lynnxa

My 12 year old dd started asking for a nose stud for her last birthday in Feb. I said not before she finished primary school, so we'd discuss it then, & if she got an excellent report we'd see.
Of course she finished primary school in June & got an excellent report (top 2%), and still wanted it done so I took her to a local jewellers, and I have to admit it looks fine. Really pretty & discreet, and tbh I'm just glad she actually wants something feminine!

I know I would not have let her have it done in the UK, cos unless it has changed, they wouldn't have allowed her to wear it at school, but it's different here. DH wasn't exactly keen, but even he has to admit it's OK.

Of course she now wants a belly button stud, and second holes in her ears. The ears I've no problem with now, and the belly button not til she's at least 16 as long as she has a wash board tummy, and she's happy with that.

what do you think - is she too young?

and am I at 48 too old? I quite fancy a nose stud myself now, and I've always said I want a tattoo before I'm 50..........

so, opinions please!

Mitzyboy

My daughter was the same but I didn't allow it until she was later on in teens. For one thing it caused problems at school. I think when she did have it done she had tongue, nose and ears ... this continued through uni but she has got rid of most now.

Its down to individual choice, but I didn't allow it until she had finished CSE exams. And I'm afraid as for tatoos I wouldn't have allowed it until she was 18 and maybe in a better position to consider the possible consequences.

Her boyfriend has a complete arm of tatoos. He had a straight through nose bar, lips (3) and eyebrow.

lynnxa

Oy!!

you deleted the wrong one, where's Sam's reply gone

tongue & eyebrow piercing is NO WAY happening !(jeez don't I sound likethe heavy parent now?) Tattoos if she wants, but not before she's 18.......I think that's the law anyway

what about me though?

am I too old?

Mitzyboy

Ooops sorry.
Yes, you're far too old

lynnxa

love you too

I didn't ask for honesty

Mitzyboy

Ahhhhh OK

You're never too old

Debrina

My son pestered me for tatoos and piercings when he was 14 ,15 ,16 and 17...I said a definte NO !! He wanted a snake with a sword al down his harm and something on his back !!
I said once he was 18 ..I had no control over what he did with his body he could do what he wanted.
He was 18 last january..and 2 months later came back with a very discreet piercing in the top of his ear...but no tatoos !! I think he now realizes that now he can do what he wants....he doesn't want to!!

bil

The best advice I can give any parent is to learn how to prevaricate and put off.

It worked very well for me on a number of occasions.

Golden rule on tats, nothing that can't be easily covered by everyday clothing, and think about it very carefully. Most tats fade in the sun and look tacky.

Piercings, well, I don't like piercings facially other than for one set of earrings. More just starts to look tacky IMO

My daughter had a nose stud that got infected and that left a scar.

One really important detail. When you get a piercing, always get a solid silver insert. Silver is a massive anti bacterial and can prevent infections. Bear in mind that infections from a piercing can cause a very nasty problem, so it's best to do all you can to avoid it.

Mitzyboy

Uncle Bil ...... you know everything

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Its a good job someone does on here!

bil

You are very kind. I have a collection of odd knowledge which is sometimes useful, sometimes not.

Mitzyboy

and sometimes we understand what you are talking about ..... sometimes we dont ....

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How can you say that!!!

I always understand what bil is talking about!

Mitzyboy

Hello Pinnochio

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You talking to me?