When I split from my first hubby (lying cheating arse!) I walked away, went to a solicitor signed over my half of the house to arse face (against solicitors advice) but picked what I wanted from the house (not that much). We had an official seperation but never divorced until a few years later (I just wanted away asap and to forget I ever knew him). It wasn`t until I met the lovely man who became hubby no 2 that my previous choice started to cause problems. Because we`d seperated so long we got a cheapie divorce (think it cost £50 or something because no kids were involved) but he decided to try and wring the pain out as much as possible, making arrangements to sign the paperwork & not turning up etc, said at one point he`d forgive me for leaving him if I wanted to come back (best joke ever!)then he kept wanting me to meet him in the middle of nowhere in car parks at night so he could sign (hmmm I don`t think so).
Seriously Bernie sign it, move on then the hassle really is over for you, I know you might not think so at the mo but you never know what or who is around the corner.

Follow your faith and move on mate

Errrrrrr - you arnt Caroline my ex wife are you?

I signed over a house and car that I had paid half for to an ex. Just wanted shot even though it cost me 50k.
I got a letter from her lawyer months later saying that my camera gear that I took with me was half hers and she wanted a settlement......

Yes! OMG, it's you! And you're also in SYDNEY!!! Right that's it - I'm staying in the dessert...

By the way, are you still in the army?

Yeah, some human beings just like to wring every last drop of blood don`t they. You`d think by saying - here you go, take it, just let me move on, they`d be happy. All I had from the house was some bedding, towels, plates & my music, he moved his girlfriend in a few weeks later and told me how she liked the way I`d decorated the house and that I had good taste (so nice to know she approved, it had been my main worry that she wouldn`t like the decor ).

I love this quote:

"I'm not going to bother getting married again. Next time, I'll just find someone who hates me and buy them a house".

:
SH*T

Hope this raises a smile BB!

They don't think this way my friend and if the situation were reversed she would not hesitate to take you to the cleaners. So my advice is get a lawyer, I can give you the name of a good one and get what the law says you can have. You will be intitled to what they call in australia "pipe and slippers money"

Sorry to hear you are going through all this s***.I was married to an aussie,and living in Oz when we separated.We struck a deal out of court and I thought that was the end of my woes.Unfortunately it was'nt.After I moved to the UK,I filed for divorce.The solicitor told me it was easy enough to do from this end.Unfortunately my ex OH decided to be awkward and not sign the papers.I had to write my reasons for divorcing and he did'nt agree with them.I only told the truth.In the end my solicitor had to hire an aussie private detective to serve my ex the papers.Very costly and time consuming because everytime he went to serve them,my OH was out!!!!My ex OH paid nothing towards the divorce which cost me thousands.Ironically he keeps trying to contact me(our divorce was over 10 years ago)by email lately.Have I replied?You've got to be joking!!!!

Bernie - this divorce isn't costing you anything except grief - sign the papers and move on with your life.

I understand your desire to make it difficult for her, but is it worth dragging it out for a fleeting feeling of revenge?

Those of you men that automatically assume that women always try to "take men to the cleaners" really make me laugh.

Admittedly a few do - I know a woman who has done very nicely out of several divorces and broken relationships despite having no kids to provide for.

However like others here I walked away with only my dignity and started again. I let myself be made out as the bad bitch for the sake of peace and to preserve his reputation among our many mutual friends and colleagues, and still only a handful of people know just what I put up with before I realised I needed to get out with my sanity (almost) intact.

So please, guys, less of the stereotyping based on your own shit choice in women.

My advice is this: Do what is best for you. Sounds to me like you are going to get slagged whatever you do, so you might as well suit yourself.

The feeling of bitterness goes eventually provided you let it go. By not signing the papers you will probably find that this situation doesn't go away quickly. However, if the situation isn't bothering you then its matters not a jot. However, if it does affect you and then think again, how much hurt should someone put themselves through?

Em x

Yes indeed! Not all of us want to clear out the bank accounts!

Em x