Domino

...thats the problem with the naivety of youth - its nothing like the reality of life but theres only one way to find out

people keep telling me I am wrong in calling it a "vertical learning curve" but they come round in the end.

Dick Dasterdly

The secret is always to remain firmly in the driving seat without ever giving the faintest impression of being a control freak.
Give them a slack rein over minor things but keep a sharp eye out for pitfalls.
Always remain in a position to jump ship if the journey starts to get a bit rocky, without having to pay a heavy price, other than the usual tantrums and flying pots and pans.
I think I've been pretty well battle hardened in that respect.
I've been once almost bitten badly and many times shy when the warning bells began to sound.
Felt the old butterflies many times, but have yet to lose a nights sleep, apart from one who threatened to do me in, in the middle of the night.

Play your cards right, thats the big secret

Domino

living in navy mess decks you learn early on the problems, when you see guys who end up hitting the bottle because of a woman or two. one guy with 2 kids, ruined his second marriage before 27.

looking back the job was a young man's but then we had to grow up quickly and it becomes very easy when looking for stability at home without having to rely on parents to want a warm body waiting for you when you get home after a period at sea with only sweaty male bodies for company.

bil

I always say that a man can easily see how much respect his wife has for him.

All he needs to ask himself is, 'Am I getting less sex since the kids came along?'

Simple question, tells you everything you need to know.

Domino

as i explained to my daughter, you get married and as time goes by you will either grow closer together or grow apart. in our case we grew apart.
She understood what I was saying as she was growing up she knew we were not happy with each other.

bil

It's a very common thing. The kids come along, and you are retired to second position if you are lucky.

Chiclanagir

Just found this thread so here is my two pennyworth.

My OH loves being retired. He loves his golf and his settee. Not sure which order.

Me - nope, I love living here most of the time but if I could be working I would prefer it. I enjoy going to Zumba, reading, using my Spanish etc. but it doesn´t exactly exercise my brain the way that work did.

If I moved back to the UK one of the first things I would do would be to try to get a part time job.

Domino

never second bil, the dog\cat is always before us mere males
we are useless now we have done our marital duty the magic time

bil

Sadly, in a lot of cases you have it right.

HBG

Perhaps it's me, but I can't get over Bil's post about getting a blow job every morning, and getting married for that reason. I don't see too much wrong with that.

I'm happily married, again, but I don't get such pleasures.

I'm more likely to get a list of orders first thing. 'Clear up the dog shit, take the rubbish bin down because it smells etc etc.

The blow job sounds a good idea, even if it just shuts her up.

bil

Yeah, conditional sex. You don't get that before wedding/kids, that's a later thing.

If you got a blowjob every morning, it really would be worth getting married. I wonder how many men would get married if they realised what actually was likely to happen.

I once listened to what Paris Hilton was saying, and I have to say that IMO the most intelligent thing to have ever come out of her mouth was a man's cock.

Ever seen any of that porn film she made? One night in Paris? I saw part of it, and let's face it, sex with a young blond should be pretty horny. I have never seen such a boring porn film in all my life. I've seen a few when the female is clearly reading a script that goes something along the lines of "Oh yes. Oh yes. Give it to me big boy" etc tc ad nauseam.

That can be less than erotic, but Paris... Never have I seen a female look so bored and disinterested during sex.

Dick Dasterdly

Bloody hell lads, you're a right depressing, miserable lot tonight.
There's a fair amount of truth in what you say when the kids come along, but fortunately in my case I wasn't on rations for very long, otherwise I might have been on my bike even sooner.
As it was I managed to stay mostly on the straight and narrow for most of my years with the ball and chain, probably more due to pressure of work than anything else.
However once the kids were up and the male menopause hit me, thats when life really began, leastways it happened that way for me anyway.
Got divorced, retired early not exactly in the best of health, but fit enough to begin making up for lost time, bigtime.
I can honestly say after that, all my wildest fantasies came true and a few others besides that I'd never even dreamed of.
Unfortunately time and fast living has caught up with me so I've slowed down quite a bit now and although I'm not as good as I once was, I still like to kid myself that I'm as good once as I ever was.

Cuthbert Rizla

Crikey,I must be doing something wrong.
I'm retired, married to the same woman I fell in love with, two healthy normal kids and a spring in my step every morning I wake up.
I drink like a fish, fornicate frequently, never get depressed, rarely get so much as a cold and enjoy every waking minute.
I'm also sure I'm in the majority.
Ain't life grand !

scampicat

My husband and I have been happily married for forty years on October 2nd.

He has aways been the most important person in my life since the day I met him. I agree that when children are small their needs are more immediate. But not more important. How sad that the person you fell in love with should be pushed into second place.

agoreira

Yes, we have clocked up forty as well, unlike a lot here, they seem to be on second or third time around, and still think they are the answer to a maiden's prayer!