Re: torn!!
 

I know. However I replied before I got to that post and I didn't feel like editing it. But thank you!

Re: torn!!
 

I am not a mother but that does not mean that I cannot empathies with how a mother would feel.

So you have spent time with him in the US,has your family met him, can he get to the UK to meet them that might be start, or at least chat to the folks on the phone or by Skype!

You are it appears in your 20's you are a grown up, and need to do what you feel right in your heart, the family will come around after a time, they normally do.

This is morbid but one day they won't be here,and you might just might of lost the love of your life trying to make others happy.

Go for it you can always return to the UK worst case scenario :unsure:

Re: torn!!
 

Everyone has an agenda.... just remember you are the master or your agenda.

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Some people, myself included, think that online relationships are nothing short of insanity. I suspect your mother and I share the same opinion.

Don't even need to go as far as the usual issues of 'losing you'. It's probably the fear that the guy is a serial killer, or worse, a nerd or even fat.

Re: torn!!
 

years ago I would have said the same thing, but in 1992 a friend as a dare responded to a looking for love in a paper, the guy was pug ugly, but she ended up going out with him for months, he was so nice! really brilliant had that certain "it" factor that made you forget that he wasn't good looking and was a real laugh, she was devastated when he broke up with her!, my Grandad has used the Times personal Ads and he has meet some lovely people, he's nearly 91 and his proud boast is "I don't need Viagra!" too much info for me!
My brother met his wife in an internet chat room, they have been married for 4 years now and if he hadn't married her I would have:rofl: seriously she is made for him, it took him away from me, he was posted at Dover 10 miles from me, and he is now in Catterick, but then I moved to the US! (which proves you can't live your life for others, I was really upset when he moved but didn't say, but then I moved even further! we are deep down, all selfish)
you need to do want you need to do, you may make a mistake! but who hasn't? and plenty of "good matches" end in divorce so suck it and see (pun intended!) ;)

Re: torn!!
 

You have more chance in meeting a nutter in a bar then the internet.

If you do it correctly the internet is the safest form of dating.

But this is BE and I am guessing that about 80-90% of the folk on here met online!

Re: torn!!
 

totally agree, in a chat room or what ever you can sound people out, and if a bit scarey leave them alone, nightclub one to one an you are mostly drunk!

Re: torn!!
 

Glad to see that your O1 hasn't dulled your inalienable right to look down your nose at people.

Re: torn!!
 

Are you kidding? I'm like a celebrity in my company at the moment. A slightly overweight nerdy one, I might add.

Re: torn!!
 

I wasn't going to rise to this, but sod it...... what a load of Crap..... with a capital C....

I met my husband online, and he's fat - look at the pictures in my gallery - oh, and he's also a gamer and plane freak... so could be classed as a 'nerd'..... does that mean we don't have a great relationship -erm NO... does it make him incapable of loving me any less than a stereotypical drop dead gorgeous yank with big muscles that earns 150k a year.... erm NO. If anything he goes out of his way to prove that looks and nerdiness are irrelevant.

The serial killer thing - fair enough - but as someone else said, you have more chance of meeting one of those in a bar than online because you don't get the chance to really check that person out before you end up alone with them.

I find the whole fat and nerd thing totally shallow. Try judging people on who they are and not what they first appear to be.

To the OP - Go with what YOU want to do, just make sure you are careful and plan things properly.

Re: torn!!
 

You made that comment in the wrong place, hon. :p I'm willing to bet a large number of people on this site met their other halves online, including myself. I was just looking for some peeps to hang out with while I was in Scotland, and then along came my future husband. Fast forward 6 1/2 years later, we've been married for 5 years.

Don't knock it til ya try it!:thumbsup:

Re: torn!!
 

This has been done before on BE but I would love to see an updated version of who actually met online and who met through friends or in a bar etc.

Re: torn!!
 

I met my ex-wife online.

Re: torn!!
 

I was joking.

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I met my ex hubby online and I am sure like myself, that meeting online had nothing to do with the divorce.

The guy I am dating at the moment I met online, I would rather go cyber shopping lol. ;)