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As much as I'm pro-choice, if I ever found out that my wife had aborted a child of mine without involving me I'd be utterly devastated. If the mother and father are together, it MUST be a joint decision. Surely love trumps feminism in this case?
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if your relationship had reached a point where your wife couldn't communicate with you on this subject then I think the marriage is over.
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Not necessarily so, if she knows that he would be stoked at the idea of becoming a father, but she's not keen on the idea of being a mother. It's a minefield of emotion, and that's why both should be involved. Once she cried and gave me the eyes I'd probably crumble anyway. My point is, in many cases it's not as simple as 'it's my body I'll make the decisions'
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Not necessarily so, if she knows that he would be stoked at the idea of becoming a father, but she's not keen on the idea of being a mother. It's a minefield of emotion, and that's why both should be involved. Once she cried and gave me the eyes I'd probably crumble anyway. My point is, in many cases it's not as simple as 'it's my body I'll make the decisions'
If I became pregnant and there were reasons why I wanted/needed to end it and my husband said no you're having it. I would be single and child free pretty fast. I think.
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Ultimately it is though. You and your wife could discuss it until the cows come home but as you say she cries and gives the eyes you give in. If you don't give in you're forcing her against your will. I haven't looked back but I think it was this thread I said if you're in a relationship you discuss it but no reasonable man is going to force his woman to carry a child she's violently against for whatever reason.
If I became pregnant and there were reasons why I wanted/needed to end it and my husband said no you're having it. I would be single and child free pretty fast. I think.
If I became pregnant and there were reasons why I wanted/needed to end it and my husband said no you're having it. I would be single and child free pretty fast. I think.
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Not necessarily so, if she knows that he would be stoked at the idea of becoming a father, but she's not keen on the idea of being a mother. It's a minefield of emotion, and that's why both should be involved. Once she cried and gave me the eyes I'd probably crumble anyway. My point is, in many cases it's not as simple as 'it's my body I'll make the decisions'
If a guy is concerned about unintended pregnancies he should have used protection.
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Well for god's sake wear a rubber. take the pill or have a vasectomy. How anybody with a reasonable education could end up accidentally pregnant these days is beyond me
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Yeah I do agree wrt reasonable men etc, and ultimately the woman is going to do what she feels she needs to. A blanket 'it's my body, it's my decision' approach I feel is pretty heartless though. Let me put it this way, if my wife wanted one, and discussed it with me I'd get over it eventually, and I'd support her at the time even if I didn't agree. If though I found out she aborted my child 20 years ago, and kept it from me, I'd walk even now.
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Understandably. However the main point of the tread is that some random men/strangers believe they have the right to determine what every woman does with her body. It's not her husband, it's government. If you and your wife agreed that a termination was necessary I don't think you'd be too happy to have some senator telling you you can't because he believes in some random section of a fairy story.
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I plan to get snipped soon, of course, so it'll become moot for me, but there should still be the legal option of abortion for those who make the choice to have it.
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Understandably. However the main point of the tread is that some random men/strangers believe they have the right to determine what every woman does with her body. It's not her husband, it's government. If you and your wife agreed that a termination was necessary I don't think you'd be too happy to have some senator telling you you can't because he believes in some random section of a fairy story.
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Just money standing in the way at the moment. My insurance company website estimates about $400.00, which isn't exactly big bucks, but there are other places we need to spend that just now.
Bloke in work just had one though and his bollocks were going through hell for about a week longer than they should have been. Almost put me off, then I thought of not being able to have more children and never having to use another ****ing johnny ever again for the rest of my life, and was back on board.
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Just money standing in the way at the moment. My insurance company website estimates about $400.00, which isn't exactly big bucks, but there are other places we need to spend that just now.
Bloke in work just had one though and his bollocks were going through hell for about a week longer than they should have been. Almost put me off, then I thought of not being able to have more children and never having to use another ****ing johnny ever again for the rest of my life, and was back on board.
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