scrubbedexpat141

I thought so too. Until I saw the bottle. Engraving small and on back.

What about a set of silver/metal Dunhill collar stiffies?

silversilver

At my friend's wedding she gave spa vouchers for the ladies/round of golf/restaurant vouchers for the men. Vouchers may seem impersonal but I had a lovely day at Marr Hall chilling at their spa. - Nothing stuck in a drawer there.

shiva

wow, either you're sick of the whole thing at this point or you probably shouldn't be bothering at all.

Ethos83

Oi!

I am looking forward to being married. The wedding itself? Just being pragmatic. It'll be a good time. My point is that as weddings go it's not going to be out of the ordinary. It's only important to the couple getting married and their parents. For everyone else it's just another wedding (and I say this as someone who's been a usher half dozen times and a best man once before).

Settled on the gift. A bottle of good scotch, a bottle of port and a bottle of decent claret per person. More than my initial budget but I'm happy and it has the SWMBO's approval.

Meow

You appear to be lacking in imagination. Why do exactly what everyone else does? I don't get the identikit approach to weddings that so many people follow. It's your wedding so you should make it personal to you, not just another wedding, same as everyone else's.

Millhouse

I don't think Ethos has done anything out of the ordinary in his whole life - give him a break.

Anyway, I'd get them a decent engraved key ring.

Bahtatboy

Yeah, but Dragonmart's a long way for Ethos to travel to.

Bahtatboy

I got married in my parents-in-law's front room, can't get much more personal than that. We then had a party at the Casablanca Club, which I'd forgotten about till just now (and I'm going to Casablanca tomorrow)

Ethos83

All I care about is being married and making her my wife. The wedding itself is what she wants. And I'm happy to go with the flow.

To be fair I have always enjoyed the traditional weddings. I like and appreciate the history, culture and tradition behind it.

Ethos83

Should I thank you?

Our lives are ordinary by the standards of our peers and we're happy with that. It's a pretty good life.

kittycat1

Personally I prefer gifts that mean something and give memories rather than more crap that we don't need, whats the point of giving crap for the sake of a formality, we all have so little time for each other with work etc so I'd go down the golfing day or dog racing route or something you can all do together.

failing that engraved bottle opener- at least it'll get used. but don't get it engraved with your wedding dates as thats naff give them a personal message each

I hope you are showing a little more enthusiasm to the future mrs ethos

Ethos83

The ring on her finger is pretty damn enthusiastic.

kittycat1

Ethos, honestly, you've started to sound rather underwhelmed recently- not just this thread. I hope you do actually want to do this?

Ethos83

All right. I don't express emotions easily.

I do love her. I want her to be my wife.

But I know that marriage to her means living a certain life. It's a life I always assumed I'd have so who's to complain. But sometimes I wonder what it'd be like to be with a different kind of woman? A different kind of life?

The marriage is going to be final. There's no going back. I'm not afraid of it but I think I will miss that potential opportunity to try something different.

ok. I'm off in a half hour for this weekend of unknown. But don't expect me to come back with tattoos.

kittycat1

Are you marrying Pippa Middleton? lol actually I'm sure she isn't posh enough

So what kind of other life?

The grass is always greener Ethos, it sounds like your bed is made to be fair, but also sounds like you have chosen it, but you could always change it if you really wanted to. You are in control of your life although its not always easy to not do what is expected of you.

My understanding of marriage is there are good times and bad times, to get through the bad times you have to want to get through them, you have to want to make it work. If you're always thinking what if are you going to be able to do that.

Also its perfectly normal to have a few wedding jitters.