Ive had enough, I want to go home :(
Jun 11th 2007, 8:32 pm
#212
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Jun 12th 2007, 1:54 pm
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Re: Ive had enough, I want to go home :(
Thanks for the replies. I wouldnt know where to start describing the problems! Its mainly lack of money and US red tape I guess. We have 4 kids, 2 are teens and we cant afford anything. We came here after years of trying really hard and did want to be here. Its such a shock to find out we dont like it. We are on the work visa for now, they are just starting the green card off. Dh has a good job for a big company and we have a nice house, so I feel guilty that we arent happy sometimes. But we are very isolated and broke.
Ive heard it can be a stage, I just seem to be going mad thinking about it. We go through phases of thinking we want to stay and we will try and make it all work, but then we go back to wanting to leave. Lately Ive just wanted to get on a plane and leave everything here. I just dont know what to do. I really couldnt face another country now and going through all this again, we had thought of Italy, but dont want the hassle. We just want to be settled.
We havent seen family since we moved over, as we cant afford the flights and neither can they.
We did make lots of lists and they pretty much canceled each other out, so it ended up even
Ive heard it can be a stage, I just seem to be going mad thinking about it. We go through phases of thinking we want to stay and we will try and make it all work, but then we go back to wanting to leave. Lately Ive just wanted to get on a plane and leave everything here. I just dont know what to do. I really couldnt face another country now and going through all this again, we had thought of Italy, but dont want the hassle. We just want to be settled.
We havent seen family since we moved over, as we cant afford the flights and neither can they.
We did make lots of lists and they pretty much canceled each other out, so it ended up even
Jun 13th 2007, 10:09 am
#214
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Re: Ive had enough, I want to go home :(
It took me about 5 to 6 years to know I was settled in Spain, now here 26 years. OK, it is not so far away from family but at least there is no foreign language to get a grip with in the US, well not really. lol
I guess the main problem is missing family. E-mail, skype, webcams, it's just not the same is it? Unfortunately missing family alone can create others or at least make them seem worse than they really are.
I must warn you though, the UK and Europe are not what they where, it is not only immigration problems but even countries like Spain, Italy, Germany and Portugal are getting more and more expensive, the UK is frightning as to the extent that money is taken off you, the standard of services have dropped and I get the feeling that many people "especially the young" have become quite loutish (Maybe I'm just getting older. lol). Other countries that joined the EU over the last several or so years are all following suit. The British say that Spain, Italy and Portugal are cheap, well they are compaired to the UK but just ask the locals what they think about what's cheap, they will totally disagree as the prices in these EU countries have soared along with taxes and are still going up, some of our local taxes jump up to 70% at a time here, Spain fines you for using a ridiculously low amount of electric because they say it is too much to use... all these stupid excuses for getting more taxes, just as in the UK.
I am sure it is difficult dealing with the problems where you are but just make sure you know what you would be getting into if you where to leave, it would be great to soulve problems you might have in the USA but be carefull you won't actually be replacing them with others in Europe if leaving.
Hope it works out for you whatever you end up doing.
BTW, want to swap places with us in Spain? lol
I guess the main problem is missing family. E-mail, skype, webcams, it's just not the same is it? Unfortunately missing family alone can create others or at least make them seem worse than they really are.
I must warn you though, the UK and Europe are not what they where, it is not only immigration problems but even countries like Spain, Italy, Germany and Portugal are getting more and more expensive, the UK is frightning as to the extent that money is taken off you, the standard of services have dropped and I get the feeling that many people "especially the young" have become quite loutish (Maybe I'm just getting older. lol). Other countries that joined the EU over the last several or so years are all following suit. The British say that Spain, Italy and Portugal are cheap, well they are compaired to the UK but just ask the locals what they think about what's cheap, they will totally disagree as the prices in these EU countries have soared along with taxes and are still going up, some of our local taxes jump up to 70% at a time here, Spain fines you for using a ridiculously low amount of electric because they say it is too much to use... all these stupid excuses for getting more taxes, just as in the UK.
I am sure it is difficult dealing with the problems where you are but just make sure you know what you would be getting into if you where to leave, it would be great to soulve problems you might have in the USA but be carefull you won't actually be replacing them with others in Europe if leaving.
Hope it works out for you whatever you end up doing.
BTW, want to swap places with us in Spain? lol
Last edited by spaino; Jun 13th 2007 at 10:19 am. Reason: Typos
Jun 13th 2007, 10:22 am
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Re: Ive had enough, I want to go home :(
Latest computer predictions say that the last Brit will leave some time around 2pm on Thursday 09 August 2007. All lights will be left on for the benefit of the Poles, the Czechs, the Slovaks, the Estonians, the Lithuanians, the Somalis, the Romanians, the Bulgarians, the Afghans, the Latvians, the Slovenians.....................................
Jun 13th 2007, 10:50 am
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Re: Ive had enough, I want to go home :(
Latest computer predictions say that the last Brit will leave some time around 2pm on Thursday 09 August 2007. All lights will be left on for the benefit of the Poles, the Czechs, the Slovaks, the Estonians, the Lithuanians, the Somalis, the Romanians, the Bulgarians, the Afghans, the Latvians, the Slovenians.....................................
Jun 13th 2007, 11:06 am
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Re: Ive had enough, I want to go home :(
Latest computer predictions say that the last Brit will leave some time around 2pm on Thursday 09 August 2007. All lights will be left on for the benefit of the Poles, the Czechs, the Slovaks, the Estonians, the Lithuanians, the Somalis, the Romanians, the Bulgarians, the Afghans, the Latvians, the Slovenians.....................................
Jun 14th 2007, 11:31 am
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Re: Ive had enough, I want to go home :(
Hi, Im new here. We are realising we really dont want to be here (in the USA), but family keep telling us not to go back to the Uk. I would really appreciate some feedback!
They tell us the place has gone really bad since we left several years ago and now they are scareing us with stories of mass European immigrants bombarding the country and taking over etc etc. I dont know how true it is, or if they just dont want us to go back lol
I want to make the right choice and stick by it, but right now we are having trouble deciding. Im going quite mad with it all
Plus we are really skint and there is 50c to every uk pound, which makes it impossible to save anything useful for moving back. We havent been back since we moved here and Im wondering if we could just be homesick, but that doesnt take the problems away. I could go on for days about the problems here lol
Help !
They tell us the place has gone really bad since we left several years ago and now they are scareing us with stories of mass European immigrants bombarding the country and taking over etc etc. I dont know how true it is, or if they just dont want us to go back lol
I want to make the right choice and stick by it, but right now we are having trouble deciding. Im going quite mad with it all
Plus we are really skint and there is 50c to every uk pound, which makes it impossible to save anything useful for moving back. We havent been back since we moved here and Im wondering if we could just be homesick, but that doesnt take the problems away. I could go on for days about the problems here lol
Help !
Aug 2nd 2007, 8:52 am
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Re: Ive had enough, I want to go home :(
Judging by the number of Americans moving to the UK there must be something attractive about the place. I fell in love with USA but after moving there it wasn't long before I realised it's many shortcomings. If your main focus in life is money, if you are willing to lead a parochial existence,if you lack a sense of social responsibility, if you accept that friends are friends when it suits them etc, etc it's a great place to be. I returned to the UK and for all it's failings it's still the greatest place on this planet. My advice is to move back if you are able.
Aug 2nd 2007, 9:52 am
#220
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Re: Ive had enough, I want to go home :(
Judging by the number of Americans moving to the UK there must be something attractive about the place. I fell in love with USA but after moving there it wasn't long before I realised it's many shortcomings. If your main focus in life is money, if you are willing to lead a parochial existence,if you lack a sense of social responsibility, if you accept that friends are friends when it suits them etc, etc it's a great place to be. I returned to the UK and for all it's failings it's still the greatest place on this planet. My advice is to move back if you are able.
dont worry we are moving back end of September 
Aug 2nd 2007, 10:44 am
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Re: Ive had enough, I want to go home :(
All the Polish people in London are superb. You can get a cheap cleaner and cheap builders and they all actually work rather than drink tea all day and overcharge you. Don't know what the fuss is about. Although I do think I may be the only person in Putney with an English accent - everyone's from South Africa.
Aug 2nd 2007, 11:13 am
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Re: Ive had enough, I want to go home :(
Judging by the number of Americans moving to the UK there must be something attractive about the place. I fell in love with USA but after moving there it wasn't long before I realised it's many shortcomings. If your main focus in life is money, if you are willing to lead a parochial existence,if you lack a sense of social responsibility, if you accept that friends are friends when it suits them etc, etc it's a great place to be. I returned to the UK and for all it's failings it's still the greatest place on this planet. My advice is to move back if you are able.
But I'm sure you know this I hope
is not everyone who comes here and loves it, ie me feels that way
I am glad you are happy now in the UK and I wish you well.
But coming in here making sweeping derogatory generalisations not only about a country but about people (UK and US) that are happy here I would suggest might not be the best way to make friends here.
Aug 2nd 2007, 12:50 pm
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Re: read it and weep
He attempts to paint Britain as worst in Europe which somehow includes New York City but not the US. Just off the top of my head, teenage pregnancy rates are sky high here in the US as is obesity, many urban centres are no-go areas anyway without teenage binge-drinking, divorce rates are extremely high but then they are in Muslim countries where women have no rights.
You're right - teenage pregnancy in the US exceeds that of the UK, but according to this it's declining - which is good.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Teenage_pregnancy
Country Teenage birth rate
per 1000 women 15-19
South Korea 3
Netherlands 5
Tunisia 7
Australia 16
United Kingdom 20
Russia 30
United States 53
Indonesia 55
South Africa 66
Brazil 73
Bangladesh 117
Niger 233
