Sin Sot - Help Please
#31
This is an overstatement. I'm sure decent people will not compare other human being with animals no matter how bad that person is or where they come from.
I will agree if you refer this as a class bigotry. But hey, class systems have been practicing in the UK and still pretty much alive. Let's face it, around the world people in the capital city generally make country folks small, see them as less sophisticated. This attitude is not unique to Thais. Be fair.
I will agree if you refer this as a class bigotry. But hey, class systems have been practicing in the UK and still pretty much alive. Let's face it, around the world people in the capital city generally make country folks small, see them as less sophisticated. This attitude is not unique to Thais. Be fair.
#32
I was living in Bangkok at the end of the Thaksin era, and the subsequent bitterness between reds/yellows (which is still going on). I'd say the attitude of bangkok people went a lot further than thinking people from rural areas were unsophisticated country bumpkins. Especially amongst the more hi-so yellows.
Maybe once the old money/new money problems have been sorted out things will be different and their won't be such divisions.
Maybe once the old money/new money problems have been sorted out things will be different and their won't be such divisions.
A humorous side note to this for me was during the redshirt protests . My wife's family hailing from the NE are all staunch reds and my SIL was a big organiser of people for demos etc ( she got sent to Cambodia to meet Thaksin ) . We had arranged to meet another SIL by Queen Sirikit Park on Viphivadi Rangsit Road as she was taking our kids for the day . The trucks would all have met up in Pathum Thani previously as this was a good place to get together and so the would be coming into BKK on Viphivadi .
I didn't know what to expect really when we met up but I didn't expect a massive convoy of pickups with flags etc coming my way . Got a lot of strange looks when they all pulled over at the side of the road to speak to the whitey and take his kids !!
#33
Isaan : stupid
BKK : clever and cheating
South : Black heart
North : not as stupid as Isaan but still slow !
#35
Many centuries ago a bride's family needed to pay sin-sot to the groom, or another way round depending on the mutual agreement, so that he could move in and helped with the farming or planting. Nowadays all native Thais still prefer daughters to sons, as they can look after their parents until the end of life. But Chinese families like males, since they can pass on the family chain with surnames.
Things have changed quite a lot now due to the new laws and IT in Thailand. A missus is able to keep her surname if she wishes. Having said that, 'sin-sot thong mhan' (� ¸ª� ¸´� ¸™� ¸ª� ¸� ¸”� ¸—� ¸ � ¸‡� ¸«� ¸¡� ¸±� ¹‰� ¸™) is till common practice in the country. I feel a bit sad every time I hear about this sin-sot as a rip-off issue for farangs. Don't know how to change your attitudes toward it, as some good or bad bride's families do exist. It is certainly a matter of luck!
Very few female foreigners fall in love with Thai guys, possibly because of the sexual imbalance (too small?), appearance or financial background. A would-be wife does not need to do anything at all. Just go to see her hubby's family and behave properly. As far as I know, most Thai families now feel good about their foreign daughters-in-law, for they might think their sons are lucky enough to get foreign wives; their grandchildren would be good-looking like many 'look-kreung' (� ¸¥� ¸¹� ¸� ¸„� ¸£� ¸¶� ¹ˆ� ¸� �). Life is not fair to males, is it?
Things have changed quite a lot now due to the new laws and IT in Thailand. A missus is able to keep her surname if she wishes. Having said that, 'sin-sot thong mhan' (� ¸ª� ¸´� ¸™� ¸ª� ¸� ¸”� ¸—� ¸ � ¸‡� ¸«� ¸¡� ¸±� ¹‰� ¸™) is till common practice in the country. I feel a bit sad every time I hear about this sin-sot as a rip-off issue for farangs. Don't know how to change your attitudes toward it, as some good or bad bride's families do exist. It is certainly a matter of luck!
Very few female foreigners fall in love with Thai guys, possibly because of the sexual imbalance (too small?), appearance or financial background. A would-be wife does not need to do anything at all. Just go to see her hubby's family and behave properly. As far as I know, most Thai families now feel good about their foreign daughters-in-law, for they might think their sons are lucky enough to get foreign wives; their grandchildren would be good-looking like many 'look-kreung' (� ¸¥� ¸¹� ¸� ¸„� ¸£� ¸¶� ¹ˆ� ¸� �). Life is not fair to males, is it?
2 she didn't like his Thai man habits
3 she wasn't prepared to do all of the stuff
that Thai women do like cooking cleaning
ect.
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Yeah, I saw that on the news. Last time I was there (about a year ago) I had the impression that all this stuff had quietened down but not gone away.
I suspect that the succession will kick it all off again.
I suspect that the succession will kick it all off again.
#40
Have to see what happens , Thailand watching !! never boring .
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OMG. Starting with the issue of sin-sot, why end up with Thai males' habits and bloody Thai politics?
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Yeah, I've always sympathized with the reds because of this. The coup was bang out of order imo.
#44
Think it depends what is happening with the government at the time . Love or hate him Thaksin was a democratically elected PM ( twice with an overall majority , 1st time ever in Thai politics ) and the main beef of the reds was that he was kicked out in the coup . Now that his sister is in charge ( also democratically elected ) I can't see major problems ahead unless they tried to change the constitutional make-up of the country at that time ( succession ) , which with the other half alive ( presumably ) probably wouldn't happen .
Have to see what happens , Thailand watching !! never boring .
Have to see what happens , Thailand watching !! never boring .

The coup was military - and they handed over the reigns as they said they would do. There were several goverments before the democrats, which was as legal as the British coalition is, an amalgam of parties because not enough votes for any one. The Dems got in simply because earlier TRT aligned parties, some big ones, swapped sides (bit like Churchil walking across the floor in the Commons).
The Reds were not throwing out the coup makers - this is a myth that is continually put forward here - it is very wrong. They forced the collapse of a legitimate party with guns, bombs, vandalism and riots - they choked the political process with constant deflections and propaganda - we hear lots about the 30 baht medical Thaksin put in (whereby any Thai can get medical help for 30 baht - which was not subsidised properly and caused many rural clinics and hospitals to collapse) - but little is even known about the fact that the Dems brought in a properly funded free medical for the poor (which was quickly and quietly abandoned when Yingluck got in in favour of worthless popuar policies - like tablet PC's, rice price fix, first time new car buyer aid, minimum wage!). They were offered a fair election (early election) by the Dem PM (Abhisit) within the time frame they originally asked - and then were turned down flat - the government bent to their demands and yet they stayed camped out and building fired baracades of lorry tyres. There is absolutley nothing the Reds should be proud of in my opinion - and they are set to destroy the country economically now they are in charge.
They are up to their old tricks again - in fact further this time - we have schools being set up across the North East and other poor districts called Red Schools - these teach the kids the politics of the Reds in all that they do - brain washing (tell me how this is different from Communist schools of the same ilk - or even Islamic fundamentalist schools).
As to succession - the Governemnt can not change it in any way - only the King can do that. They have no remit for it and it would take a revolution to change that fact (besides the King has last Veto - he could simply stamp "Vetoed" on any such legislation). Succession will fall to the crown prince. There is still very, very strong feeling for the monarchy here (there is also very active Les Majeste laws) - no politicl party would outwardly suggest touching the monarchy in any way - it would be political (at least) suicide. It is a mute point here - no one wants to talk about it - and doing so will attract ire.
And the constitution here is rewritten all the time.
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Succession will fall to the crown prince. There is still very, very strong feeling for the monarchy here (there is also very active Les Majeste laws) - no politicl party would outwardly suggest touching the monarchy in any way - it would be political (at least) suicide. It is a mute point here - no one wants to talk about it - and doing so will attract ire.
Also, the strong feeling isn't for the monarchy per se, it's mainly for the king who has very carefully (some would say cynically) cultivated his image over the years. There's going to be a power struggle when he dies; I'd say living in Thailand for the few weeks after is a risky proposition. Maybe nothing will happen, maybe there will be lots of violence like in 92.




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