Yes totally agree with you there...but in my case we haven't got a mortgage we're privately renting a house, you know so if we did go our separate ways it wouldn't be messy as there would be nothing to divide up. I hope that doesn't happen but you never know in life do you...

That's perfectly fine, but you will probably find that your choice of lifestyle is not compatible with moving to the US.

I'm sorry, but that is frankly a bloody stupid thing to say when you have a child together.

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You are already committed to each other for about the next 18 years but don't have a right to his money, property, pension, or any other financial assets if you break up. You could possibly end up being a single mom living in poverty which not only affects you but also the child.

I really dont know why im even discussing what would happen if we split that isnt even happening, we're VERY happy, the fact is we're just not married which really isnt a big deal, thousands of people decide not to get married. Im a stay at home mum yes but even if i did become a single mum, i run my own business from home so financially i am stable...Any way im not discussing my life any more i dont need to justify how i live my life.

I knew before i asked the question it would be easier for me to go across with my partner if we were married which is why i wanted to find if it was possibly for an unmarried couple to move to the states

Well I think you have your answer now. To all intents and purposes, it is virtually impossible for you to join your partner and live in the USA permanently unless you get married (or qualify for a visa of your own, independently).

What would happen to your business if you had a B2 visa...because you cannot work while you're in the US...even working remotely?

Sorry! But I can't help myself! As I used to feel very similar to you. That's why I have to carry on this discussion even though you don't want to, haha. My parents got divorced and so did my husband's. We didn't believe in marriage. We were happy, in love and unmarried and also had a small child. But then I started asking myself why was I so against marriage and I started to slowly change my thinking. Then we made a joint decision to get married (no getting down on one knee here!) when our first child was about 1.

Reasons were:

1. Romantic. (It was on the beach in Mauritius, I was wearing flip-flops and a lovely dress I got on ebay for 25 quid. Daughter was there with us but no one else.)
2. No need for wills etc anymore.
3. The possibility that we would want to move to the US (hubby is american).

I never regretted it and it's one of the best memories I have. It didn't change anything between us, except for the better actually.

Just saying that you shouldn't be against it, especially if you do end up wanting to move to the US. No need to go and google tropical weddings just now but please keep in mind what I said! Sorry again!

It's always a good idea to have wills, even if you are married.

Rene

Haha, I knew someone would say that and I agree. But not AS important.

So the bottom line is, yes it's possible if you've been cohabitating. But you won't be able to work while physically inside the USA, not even freelancing or self-employed or for a UK company or if the money goes into an account in the UK.

Rene

If you take nothing else away from this thread it should be that where family-based immigration to the USA is concerned, being married is a big deal.

Regards, JEff

And all I can say is that if you're happy with the person you're with...being married to that person is a wonderful experience and makes many things much, much easier.

Don't be sorry, you're one of out few that doesn't seem to be judging me for not being married
I don't think i'm against marriage i do want to get married one day just not right now =] the move to US isn't a definite thing he just sprung it on me the other day, that he may get offered this job in America and i just panicked cause i knew i would find it hard getting out there as we're not married.

I mean we've been living together for 3 years and have a daughter so i'm sure we will get married at some point in the future...i just don't want to marry just to move to America i don't think it should be like that cause it'll be rushed and it's suppose to be the happiest day of your life it just wouldn't feel right.

[QUOTE=Noorah101;10605641]So the bottom line is, yes it's possible if you've been cohabitating. But you won't be able to work while physically inside the USA, not even freelancing or self-employed or for a UK company or if the money goes into an account in the UK.

Rene[/QUOTE

Thank you for the info I have a lot to think about!