scrubbedexpat141

Please take every care to ensure whatever agreement is drawn up is as watertight as possible until the end of time. Look at how you would try and screw her over after it's signed to find gaps in it. Include things to do with making sure the marriage is cancelled / annulled / dissolved / ended etc, to make sure she commits to it.

Whatever it takes to protect yourself in the future from this lunatic.

Oh, and maybe don't get married again. Have your fill of girlfriends but christ on a stick, don't make it legit.

Stokkevn

How has your new squeeze at your local bar taken the news.

moneypenny20

This. Please.

Jerseygirl

P11 please take note.

Millhouse

Already been to the local barangay to get her CENOMAR

Bealinehx

"Already been to the local barangay to get her CENOMAR"
Wickedly funny!

Rete

You need to come back to update the story once the documents are signed and filed. Until that time, this is not over cause the fat lady is only tuning up her voice and ain't sung yet.

I'm very glad the end is in sight. One question, however. Is this 12K/15K pm for a limited time or a lifetime?

britishbull

Potentially a very good ending, though still the marriage status to resolve - presumably in a way that does not put the "wife" in jail - though I would guess she is keen to get another foreigner to pay off her accumulated debt, so freedom will be mutually beneficial - as soon as she is in the money again the Filipino BF will be singing songs under her balcony and the whole cycle will repeat itself.

moneypenny20

Pretty sure he said it was just for one year. Hope so anyway!

Raffin

He did!

What was surprising, given her track record and very recent statements, was that she settled without asking for more. Which could be explained by her mental state or by some sudden monetary issue. Something very urgent and serious which allows her no time to extract more from you and forgo the bragging rights of seeing you jailed, deported etc. She probably still believes she could do that. You didn't get to starting the bigamy so that threat was not yet credible to her. I think the second explanation is more likely. If she signs up quickly that will add weight to that being the reason.

If she is desperate for money is there any mileage for you in offering her it over a shorter period of time? As presumably some things you need to do to regularize your retirement here are dependent on paying her off? If she is desperate she may like to have the money quicker than over 1 year.

After a traumatic time healing takes a while to even start as you will keep going over what happened. You may not be able to pay greater monthly installments. But whatever you can do to end your connections with her as quickly as possible will help

moneypenny20

I'd be tempted, if I had it, to give her the 12 monthly payments in one lump sum now and be done with it and her immediately. Having to think about her every month for another year just seems like self imposed cruelty to me. I don't see what the difference would be between one lump sum and 12 smaller amounts.

mikek1

Those are my thoughts also. P11 needs to sever all links with the family, they we’re probably in on the scam from day one. I would not pay quicker as this might cause the LL to assume that P11 has more money and she got a poor settlement.
This saga is now over (?) and I thank P11 for a very entertaining and sometimes frustrating episode. Maybe, just maybe, P11 will not make the same mistakes again.After all it has been one expensive, emotional,roller coaster.

marmaduke

Well, it's taken us seven years of A Philosophical Gentleman Abroad to get here. Critics may have panned some of the earlier seasons as flabby with weaker story arcs but wow haven't seasons 6 and 7 delivered with both cliffhangers and resolutions!

Based on the popularity of this thread I'm now looking forward to the prequel series as told from the other side, A Lovely Lady Indeed, being launched in a couple of years.

In all seriousness well done P11, you stuck to your guns despite some pretty intense criticism and you delivered.

freebie

Sort of a lame ending to a long running soap. Reminds me of the last episode of " Friends" where the scriptwriters didn't know in which direction to go.
Interesting that after all this time Mr Philosophical now posts this as a lesson to newbies wherein he made every newbie mistake its possible to make.
Happy ending and I'm glad hes out of the woods but had he listened to others, a tad more experienced in this country tan himself, maybe his life would have been way less stressful.
Newbies beware.. no matter your age, unless you have lived here in Philippines, dated many ladies here, your radar may well be defective. His most certainly was....

Philosophical 11

Sorry it's a lame ending for you. This is not a soap opera ...nor never intended to be.

Now explain to me constructively where you think I should have listened to others.

Moving on......

Thanks to all the others who have given constructive replles in the last few days.... most appreciated. I shall respond accordingly in full shortly.