Psychoanalyze me, will you?
Jun 10th 2013 | 8:24 am
#46
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Re: Psychoanalyze me, will you?
It might not surprise you to know that many years ago I had an email address that included the word "overanalyzer".
I have a habit of ruminating over so much in my life. So, you've certainly seen the main problem.... In fact, I have just recently printed out some posters that address this..."If we wait until we're ready, we'll be waiting for the rest of our lives"..."Overthinking ruins you..."Let your dreams be bigger than your fears and your actions louder than your words"
I have a habit of ruminating over so much in my life. So, you've certainly seen the main problem.... In fact, I have just recently printed out some posters that address this..."If we wait until we're ready, we'll be waiting for the rest of our lives"..."Overthinking ruins you..."Let your dreams be bigger than your fears and your actions louder than your words"
Jun 10th 2013 | 8:31 am
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Re: Psychoanalyze me, will you?
Thank you for your sympathies, it is difficult to cope with someone close to my age has gone.
As for your wish to move to the UK, it would seem that you have a sense of adventure, but not the extra strength to put it in action.
I was aged 22 when I went by ship to Australia, and although I have a sister there, the move was extremely big in my life. However it was something I needed to do, so I did it. I have also lived in Germany and visited a number of times, again something I needed to do, so it was done.
For you to take the next step in your big adventure takes courage, there is much unknown for you, but take the plunge. Book a flight to make it definite and head for our islands off the coast of Europe. Constant analysis will give you more concerns and doubts, and you will end up not doing anything.
We don't always make good decisions in our lives, I've made plenty of bad ones and survived, so if you find things difficult in the UK, review your options and return home if need be.
As for your wish to move to the UK, it would seem that you have a sense of adventure, but not the extra strength to put it in action.
I was aged 22 when I went by ship to Australia, and although I have a sister there, the move was extremely big in my life. However it was something I needed to do, so I did it. I have also lived in Germany and visited a number of times, again something I needed to do, so it was done.
For you to take the next step in your big adventure takes courage, there is much unknown for you, but take the plunge. Book a flight to make it definite and head for our islands off the coast of Europe. Constant analysis will give you more concerns and doubts, and you will end up not doing anything.
We don't always make good decisions in our lives, I've made plenty of bad ones and survived, so if you find things difficult in the UK, review your options and return home if need be.
I don't look at this moving thing as an adventure as much as going where I feel like I'll be happy for the rest of my life. BTW, I used to be quite adventurous...I need to find that brave me again.
Jun 10th 2013 | 8:48 am
#48
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Re: Psychoanalyze me, will you?
As everyone else says, stop thinking (over-thinking) it & start doing it. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. It surely WILL be an adventure, no matter what!
Jun 10th 2013 | 9:31 am
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Re: Psychoanalyze me, will you?
Well, I'm familiar with it, it's home.
Wirral was listed in a recent survey as the fourth best place in Britain to raise a family. It's always good to get involved with families, even those not your own. It's relatively inexpensive, the people are friendly and open, (but you get all types everywhere in the world). It's not a problem to strike up a meaningful conversation in a pub or shop. North Wales is an easy drive for fabulous scenery and quaint touristy villages. Merseyrail is halfway decent and has the best on time record of any British train operator. London is in easy reach for a day trip and affordable (but only if you book in advance to buy the cheapie).
I seriously looked at Hoylake, but I'm retired. Somewhere near a motorway (perhaps Frodsham?) is probably better if you are going to need to earn a living.
You can live fairly well and cheaply while you get settled, moving up market later if things are working out. Surf at http://www.rightmove.co.uk/
Wirral was listed in a recent survey as the fourth best place in Britain to raise a family. It's always good to get involved with families, even those not your own. It's relatively inexpensive, the people are friendly and open, (but you get all types everywhere in the world). It's not a problem to strike up a meaningful conversation in a pub or shop. North Wales is an easy drive for fabulous scenery and quaint touristy villages. Merseyrail is halfway decent and has the best on time record of any British train operator. London is in easy reach for a day trip and affordable (but only if you book in advance to buy the cheapie).
I seriously looked at Hoylake, but I'm retired. Somewhere near a motorway (perhaps Frodsham?) is probably better if you are going to need to earn a living.
You can live fairly well and cheaply while you get settled, moving up market later if things are working out. Surf at http://www.rightmove.co.uk/
Jun 13th 2013 | 2:52 am
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Re: Psychoanalyze me, will you?
In the last 12 months we have:
Packed up our life in the middle east and moved to Queensland
Set up life in Queensland only to find my employer turned into an arsehole
Packed up life in QLD and moved back to UK
Set up home in UK only fo find salaries are lower than whale shit and the place really is shite on the whole
Packed up in UK and heading back to the middle east for super new job and sunshine
If we wore your shoes we would still be thinking about going in the first place and so could have saved all the expense by coming full circle. Hope that helps lmfao
Packed up our life in the middle east and moved to Queensland
Set up life in Queensland only to find my employer turned into an arsehole
Packed up life in QLD and moved back to UK
Set up home in UK only fo find salaries are lower than whale shit and the place really is shite on the whole
Packed up in UK and heading back to the middle east for super new job and sunshine
If we wore your shoes we would still be thinking about going in the first place and so could have saved all the expense by coming full circle. Hope that helps lmfao
Jun 13th 2013 | 4:57 am
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Re: Psychoanalyze me, will you?
In the last 12 months we have:
Packed up our life in the middle east and moved to Queensland
Set up life in Queensland only to find my employer turned into an arsehole
Packed up life in QLD and moved back to UK
Set up home in UK only fo find salaries are lower than whale shit and the place really is shite on the whole
Packed up in UK and heading back to the middle east for super new job and sunshine
If we wore your shoes we would still be thinking about going in the first place and so could have saved all the expense by coming full circle. Hope that helps lmfao
Packed up our life in the middle east and moved to Queensland
Set up life in Queensland only to find my employer turned into an arsehole
Packed up life in QLD and moved back to UK
Set up home in UK only fo find salaries are lower than whale shit and the place really is shite on the whole
Packed up in UK and heading back to the middle east for super new job and sunshine
If we wore your shoes we would still be thinking about going in the first place and so could have saved all the expense by coming full circle. Hope that helps lmfao
Jun 13th 2013 | 7:38 am
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Re: Psychoanalyze me, will you?
Jun 13th 2013 | 9:54 am
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now ok stoke and surrounding areas have always been grim shitholes And will never appear in returning expat threads as locations considered by those missing England's green and pleasant lands but they were a regular reminder of why we left the uk and are doing so again.
The only plus side of the frequent rain is that it washes the ever present dog shit off the pavements
I have worked all over the mid east and whilst now returning to Dubai, I would have to say that even Yanbu compares favorably with stoke.
However in a bid to be helpful to the op. The purpose of the response was to demonstrate that you can sit and analyze to death reasons to stay put or move on or you can just get on with it for better or for worse. Nearly always it's for the better. In our case it took us round the world and back but better that than to never have gone at all.
Also for the sake of the OP, the dog shits were predominately from staffordshire bull terriers and often medium brown in colour. They also were predominately on the garden wall side ofthe pavement and not roadside notwithstanding the dissolving process during early onset of rain when of course the whole pavement is awash with shit. Something to think about before making a decision to move
Jun 13th 2013 | 10:56 am
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Re: Psychoanalyze me, will you?
No problem. The very northern most part of staffordshire as you hit the border with south Cheshire. We were only temp there whilst we hunted for work and were willing to relocate however salaries en par with those when we originally left the uk demonstrated that the place is a bit buggered. We had dramas getting a rental even though we were paying up front as property in the nice bits of Cheshire we focused on were in short supply and the LL always took a working applicant
now ok stoke and surrounding areas have always been grim shitholes And will never appear in returning expat threads as locations considered by those missing England's green and pleasant lands but they were a regular reminder of why we left the uk and are doing so again.
The only plus side of the frequent rain is that it washes the ever present dog shit off the pavements
I have worked all over the mid east and whilst now returning to Dubai, I would have to say that even Yanbu compares favorably with stoke.
However in a bid to be helpful to the op. The purpose of the response was to demonstrate that you can sit and analyze to death reasons to stay put or move on or you can just get on with it for better or for worse. Nearly always it's for the better. In our case it took us round the world and back but better that than to never have gone at all.
Also for the sake of the OP, the dog shits were predominately from staffordshire bull terriers and often medium brown in colour. They also were predominately on the garden wall side ofthe pavement and not roadside notwithstanding the dissolving process during early onset of rain when of course the whole pavement is awash with shit. Something to think about before making a decision to move
now ok stoke and surrounding areas have always been grim shitholes And will never appear in returning expat threads as locations considered by those missing England's green and pleasant lands but they were a regular reminder of why we left the uk and are doing so again.
The only plus side of the frequent rain is that it washes the ever present dog shit off the pavements
I have worked all over the mid east and whilst now returning to Dubai, I would have to say that even Yanbu compares favorably with stoke.
However in a bid to be helpful to the op. The purpose of the response was to demonstrate that you can sit and analyze to death reasons to stay put or move on or you can just get on with it for better or for worse. Nearly always it's for the better. In our case it took us round the world and back but better that than to never have gone at all.
Also for the sake of the OP, the dog shits were predominately from staffordshire bull terriers and often medium brown in colour. They also were predominately on the garden wall side ofthe pavement and not roadside notwithstanding the dissolving process during early onset of rain when of course the whole pavement is awash with shit. Something to think about before making a decision to move
and I find it kind of odd and gross for you to reference it in such great and crass detail. 
But thanks for the advice about getting on with it...
Last edited by sile; Jun 13th 2013 at 11:03 am.
Jun 13th 2013 | 11:02 am
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Re: Psychoanalyze me, will you?
If it helps I disagree with him completely. I live on an estate with loads of dog owners and there is no problem, they all pick it up. (I am not a dog lover).
UK is great but there are parts best avoided. I have never been to Stoke. It was famous for the Pottery industry of course, alas now mainly overseas.
Last edited by luvwelly; Jun 13th 2013 at 11:06 am.
Jun 13th 2013 | 12:38 pm
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