My trip so far
Oct 9th 2008, 2:20 am
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Re: My trip so far
It's a very long story M, but in a nutshell, my son and I have never truly settled. OH has made promises he's not kept, time went by and circumstances 'kept' us here. Son has now graduated from uni and is considering doing a Masters degree. He still says he wants to go 'home', but he has a long term girlfriend (been together 4 years next month) and that brings it's own problems into the mix. OH loves his work and is a true workaholic and I have slowly but surely become a shadow of the person I used to be. I never wanted to return alone, we always agreed we'd do this together, but my health is seriously suffering so I am now considering my options. 
So sorry to hear that things are so hard for you. It's a shame that your son's and husband's situations are a detriment to you and your health. Life is never fair, is it...........I wish you all the best, and hope that some type of happy resolution can be found by you and your family...(((hugs)))
Oct 9th 2008, 4:16 am
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Re: My trip so far
St. Georges Girl,
So sorry to hear that things are so hard for you. It's a shame that your son's and husband's situations are a detriment to you and your health. Life is never fair, is it...........I wish you all the best, and hope that some type of happy resolution can be found by you and your family...(((hugs)))
So sorry to hear that things are so hard for you. It's a shame that your son's and husband's situations are a detriment to you and your health. Life is never fair, is it...........I wish you all the best, and hope that some type of happy resolution can be found by you and your family...(((hugs)))
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Oct 9th 2008, 7:02 am
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Re: My trip so far
You're better than me, it would have eaten me up by now (I can't resent my kids for my situation, because they are the innocent parties). I totally know where you are coming from re not going back for a holiday. I struggle to settle back in for months when I come back. Thankfully since I've been on the happy pills (and am super busy with work and uni) life is on a much more even keel.
Do you think you would go back without OH if you get desperate?
Oct 9th 2008, 7:10 am
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G, I don't know how you handle the resentment. You're better than me, it would have eaten me up by now (I can't resent my kids for my situation, because they are the innocent parties).
I totally know where you are coming from re not going back for a holiday. I struggle to settle back in for months when I come back. Thankfully since I've been on the happy pills (and am super busy with work and uni) life is on a much more even keel.
Do you think you would go back without OH if you get desperate?
You're better than me, it would have eaten me up by now (I can't resent my kids for my situation, because they are the innocent parties). I totally know where you are coming from re not going back for a holiday. I struggle to settle back in for months when I come back. Thankfully since I've been on the happy pills (and am super busy with work and uni) life is on a much more even keel.
Do you think you would go back without OH if you get desperate?
Oct 9th 2008, 7:12 am
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I believe I would yes. I have thought about it for quite some time now and finally told him a few months back that I will be going home, with or without him. Now whether he took me seriously is another matter, but I think he did. He went away again (for work) shortly after I had said that to him and, when he came back after 2 weeks, he actually said that we will go home together and explained why it couldn't be this year. I see his reasoning, but I wonder if there will always be a 'reason'.
Maybe you could set a deadline, that you are going back by Xmas 2009 or something, with or without him!
Oct 9th 2008, 7:18 am
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That's exactly what I have done this time. I told him that I will get Mollycat inoculated and chipped etc. next May with full intentions of going home in November 2009. I have no idea what our son will do, but of course I am praying that he'll come too. My OH has a contract he has to see through which ends, hopefully, in June 09.
Oct 9th 2008, 7:31 am
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That's exactly what I have done this time. I told him that I will get Mollycat inoculated and chipped etc. next May with full intentions of going home in November 2009. I have no idea what our son will do, but of course I am praying that he'll come too. My OH has a contract he has to see through which ends, hopefully, in June 09.
The end is in sight for you then. 
Oct 9th 2008, 11:42 am
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That's exactly what I have done this time. I told him that I will get Mollycat inoculated and chipped etc. next May with full intentions of going home in November 2009. I have no idea what our son will do, but of course I am praying that he'll come too. My OH has a contract he has to see through which ends, hopefully, in June 09.
I thank god daily that me and my wife wanted the same thing when we decided that we didn't like this place, and our daughter's only 3 anyway,she'll cope ( I hope!!).
It's good you have something to focus on and a date to think about.
P.S.Do you want to buy my house it's complete now and the best house in Brisbane??
Oct 11th 2008, 1:44 pm
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Oct 12th 2008, 1:26 am
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That sounds promising St Georges girl,hope it all pans out for you well.
I thank god daily that me and my wife wanted the same thing when we decided that we didn't like this place, and our daughter's only 3 anyway,she'll cope ( I hope!!).
It's good you have something to focus on and a date to think about.
P.S.Do you want to buy my house it's complete now and the best house in Brisbane??
I thank god daily that me and my wife wanted the same thing when we decided that we didn't like this place, and our daughter's only 3 anyway,she'll cope ( I hope!!).
It's good you have something to focus on and a date to think about.
P.S.Do you want to buy my house it's complete now and the best house in Brisbane??
Oct 12th 2008, 1:39 pm
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Re: My trip so far
We are flying home on the 13 Nov, staying with my mum and dad which will be challenging for me and the breadknife but our daughter will love it and so will they.
I think it will be the best Christmas I will have to be honest.
Hope your plans stay on track and you get back ASAP,if your anything like me then you will be absolutely gagging to get out of this place.
Good Luck St Georges girl.
Oct 13th 2008, 6:38 am
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Yip,
We are flying home on the 13 Nov, staying with my mum and dad which will be challenging for me and the breadknife but our daughter will love it and so will they.
I think it will be the best Christmas I will have to be honest.
Hope your plans stay on track and you get back ASAP,if your anything like me then you will be absolutely gagging to get out of this place.
Good Luck St Georges girl.
We are flying home on the 13 Nov, staying with my mum and dad which will be challenging for me and the breadknife but our daughter will love it and so will they.
I think it will be the best Christmas I will have to be honest.
Hope your plans stay on track and you get back ASAP,if your anything like me then you will be absolutely gagging to get out of this place.
Good Luck St Georges girl.
I have my bad days and my not quite so bad days, but I suppose I've just become used to it now. I still get a little nervous when I think about all the upheaval again, but I'm far from happy here so I know it's the right thing for me, just got to hope it will be for OH and son.
Good luck to you.
