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That is really interesting, thankyou. I guess I am the introverted type, however I do have a wicked sense of humour and a very confident person. I have always made brilliant friends with people I work with, however when ever I have changed jobs, I have never spoken to them again :lol: Its become a bit of a standing joke where I work now, I get on fantastically with my deputy, go to her house after work every day etc, although I have told her its all over whenever I leave :lol: she keeps threatening to make me her pet project and keep tabs on me when I do leave, will have to wait and see. I am not a horrible person, just find it easy to be on my own.

My sister on the other hand is a definate type E, she collects friends. Has new ones, old ones and they are all over the country and on her doorstep, she would be totally bereft and unable to function without them.

Claire x
Claire x

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Although like you - to a point - and certainly in the UK - I have found having a support network here fairly crucial. Not for chatting or borrowing money, but for day to day help - such as picking the girls up for school when I've had a flat tyre or when I've been ill or looking after them in school holidays when I've had a dental appointment etc. BTW I'm not all take, take :rofl:

Yes, I could have coped with this on my own - but what about when I'm stuck in traffic and can't get back for school pick up or if you had to work late on something urgent. It just makes life easier to have friends to help out and vice versa of course.

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I want to befriend Dolphins!

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the original post wasn't about having friendships that you have had for years and trying to reciprocate that in a very short time in Australia it was about not having to have friends per se.

Of course we could all probably function without friends around us but that is not the point - the point for many of us is that we enjoy/want/need friendships - we like to have friends around us - some of those friends will be long term ones and anothers not. Some friends come into our lives for a limited time and others stay the course and become lifelong friends.

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I am the Walrus!

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Did you post this on porpoise?

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It's a shame that they used the word Introverted as it has other meanings in the real world. In Myers-Briggs it just means that you like to think internally (i.e. you tend to think about something and give an answer rather than thinking aloud). It doesn't mean that you are socially inept which is unfortunately what it means in the real world.

As with all these things it's only a framework and does have limitations (i.e. don't take it too seriously like the consultant who first introduced me to it :D). It was funny though in the class one salesman came out as a type I and he was desperate to be a type E as type E are better suited to sales.

Here's the test if you want to do it. I seem to be an INTJ (a select group :D)
http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes2.asp

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"I get by with a little help from my friends" is possibly the most profound song The Beatles ever wrote.
My friends are getting me by just now, without them I would have sunk.

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I have fallen into quite a few friendships since moving over here.. I have about 3 very close lifetime friends who live back in England and I talk to them all the time (msn, skype blah blah blah). The friendships that I have made over here, close ones, are mainly British. I have one close Australian friend and I love her to bits.

I don't think it is to do with need, its more of a release for me. I like talking and socialising and if i get to do that whilst having a beer or a coffee then that is even better.

Close friendships take years to build and effort to maintain so I can see why people don't want to invest in them. For me, the effort and investment in my new friendships come like a 2nd nature to me. And I rarely ask for anything in return from them either. My close friends, and I count our Viv in that group, usually just help me out regardlessly of if I ask or want it. That is the sort of friend that I love to have. However.. very needy people scare the bejasus out of me!

Em x

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Please be my friend?:(

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:wub: goes without saying ;)

Em x

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:lol: Your post was spot on, it's not need.

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Forgive me . . .I've just got in .. .

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I can feel the tribes forming as we speak. :D

People are different. Live and let live. Don't read too much into what people say. Sometimes you have to ask questions, if the ways of others doesn't match your own.

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