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Perhaps it's me, but I can't get over Bil's post about getting a blow job every morning, and getting married for that reason. I don't see too much wrong with that.
I'm happily married, again, but I don't get such pleasures.
I'm more likely to get a list of orders first thing. 'Clear up the dog shit, take the rubbish bin down because it smells etc etc.
The blow job sounds a good idea, even if it just shuts her up.
I'm happily married, again, but I don't get such pleasures.
I'm more likely to get a list of orders first thing. 'Clear up the dog shit, take the rubbish bin down because it smells etc etc.
The blow job sounds a good idea, even if it just shuts her up.
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Crikey,I must be doing something wrong.
I'm retired, married to the same woman I fell in love with, two healthy normal kids and a spring in my step every morning I wake up.
I drink like a fish, fornicate frequently, never get depressed, rarely get so much as a cold and enjoy every waking minute.
I'm also sure I'm in the majority.
Ain't life grand !
I'm retired, married to the same woman I fell in love with, two healthy normal kids and a spring in my step every morning I wake up.
I drink like a fish, fornicate frequently, never get depressed, rarely get so much as a cold and enjoy every waking minute.
I'm also sure I'm in the majority.
Ain't life grand !
Happened to a couple of friends of mine, one of which discovered later that the second child wasn't his. She wouldn't touch him but found enough libido to get pregnant by someone else.
If you are in a good relationship with an honest partner, then consider yourself fortunate. There's a lot of women out there whose reproductive strategy seems to be "Breed and move on."
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I look at the divorce statistics, and how many times I hear the same story. The kids come, her libido goes thru the floor and doesn't come back, he gets the glad eye from a passing female and thinks'Why not?' Then it's good by wife, kids and house.
Happened to a couple of friends of mine, one of which discovered later that the second child wasn't his. She wouldn't touch him but found enough libido to get pregnant by someone else.
If you are in a good relationship with an honest partner, then consider yourself fortunate. There's a lot of women out there whose reproductive strategy seems to be "Breed and move on."
Happened to a couple of friends of mine, one of which discovered later that the second child wasn't his. She wouldn't touch him but found enough libido to get pregnant by someone else.
If you are in a good relationship with an honest partner, then consider yourself fortunate. There's a lot of women out there whose reproductive strategy seems to be "Breed and move on."
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the only thing I would suggest is that it applies to men as well as women.
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Likewise breed and move on. Some are more monogamous and less promiscuous, others very promiscuous. You can see a reflection of that in humans.
Men and women have very different takes on sex.
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It might just have something to do with the fact that she gets sick of picking his dirty underwear up off the floor and doesn't find a beer gut/balding pate terribly attractive. Men are far more likely to "let themselves go", IMO - but still seem able to delude themselves that women should barely be able to keep their hands off them.
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It might just have something to do with the fact that she gets sick of picking his dirty underwear up off the floor and doesn't find a beer gut/balding pate terribly attractive. Men are far more likely to "let themselves go", IMO - but still seem able to delude themselves that women should barely be able to keep their hands off them.
many man go for the fully bald when a small patch appears
many women as well as men let themselves go as well, most of the nurses in my local hospital would fail a BMI as obese, and as to "the blobs" using my local shopping centre today - they are all under 30.
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Yes, there are too many obese people of both sexes, but you can bet your life the women are the ones whose self-image suffers because of it, the men are still thinking "she must be a lesbian" if someone doesn't welcome their advances!
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Yes, there are too many obese people of both sexes, but you can bet your life the women are the ones whose self-image suffers because of it, the men are still thinking "she must be a lesbian" if someone doesn't welcome their advances!
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It might just have something to do with the fact that she gets sick of picking his dirty underwear up off the floor and doesn't find a beer gut/balding pate terribly attractive. Men are far more likely to "let themselves go", IMO - but still seem able to delude themselves that women should barely be able to keep their hands off them.
The point being made was that when men get married/go into a relationshp, they think there's going to be guaranteed sex, and all too often they are heading for a very steep learning curve.
I liked what an agony aunt said to a woman who said she didn't want to have sex with her husband any more.
The AA basically said "When you got married, you effectively signed a contract that said there would be frequent, regular sex.
You are now in breach of that and if that's they way you want to go, then the only honest alternative is to divorce him and leave so he can be free to look for a better relationship."
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In my opinion for what it's worth, what's missing in a lot of failed marriages is friendship.
After the first excitement wears off then sex twenty times a day doesn't seem such a good idea as it once did.
When the practicalities of running a home looking after the children and working full time come into play then neither party has the energy left!
It's also not at all romantic washing a mans smelly socks... especially if he is one of the old school who thinks the little woman should be grateful for the privilege!
After forty years together... thirty tree of them married, I can honestly say that it's being each others best friend that's made it work for us and got us through the ups and downs of married life...not the sex, as great as it's always been!
After the first excitement wears off then sex twenty times a day doesn't seem such a good idea as it once did.
When the practicalities of running a home looking after the children and working full time come into play then neither party has the energy left!
It's also not at all romantic washing a mans smelly socks... especially if he is one of the old school who thinks the little woman should be grateful for the privilege!
After forty years together... thirty tree of them married, I can honestly say that it's being each others best friend that's made it work for us and got us through the ups and downs of married life...not the sex, as great as it's always been!
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In my opinion for what it's worth, what's missing in a lot of failed marriages is friendship.
After the first excitement wears off then sex twenty times a day doesn't seem such a good idea as it once did.
When the practicalities of running a home looking after the children and working full time come into play then neither party has the energy left!
It's also not at all romantic washing a mans smelly socks... especially if he is one of the old school who thinks the little woman should be grateful for the privilege!
After forty years together... thirty tree of them married, I can honestly say that it's being each others best friend that's made it work for us and got us through the ups and downs of married life...not the sex, as great as it's always been!![Smile](https://britishexpats.com/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif)
After the first excitement wears off then sex twenty times a day doesn't seem such a good idea as it once did.
When the practicalities of running a home looking after the children and working full time come into play then neither party has the energy left!
It's also not at all romantic washing a mans smelly socks... especially if he is one of the old school who thinks the little woman should be grateful for the privilege!
After forty years together... thirty tree of them married, I can honestly say that it's being each others best friend that's made it work for us and got us through the ups and downs of married life...not the sex, as great as it's always been!
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I look at the divorce statistics, and how many times I hear the same story. The kids come, her libido goes thru the floor and doesn't come back, he gets the glad eye from a passing female and thinks'Why not?' Then it's good by wife, kids and house.
Happened to a couple of friends of mine, one of which discovered later that the second child wasn't his. She wouldn't touch him but found enough libido to get pregnant by someone else.
If you are in a good relationship with an honest partner, then consider yourself fortunate. There's a lot of women out there whose reproductive strategy seems to be "Breed and move on."
Happened to a couple of friends of mine, one of which discovered later that the second child wasn't his. She wouldn't touch him but found enough libido to get pregnant by someone else.
If you are in a good relationship with an honest partner, then consider yourself fortunate. There's a lot of women out there whose reproductive strategy seems to be "Breed and move on."
I'm lucky, I suppose, because my missus goes like a train and always has done.
It probably helps that she's 16 years younger than me.
AND she runs our family business and let's me get on with whatever I want to do in my retirement.
Which is mainly her.
Outdoors.
Wahaay !
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In my opinion for what it's worth, what's missing in a lot of failed marriages is friendship.
After the first excitement wears off then sex twenty times a day doesn't seem such a good idea as it once did.
When the practicalities of running a home looking after the children and working full time come into play then neither party has the energy left!
It's also not at all romantic washing a mans smelly socks... especially if he is one of the old school who thinks the little woman should be grateful for the privilege!
After forty years together... thirty tree of them married, I can honestly say that it's being each others best friend that's made it work for us and got us through the ups and downs of married life...not the sex, as great as it's always been!![Smile](https://britishexpats.com/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif)
After the first excitement wears off then sex twenty times a day doesn't seem such a good idea as it once did.
When the practicalities of running a home looking after the children and working full time come into play then neither party has the energy left!
It's also not at all romantic washing a mans smelly socks... especially if he is one of the old school who thinks the little woman should be grateful for the privilege!
After forty years together... thirty tree of them married, I can honestly say that it's being each others best friend that's made it work for us and got us through the ups and downs of married life...not the sex, as great as it's always been!
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The thing I can't comprehend is why, if women know that men think with their balls, why do so many of you let their partners out with their nuts like tins of condensed milk?
Unless of course secretly you want to be rid of them?
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In my opinion for what it's worth, what's missing in a lot of failed marriages is friendship.
After the first excitement wears off then sex twenty times a day doesn't seem such a good idea as it once did.
When the practicalities of running a home looking after the children and working full time come into play then neither party has the energy left!
It's also not at all romantic washing a mans smelly socks... especially if he is one of the old school who thinks the little woman should be grateful for the privilege!
After forty years together... thirty tree of them married, I can honestly say that it's being each others best friend that's made it work for us and got us through the ups and downs of married life...not the sex, as great as it's always been!![Smile](https://britishexpats.com/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif)
After the first excitement wears off then sex twenty times a day doesn't seem such a good idea as it once did.
When the practicalities of running a home looking after the children and working full time come into play then neither party has the energy left!
It's also not at all romantic washing a mans smelly socks... especially if he is one of the old school who thinks the little woman should be grateful for the privilege!
After forty years together... thirty tree of them married, I can honestly say that it's being each others best friend that's made it work for us and got us through the ups and downs of married life...not the sex, as great as it's always been!
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friendship\relationship is the key, it wasnt when I met someone else (yeah I know I'm the scumbag husband) it was several years before when I realised that we were pulling in different directions. I was working all the hours to get in enough to live and she was complaining that her friend had got herself a new car. She was sitting at home all day and friend was working nightshifts as a nurse.
when I tried to talk about it all she could say was "you don't know what I want!". I still don't, never been able to work it out, never will. I just had to get out of a one sided relationship that was stiffling me and effecting everyone around me.
As you get older either you grow together or grow apart.
and I never ever remember sex every day in that relationship before children, letalone after. I will not embarrass myself here in quoting her actual statement.
so Retirement - is it easy ? don't know, but will let you know a little later on in my life, all I know is that I am relaxed with my partner and thats always been the way since we first met.
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