An American view.
Sep 16th 2014 | 8:43 pm
#106
Was in Canada, now home.
Joined: Aug 2011
Posts: 3,388
From: Devon
Re: An American view.
To be fair, he was encouraged to voice his criticisms by a moderator.
He also strikes me as rather depressed and maybe his wife is homesick.
Also, despite being very happy now I'm home, some of his less outrageous points strike a chord with me.
He also strikes me as rather depressed and maybe his wife is homesick.
Also, despite being very happy now I'm home, some of his less outrageous points strike a chord with me.
Sep 16th 2014 | 8:49 pm
#107
Forum Regular
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Posts: 235
From: Taipei, Taiwan
Re: An American view.
Where have I said he cannot post? But freedom of speech works both ways. If someone comes to my house they're free to complain and I'm free to say don't let the door hit your backside on the way out.
Sep 16th 2014 | 8:54 pm
#108
Banned
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Posts: 9,910
From: The REAL Utopia.
Re: An American view.
Indeed, there are little snippets of truth inbetween all the nonsense but even those little things are rather insignificant in the scheme of things.
Sep 16th 2014 | 9:52 pm
#109
Joined: Jan 2006
Posts: 28,998
Re: An American view.
Doesn't sound very welcoming to those who may not be British. Or Expats.
I'm not British, however I am an expat. Does that mean it's half ok for me to be here?
Sep 16th 2014 | 10:04 pm
#110
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From: The REAL Utopia.
Re: An American view.
Really? "I'm not sure this is the right place, though. The wife isn't British and the husband isn't an expat". "This website is called BritishExpats, is my point."
Doesn't sound very welcoming to those who may not be British. Or Expats.
I'm not British, however I am an expat. Does that mean it's half ok for me to be here?
Doesn't sound very welcoming to those who may not be British. Or Expats.
I'm not British, however I am an expat. Does that mean it's half ok for me to be here?
Sep 16th 2014 | 10:04 pm
#111
Lost in BE Cyberspace
Joined: Jan 2008
Posts: 41,517
Re: An American view.
Really? "I'm not sure this is the right place, though. The wife isn't British and the husband isn't an expat". "This website is called BritishExpats, is my point."
Doesn't sound very welcoming to those who may not be British. Or Expats.
I'm not British, however I am an expat. Does that mean it's half ok for me to be here?
Doesn't sound very welcoming to those who may not be British. Or Expats.
I'm not British, however I am an expat. Does that mean it's half ok for me to be here?
Sep 16th 2014 | 10:12 pm
#112
Crazy Cat Lady
Joined: Apr 2004
Posts: 65,493
Re: An American view.
But as I've said and as we all know, if you're in a country where for what ever reason you haven't settled, even the smallest negative thing becomes a major hurdle to happiness. Everything just builds up and we can all say but x y z is actually incorrect and you're mistaken as much as we like, it sometimes doesn't sink in or help the person struggling. Maybe just offloading that list (that they were asked to detail) and reading the feedback will help, who knows. Ok so it hasn't been put in the best terms and they've obviously offended some but if you're depressed and possibly not thinking rationally, you just let go and vomit it all up so to speak.
Sep 16th 2014 | 10:42 pm
#113
Dichotomus tinker
Joined: Aug 2013
Posts: 6,700
From: Ontario, Canada
Re: An American view.
From the OP, to Mrs London1947, the post title appropriate, as is the rant a good one, no different than any immigrant going to new country - they'd always find some fault & a whinge is as good as it gets.
the point in bold red below sums it up, likely at some point in time you may tolerate & adjust to the annoyances?
In a nutshell, I would agree with you, specifically on the following
Of course the good points of living in the UK outweigh the small annoyances that you have listed in the OP Mrs London1947?
It would be interesting to see Mr London1947 list against those in he OP of the annoyed tolerance that persons living in the US should have to put up with.
the point in bold red below sums it up, likely at some point in time you may tolerate & adjust to the annoyances?
*The benefit system has enabled people to abuse it. Why are benefits unending?
*Why do we have to pay for a license to watch TV?
*There is very little customer service in the country as a whole.
*People are basically pigs here. They always seem to expect others to clean up their mess, whether it's at McDonald's or on the village green.
Note: These are my wife's views and I fully concur.
*Why do we have to pay for a license to watch TV?
*There is very little customer service in the country as a whole.
*People are basically pigs here. They always seem to expect others to clean up their mess, whether it's at McDonald's or on the village green.
Note: These are my wife's views and I fully concur.
It would be interesting to see Mr London1947 list against those in he OP of the annoyed tolerance that persons living in the US should have to put up with.
Last edited by not2old; Sep 16th 2014 at 10:51 pm.
Sep 16th 2014 | 11:31 pm
#114
BE Co-Founder
Joined: Feb 2000
Posts: 25,930
From: Florida
Re: An American view.
Yes I can totally see that. It's a much slower pace of life there too isn't it, and I've been there when it's raining and cold, it isn't much fun. And when you are feeling down that can make things feel much, much worse.
Sep 17th 2014 | 12:32 am
#115
Ping-ponger
Joined: Jul 2002
Posts: 12,090
From: Yam Yam land
Re: An American view.
I'm not sure this is the right place, though. The wife isn't British and the husband isn't an expat.
I've lived abroad for more than three years now and have lived in other countries for many more years off and on, and while there is good and bad in every country I would never reel off a long list of complaints to its citizens. It's like being a guest in someone's house and complaining about the food or the entertainment. It's just bad manners.
I don't understand the point of posting. He or she is clearly unwilling to listen to facts or even reason, which is what makes me think he or she is just trolling.
Maybe a US expat website would be more suitable if he or she wants a sympathetic ear? Although some posters can muster more sympathy and understanding than I am capable of, he or she is unlikely to get much joy from posting here.
I've lived abroad for more than three years now and have lived in other countries for many more years off and on, and while there is good and bad in every country I would never reel off a long list of complaints to its citizens. It's like being a guest in someone's house and complaining about the food or the entertainment. It's just bad manners.
I don't understand the point of posting. He or she is clearly unwilling to listen to facts or even reason, which is what makes me think he or she is just trolling.
Maybe a US expat website would be more suitable if he or she wants a sympathetic ear? Although some posters can muster more sympathy and understanding than I am capable of, he or she is unlikely to get much joy from posting here.
Sep 17th 2014 | 12:34 am
#116
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Re: An American view.
A change of attitude could make all the difference to her/their lives in the UK. Or they can return home to the US and pay their own medical bills if they feel that would make them happier.
Last edited by formula; Sep 17th 2014 at 12:41 am.
Sep 17th 2014 | 12:35 am
#117
Ping-ponger
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Posts: 12,090
From: Yam Yam land
Re: An American view.
I just don't understand why people who are happy with their lives in the UK have to kick someone who is clearly down. Is it really "correcting factual inaccuracies" or taking offence at someone presenting their reasons for being unhappy in the UK?
Sep 17th 2014 | 12:46 am
#118
Home and Happy
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From: Keep true friends and puppets close, trust no-one else...
Re: An American view.
Depends on the responder I guess. In my case I know only too well what its like to be unhappy somewhere, so I merely wanted to correct the factual inaccuracies - as people have done with me thousands of times on here over the years when I have whinged about things I dislike about Aus.
Sep 17th 2014 | 12:47 am
#119
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Re: An American view.
Of course, if the US got it's act together and gave free healthcare to their elderly who have paid taxes for years and to those out of work, then that would solve a lot of problems for their citizens. I can't imagine how bad it must be to leave loved ones so that you don't go bankrupt due to medical bills or die from lack of basic medical care.
Last edited by formula; Sep 17th 2014 at 1:01 am.
Sep 17th 2014 | 12:53 am
#120
Dichotomus tinker
Joined: Aug 2013
Posts: 6,700
From: Ontario, Canada
Re: An American view.
Take someone that has lived in one of the great metropolis of the US - Washington, NYC, LA that moves back to the UK with a US born & bred spouse to a small town of 12,000 people. It must be a difficult adjustment.
If folks are happy & have made the decision to move to wherever, for whatever reason - the choice is theirs & no other. Over time Mrs may adapt, or want to move to a bigger city such as Bristol.
I have no issues with Mrs London having a whinge doing a comparison - its human nature. I wonder how Mrs London would have adjusted if Mr L had taken her to live in a place such as the 'Isle of Bute' or the Isle of Barra'?
Either one of those would have be my choice.
