but neither you or I have the right to judge that do we? Especially as we are speculating on the real circumstances