help need please, dont know what to do !
Jun 20th 2011, 6:15 pm
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Re: help need please, dont know what to do !
thank you, I`ve been so worried all day, and couldn`t stop shaking earlier. I dont know what I`ll do if she isn`t on the plane
Jun 20th 2011, 8:40 pm
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I hope she succeeds in getting her children with her. That may prove a difficult task. fwiw my partner took that EZY route earlier today, all on time!
Jun 21st 2011, 4:28 pm
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Well what happened is she back?????????????The suspense is killing me
Jun 21st 2011, 4:56 pm
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Jun 21st 2011, 5:50 pm
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Whilst on the one hand I'm glad for her to be out of the situation, I can't imagine her feelings when (let's hope it's not, but....) she finds getting the children out 'retrospectively' proves a follow-up nightmare.
Jun 21st 2011, 6:29 pm
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Re: help need please, dont know what to do !
(quote)With regard to the children, and leaving them behind in Spain.
When the time comes to claim custody, The Spanish courts would look
favorably towards the Farther and In-laws,
citing abandonment of the children and the Mother having fled to the UK.!
without making any provisions for the children.
sorry to say, but this is a start of a very long road.!! )
All the best.
When the time comes to claim custody, The Spanish courts would look
favorably towards the Farther and In-laws,
citing abandonment of the children and the Mother having fled to the UK.!
without making any provisions for the children.
sorry to say, but this is a start of a very long road.!! )
All the best.
Jun 21st 2011, 6:33 pm
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Re: help need please, dont know what to do !
As she has been with her partner for 20 years the children may not be little tots, they could all be teenagers.
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Jun 25th 2011, 5:44 pm
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my daughter, who is nearly 40, has lived in Spain for nearly 20 yrs. She isn`t married, but has a partner who is Spanish. they have 5 children. She is now desperate to come back to the UK, she is being treated dreadfully, can`t go out alone, etc. She has no money, and no passport. She wants to come back and then try to get the children here. I just dont know what to do to help her, I`m not going to Spain till september. she said she has had enough, I feel she is very depressed, she also has her partners mother living with them. please can some advise me, she does have the internet though, but no landline. how can she get a passport ?
You must contact her nearest International Womens Club online for her. We have one in Valencia and they had the samem situation with a lady and helped her tremendously (before I arrived in Spain I was told about it during one of the meetings). Trust me they will help you and your daughter xxx any probs message me back Jean
Jun 25th 2011, 7:37 pm
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Hiya
You must contact her nearest International Womens Club online for her. We have one in Valencia and they had the samem situation with a lady and helped her tremendously (before I arrived in Spain I was told about it during one of the meetings). Trust me they will help you and your daughter xxx any probs message me back Jean
You must contact her nearest International Womens Club online for her. We have one in Valencia and they had the samem situation with a lady and helped her tremendously (before I arrived in Spain I was told about it during one of the meetings). Trust me they will help you and your daughter xxx any probs message me back Jean
Welcome to the forum.
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Jul 8th 2011, 9:52 pm
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I wanted to update you with what happened with my daughter. She went to the British Consul in Malaga and they phoned me, she went on her own. I had to fax my details and pay for han emergency passport, I then had to book her on a flight. her partner took away her mobile, so I had no way of even knowing if she was on the flight, but thank goodness, she was. She has had to leave the children behind, as she was too frightened to take them with her. she was given her boarding pass by the police 9 hrs before her flight, so that she could go through to the departure lounge, and he couldn`t get to her if he went to the airport, which he did.
This was 2 1/2 weeks ago, today the police in Malaga phoned my mother to see if she was there, my mother said she wasn`t but told them the name of the city where she is staying ! my daughter thinks he`s going to come over here. she said that a few months ago he said to her if ever she left him he would find her and kill her. He may have our address, as she left all her letters from us, and other family members over there, so he`ll have several addresses. We are going to the police to see what they can do.
This was 2 1/2 weeks ago, today the police in Malaga phoned my mother to see if she was there, my mother said she wasn`t but told them the name of the city where she is staying ! my daughter thinks he`s going to come over here. she said that a few months ago he said to her if ever she left him he would find her and kill her. He may have our address, as she left all her letters from us, and other family members over there, so he`ll have several addresses. We are going to the police to see what they can do.
Jul 9th 2011, 5:46 am
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Re: help need please, dont know what to do !
I wanted to update you with what happened with my daughter. She went to the British Consul in Malaga and they phoned me, she went on her own. I had to fax my details and pay for han emergency passport, I then had to book her on a flight. her partner took away her mobile, so I had no way of even knowing if she was on the flight, but thank goodness, she was. She has had to leave the children behind, as she was too frightened to take them with her. she was given her boarding pass by the police 9 hrs before her flight, so that she could go through to the departure lounge, and he couldn`t get to her if he went to the airport, which he did.
This was 2 1/2 weeks ago, today the police in Malaga phoned my mother to see if she was there, my mother said she wasn`t but told them the name of the city where she is staying ! my daughter thinks he`s going to come over here. she said that a few months ago he said to her if ever she left him he would find her and kill her. He may have our address, as she left all her letters from us, and other family members over there, so he`ll have several addresses. We are going to the police to see what they can do.
This was 2 1/2 weeks ago, today the police in Malaga phoned my mother to see if she was there, my mother said she wasn`t but told them the name of the city where she is staying ! my daughter thinks he`s going to come over here. she said that a few months ago he said to her if ever she left him he would find her and kill her. He may have our address, as she left all her letters from us, and other family members over there, so he`ll have several addresses. We are going to the police to see what they can do.
Hope all goes well.
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Jul 10th 2011, 7:14 am
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Re: help need please, dont know what to do !
I read a book last year called "Not without my daughter". Very moving.
Good luck to this family. It's very hard to leave even an abusive husband,
I know..and even harder to leave children, I imagine.
Good luck to this family. It's very hard to leave even an abusive husband,
I know..and even harder to leave children, I imagine.