Dollars for wedding presents!
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Agree ...... manners dictate you don't put info about a registry/gifts etc in the invitation, but guests will ask mum, dad, bridesmaids, what is being done with regards gifts, and that's when they say "well they will be moving to the US immediately after the wedding, so actually cash gifts would be the most suitable"
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Why not just have a Money Dance?
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Hey, we got married shortly before our move over here. We didn't put anything in the invite as we felt that was bad manners but we asked both sets of parents to spread the word that cash/gift vouchers would be most suitable given our situation. Just about everyone did this apart from those who wanted to give us special gifts which are in storage at my Mums house - these are timeless pieces. We were happy to get gift cards since we used these to buy our new luggage etc, I also ended up actually selling some unused ones to my Mum. I wouldn't specify currency, no doubt since you are moving anyway you will have to do some kind of money transfer.
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Cash is king! gift cards require you to shop at their store.
American wedding gifts have always been money as the primary gift. And I seem to notice that UK follows the US culture like a lapdog these days.
American wedding gifts have always been money as the primary gift. And I seem to notice that UK follows the US culture like a lapdog these days.
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We were living in Germany, but got married in the UK, we knew we were going to be stationed elsewhere pretty soon after the Wedding (possibly the USA) and had pretty much all the dishes/glasses etc that we needed. This was 26 years ago (next month) and we didn't feel we were being disrespectful to let guests know that we would appreciate monetary gifts as opposed to anything else.
The only people that got upset by our request, were the US side of the family, they didn't come to the Wedding and didn't even send a card, but that's a different story!
The only people that got upset by our request, were the US side of the family, they didn't come to the Wedding and didn't even send a card, but that's a different story!
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Thank you people, some good points for things to watch out for and interesting to see how etiquette has changed over the past two hundred years or so!
These days, I'd suggest it's quite bad manners to criticise and belittle another's wedding plans and pick at the grammar of a person asking a simple, friendly question. Maybe I'm more European than I realise (or realiZe...whichever will provoke the least abuse here), maybe I just don't have enough free time on my hands to take offence at the choices other people make in life and feel obliged to voice my outrage.
These days, I'd suggest it's quite bad manners to criticise and belittle another's wedding plans and pick at the grammar of a person asking a simple, friendly question. Maybe I'm more European than I realise (or realiZe...whichever will provoke the least abuse here), maybe I just don't have enough free time on my hands to take offence at the choices other people make in life and feel obliged to voice my outrage.
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Thank you people, some good points for things to watch out for and interesting to see how etiquette has changed over the past two hundred years or so!
These days, I'd suggest it's quite bad manners to criticise and belittle another's wedding plans and pick at the grammar of a person asking a simple, friendly question. Maybe I'm more European than I realise (or realiZe...whichever will provoke the least abuse here), maybe I just don't have enough free time on my hands to take offence at the choices other people make in life and feel obliged to voice my outrage.
These days, I'd suggest it's quite bad manners to criticise and belittle another's wedding plans and pick at the grammar of a person asking a simple, friendly question. Maybe I'm more European than I realise (or realiZe...whichever will provoke the least abuse here), maybe I just don't have enough free time on my hands to take offence at the choices other people make in life and feel obliged to voice my outrage.




