Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Dec 29th 2010, 11:10 pm
#121
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Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Yes I find that interesting too. I am doing it in reverse. I am a kiwi, left and moved to the UK at 23, now at 48 'going home'. I have had a good life in the UK, but always had in the back of my mind the idea of going home. I am a bit nervous in case I get there and decide I hate it! LOL. I am renting out my house so if I change my mind I can come back. In my mind I will be giving it a year's trial to see how I feel. Feel's good at this early stage to be going home. I hope it works out but I can come back if it doesn't. Don't want to become a ping ponger though.
we got fixated on moving back and i was so sure i would never want to to come back that i didnt even bother t get my citizenship before leaving
when we got back, you have the euphoria etc, but it gradually wears off...and i realised that australia wasnt all i had been giving it credit for all those years...
so we joked as we were returning, "what if we get back and don't like the gold coast..the only other place we'll want to live is sydney" (we've lived both of these places before) so we get back, spend a year on the gold coast, it was fine, but not what we were after , and then down to sydney, which is awesome, but we find ourselves heading back to the uk in march, for an indeterminate period of time, to live a cheaper life and go on an adventure..we don't really know where we belong now...
Dec 30th 2010, 1:24 am
#122
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Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
I have less than 9 weeks to go and am getting cold feet BIG TIME!!! 
I haven't sold a single thing yet, and keep getting overwhelmed at the thought of "losing" everything I have..........I will have to start again like a lot of you with very little, not an easy thing to do at 57, but like all of us on this bit of BE we are going HOME and that is what this journey is all about.
I haven't sold a single thing yet, and keep getting overwhelmed at the thought of "losing" everything I have..........I will have to start again like a lot of you with very little, not an easy thing to do at 57, but like all of us on this bit of BE we are going HOME and that is what this journey is all about.
Ayla i am from Leicester, cant wait to get back.
Dec 30th 2010, 5:25 am
#123
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Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Aw Bee, we are all behind you and hoping it goes well. I too will be doing the same in 2011.....stay strong and stay there when you get there cos I want to meet for coffee......59 here and starting over with nothing......except a loving family....
Ayla i am from Leicester, cant wait to get back.
Ayla i am from Leicester, cant wait to get back.
I guess though, if I had been from Leicester originally I would have known to avoid those areas :-)
Dec 30th 2010, 1:15 pm
#124
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Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
don't worry, you're not the only one!
you know, we might be the only ones we know who didn't make money in the property boom,(infact, as still stuck in negative equity with a flat we can't sell in london, for less that we bought it in 2003) who doesn't have their own house or a brass razoo to rub together really, but you know what...we have had an extraordinary life, even though financially we have no status, and i would much prefer that to being one of my friends that have their boring housing in a boring suburb, paid off by their boring job,and their boring spouse, and living their boring life out in the same boring place till they die.
at least we have taken risks, seen things that they have not seen, and pursued things they have never even imagined...you only have one life!
you know, we might be the only ones we know who didn't make money in the property boom,(infact, as still stuck in negative equity with a flat we can't sell in london, for less that we bought it in 2003) who doesn't have their own house or a brass razoo to rub together really, but you know what...we have had an extraordinary life, even though financially we have no status, and i would much prefer that to being one of my friends that have their boring housing in a boring suburb, paid off by their boring job,and their boring spouse, and living their boring life out in the same boring place till they die.
at least we have taken risks, seen things that they have not seen, and pursued things they have never even imagined...you only have one life!
Good -luck !
Dec 30th 2010, 3:09 pm
#125
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Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
don't worry, you're not the only one!
you know, we might be the only ones we know who didn't make money in the property boom,(infact, as still stuck in negative equity with a flat we can't sell in london, for less that we bought it in 2003) who doesn't have their own house or a brass razoo to rub together really, but you know what...we have had an extraordinary life, even though financially we have no status, and i would much prefer that to being one of my friends that have their boring housing in a boring suburb, paid off by their boring job,and their boring spouse, and living their boring life out in the same boring place till they die.
at least we have taken risks, seen things that they have not seen, and pursued things they have never even imagined...you only have one life!
you know, we might be the only ones we know who didn't make money in the property boom,(infact, as still stuck in negative equity with a flat we can't sell in london, for less that we bought it in 2003) who doesn't have their own house or a brass razoo to rub together really, but you know what...we have had an extraordinary life, even though financially we have no status, and i would much prefer that to being one of my friends that have their boring housing in a boring suburb, paid off by their boring job,and their boring spouse, and living their boring life out in the same boring place till they die.
at least we have taken risks, seen things that they have not seen, and pursued things they have never even imagined...you only have one life!
Dec 30th 2010, 3:39 pm
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Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
don't worry, you're not the only one!
you know, we might be the only ones we know who didn't make money in the property boom,(infact, as still stuck in negative equity with a flat we can't sell in london, for less that we bought it in 2003) who doesn't have their own house or a brass razoo to rub together really, but you know what...we have had an extraordinary life, even though financially we have no status, and i would much prefer that to being one of my friends that have their boring housing in a boring suburb, paid off by their boring job,and their boring spouse, and living their boring life out in the same boring place till they die.
at least we have taken risks, seen things that they have not seen, and pursued things they have never even imagined...you only have one life!
you know, we might be the only ones we know who didn't make money in the property boom,(infact, as still stuck in negative equity with a flat we can't sell in london, for less that we bought it in 2003) who doesn't have their own house or a brass razoo to rub together really, but you know what...we have had an extraordinary life, even though financially we have no status, and i would much prefer that to being one of my friends that have their boring housing in a boring suburb, paid off by their boring job,and their boring spouse, and living their boring life out in the same boring place till they die.
at least we have taken risks, seen things that they have not seen, and pursued things they have never even imagined...you only have one life!
Dec 30th 2010, 3:50 pm
#127
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Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
I plan on going home this year but am starting to get a bit worried, my situation here is awful , money wise and sad since i once made good money and squandered it all now I am a waitress...so I am worried I will not have enough to have a place to live when i get there for a few months while i tie down a proper job.. Also I have a lot of friends in the UK that gripe about the gangs and the kids and the crazyness and all want to come to America, it worries me and makes me wonder if I am doing the right thing.. Then I have to remember they only think of the U.S as what they see on t.v I have lived here for 20 years and everywhere has its issues.. i dont know just woke up a bit worried for the future today i think new years does that to you...
Dec 30th 2010, 4:23 pm
#128
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Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
I plan on going home this year but am starting to get a bit worried, my situation here is awful , money wise and sad since i once made good money and squandered it all now I am a waitress...so I am worried I will not have enough to have a place to live when i get there for a few months while i tie down a proper job.. Also I have a lot of friends in the UK that gripe about the gangs and the kids and the crazyness and all want to come to America, it worries me and makes me wonder if I am doing the right thing.. Then I have to remember they only think of the U.S as what they see on t.v I have lived here for 20 years and everywhere has its issues.. i dont know just woke up a bit worried for the future today i think new years does that to you...
We all have our ups and downs mentally worrying etc, that's normal.
Don't take much notice of your friends as regards living in America, you know what its really like, unless they have lived in America they haven't a clue what its like here, I don't think you can compare the two, look at all the guns and gang shootings.
There are good and places to live in both countries, you just have to avoid the bad places, your friends will tell where they are.
Dec 30th 2010, 4:56 pm
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Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Hayley
We all have our ups and downs mentally worrying etc, that's normal.
Don't take much notice of your friends as regards living in America, you know what its really like, unless they have lived in America they haven't a clue what its like here, I don't think you can compare the two, look at all the guns and gang shootings.
There are good and places to live in both countries, you just have to avoid the bad places, your friends will tell where they are.
We all have our ups and downs mentally worrying etc, that's normal.
Don't take much notice of your friends as regards living in America, you know what its really like, unless they have lived in America they haven't a clue what its like here, I don't think you can compare the two, look at all the guns and gang shootings.
There are good and places to live in both countries, you just have to avoid the bad places, your friends will tell where they are.
Dec 30th 2010, 4:58 pm
#130
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Dec 30th 2010, 5:09 pm
#131
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Dec 30th 2010, 5:57 pm
#132
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Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Look at your family over there, how are they all doing? None of mine are rich but they are all working and all seem to be doing just fine........just as you (and I) will, it might be a bit of a push at the beginning but we will get there.
I have been having terrible cold feet this past week and I am leaving 8 weeks from tomorrow!!
See and as I typed that word "leaving" I got palpitations, because now this is not a dream it is REALITY!!
Dec 30th 2010, 6:00 pm
#133
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Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
yes, we moved back to australia "permanently" after being in london for almost 8 yrs...my dh was born there, but grew up in australia from mid childhood, and bth my kids were born in london.
we got fixated on moving back and i was so sure i would never want to to come back that i didnt even bother t get my citizenship before leaving
when we got back, you have the euphoria etc, but it gradually wears off...and i realised that australia wasnt all i had been giving it credit for all those years...
so we joked as we were returning, "what if we get back and don't like the gold coast..the only other place we'll want to live is sydney" (we've lived both of these places before) so we get back, spend a year on the gold coast, it was fine, but not what we were after , and then down to sydney, which is awesome, but we find ourselves heading back to the uk in march, for an indeterminate period of time, to live a cheaper life and go on an adventure..we don't really know where we belong now...
we got fixated on moving back and i was so sure i would never want to to come back that i didnt even bother t get my citizenship before leaving
when we got back, you have the euphoria etc, but it gradually wears off...and i realised that australia wasnt all i had been giving it credit for all those years...
so we joked as we were returning, "what if we get back and don't like the gold coast..the only other place we'll want to live is sydney" (we've lived both of these places before) so we get back, spend a year on the gold coast, it was fine, but not what we were after , and then down to sydney, which is awesome, but we find ourselves heading back to the uk in march, for an indeterminate period of time, to live a cheaper life and go on an adventure..we don't really know where we belong now...
)It's not very often you see Australians in this part of the forum. I just wondered what it is about Australia that is not doing it for you? I have seen somewhere that your husband is getting paid in sterling so that is obviously working against you at the moment with the exchange rate, anything else other than the cost of living? How do your families feel about you both heading back to the old dart?
Dec 30th 2010, 6:02 pm
#134
Home Sweet Home
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Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Aw Bee, we are all behind you and hoping it goes well. I too will be doing the same in 2011.....stay strong and stay there when you get there cos I want to meet for coffee......59 here and starting over with nothing......except a loving family....
Ayla i am from Leicester, cant wait to get back.
Ayla i am from Leicester, cant wait to get back.
Dec 30th 2010, 6:02 pm
#135
Home Sweet Home
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Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Hayley
We all have our ups and downs mentally worrying etc, that's normal.
Don't take much notice of your friends as regards living in America, you know what its really like, unless they have lived in America they haven't a clue what its like here, I don't think you can compare the two, look at all the guns and gang shootings.
There are good and places to live in both countries, you just have to avoid the bad places, your friends will tell where they are.
We all have our ups and downs mentally worrying etc, that's normal.
Don't take much notice of your friends as regards living in America, you know what its really like, unless they have lived in America they haven't a clue what its like here, I don't think you can compare the two, look at all the guns and gang shootings.
There are good and places to live in both countries, you just have to avoid the bad places, your friends will tell where they are.