Only you can answer that Amber - personally I wouldn't like to be parted from my family for long but then everyones situation is different. House selling is such a risky business, it took us 15 months to sell ours and then we had to reduce the price. But it was worth it as we moved to Spain in May and just in time to escape the British summer I can only send positive vibes for your viewing on Friday and wish you the very best of luck. It isn't easy to relocate, you have to put some effort into it and think positive Karma on it's way

Hi Amber, good luck on Friday although I am going out with my OH until we have a business up and running he will be commuting back to the UK to earn some money. Not ideal, but necessary in the short term. Let us know how you get on.

Have just been to see my parents who only live 10 minutes away, I was discussing our impending move to Spain. Big mistake!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My mother who I love dearly, got up and walked out of the room, crying as usual and would'nt even come back down to say goodbye. My father, bless him, cant wait for us to move so that he can come out and play golf and go fishing. The sooner the better for him. Which leaves me with one distraught parent and one who is happy for me. I tend to come away from my parents now and feel like the biggest arxxhole for putting my mother through this. I know I cant live my life for my parents, but has anyone else had a similar experience and got any advice for me

hi i feel the same my poor mum and dad are losing both me and my sister . my sister is moving to malta next year and im moving to spain the guilt i feel at times is bad but what can i do give up on my dream, and then regret it. as you say i dont know about you but my parents arent getting any younger. also my friends are already saying dont go so getting it all ways

Have just a phonecall from my dad to say that my mum is sobbing and can I go down and talk to her as he has now gone to work. I have no idea what to say, but I guess I'd better go down and see her. Wish me luck, I thing I may need it

sorry to hear that, my mums upset but she trys not to cry in front of me she said that i should live my life that they have had theres. any chance of them moving over with you.

Just give her a big hug, tell her you love herwhat more can you do

Amber

Not a chance, my mum is very stuck in her ways, I have two other sisters and she wouldnt leave them. I keep explaining that she can come out at anytime, she is now retired and my dad retires at xmas, but i guess she is too upset to see past us going at the moment.

Luckily my parents didn't seem to be too upset to see us go!

Although they did come up with a few reasons why it might not work out, on the whole I think whatever I do now they just kinda shrug and think 'what next?!'

Most people were really positive when we told them our plans to move, and I would say 99% of people said things like "Don't blame you", "Might as well, England's rubbish", "Do it while you're young!", "I wish I had done it when I was younger....." etc etc...

Try to not let your mom's reaction put you off. If you stayed just because of her objection you will always regret it and it may even turn into resentment that she held you back....I know I don't know her so I'm no judge really, but I would guess it is just a shock for her and with time she will come round to the idea.

Spain is hardly the other side of the world anyway! 2 hours on a plane - quicker than it takes to drive to some places in England. With cheap flights these days you can pop back regularly (and perhaps she can be tempted with free accommodation in the sun when she fancies a holiday! )

Of course she will be upset, my parents were upset when I said I was moving away to work on a holiday camp when I was 20. I told them it was just a holiday job and I would be back at the end of the summer - how was I to know I would meet the man of my dreams and get married 4+1/2 months later and never return home

In your case though, you will have to convince her that Spain isn't that far away and she will be welcome to visit. Good luck and I hope she comes round to accepting it

Thanks everyone, the rest of my friends and family are very positive and wish us well, its just, well she's my mum and even at 38 I still feel like I need her approval, and yet normally I just get on with my life and don't worry what other people think. Perhaps once where out there and she can see we are settled it will make a difference to her. Here's hoping

Hi

I cam over completely unprepared language and work wise and really struggled - but like all new places you move to - after the first 2 years it all starts falling into place and you start getting the hang of the place, forming friendships and generally building up contacts.
Remeber your reasons for moving in the first place. No country/ place is perfect so there will be plenty of things you like/ dislike and you'll miss the normal stuff you can get in the shops back home. But luckily home is really close. I'm from South Africa and its a long haul to the shops

All the best and enjoy all the moments.
Jacques

Thought I'd give you an up date, did'nt go to see my mum yesterday as she text to apologise and was clearly not ready to talk. So I sent her a very long text, explaining that I understand her concerns and that I love her very much and she can come over stay whenever and for as long as she likes. I did'nt hear anything back at that time. However I have seen her today as its my parents wedding anniversay and although she had clearly done a lot of crying her face was so puffy she was talkative and has now gone out for the day. I think maybe we needed a crisis to start the ball rolling and now we can only hopefully move forward and she will slowly come round and be a bit more accepting of the situation. Thanks to all of you that have been so kind, yesterday was a really awful day and you helped me a lot

hopefully things will turn out alright, i feel for your mum but you have to do what you want for you and your family. i will feel bad when i move as i will be leaving my two boys in the uk, i know they are older but it will still be hard

Hi ya,
so glad things are a bit better, really hope everything turns out ok for you and that your parents visit you as much as possible. You may find that they are always there!!!
Luv Eve
xx