STEP CHILDREN
#286
Re: STEP CHILDREN
Hi everyone...I know I've been out of the picture for a long, long while & there are very good reasons for that. Not good ones either.
We've had a rotten time with Cafcass & were represented by possibly the worst solicitor in the UK....we are no further forward than we were a year ago, but are several thousand pounds poorer & a helluva lot wiser.
If anyone would like to contact me privately, please do feel free, but I don't write in public about our case any more for reasons that will become obvious if you do get in touch.
However... the battle still continues - we are on the brink of being granted a visa, the only thing that stands in our way is permission for the kids & by God we will get that by hook or by crook.
We will not allow the bitterness of an inadequate trainspotter to ruin our girls future, that's for certain.
Keep strong everyone
We've had a rotten time with Cafcass & were represented by possibly the worst solicitor in the UK....we are no further forward than we were a year ago, but are several thousand pounds poorer & a helluva lot wiser.
If anyone would like to contact me privately, please do feel free, but I don't write in public about our case any more for reasons that will become obvious if you do get in touch.
However... the battle still continues - we are on the brink of being granted a visa, the only thing that stands in our way is permission for the kids & by God we will get that by hook or by crook.
We will not allow the bitterness of an inadequate trainspotter to ruin our girls future, that's for certain.
Keep strong everyone
#287
Re: STEP CHILDREN
Well, had Analysis and Recommendation Document, from CAFCASS to Court ,and it's a big fat NO.
That's it then.
That's it then.
#292
Re: STEP CHILDREN
So, guys, a tip for you...don't be British and keep the stiff upper lip. Let it all out, wail, nash your teeth and bare your soul, apparently it's the only thing that shows you mean it.
Dreading telling DD when she gets home from school later. SHe kept saying to me last night that it was only the CAFCASS report, didn't mean the end, it'll all be ok. Oh sh*t. What wasn't addressed was the effect on the relationship between DD and her dad. She told him a long time ago that she would never forgive him.
Sooo looking forward to going in to work this afternoon Thank you to everyone who has kept me going so far, hugs to you all x
#293
Re: STEP CHILDREN
Just back from Solicitors, unless we can find mistakes in her report then no comeback. Should be in Court on Tuesday but solicitor's not sure it's worth going. (I am going ).Basically CAFCASS feel that DD is a clever, articulate calm girl who will be able to cope with the decision, whereas DS will be distraught if he has to leave his dad, or if he stays here and the rest of us go.
So, guys, a tip for you...don't be British and keep the stiff upper lip. Let it all out, wail, nash your teeth and bare your soul, apparently it's the only thing that shows you mean it.
Dreading telling DD when she gets home from school later. SHe kept saying to me last night that it was only the CAFCASS report, didn't mean the end, it'll all be ok. Oh sh*t. What wasn't addressed was the effect on the relationship between DD and her dad. She told him a long time ago that she would never forgive him.
Sooo looking forward to going in to work this afternoon Thank you to everyone who has kept me going so far, hugs to you all x
So, guys, a tip for you...don't be British and keep the stiff upper lip. Let it all out, wail, nash your teeth and bare your soul, apparently it's the only thing that shows you mean it.
Dreading telling DD when she gets home from school later. SHe kept saying to me last night that it was only the CAFCASS report, didn't mean the end, it'll all be ok. Oh sh*t. What wasn't addressed was the effect on the relationship between DD and her dad. She told him a long time ago that she would never forgive him.
Sooo looking forward to going in to work this afternoon Thank you to everyone who has kept me going so far, hugs to you all x
#294
Re: STEP CHILDREN
Just back from Solicitors, unless we can find mistakes in her report then no comeback. Should be in Court on Tuesday but solicitor's not sure it's worth going. (I am going ).Basically CAFCASS feel that DD is a clever, articulate calm girl who will be able to cope with the decision, whereas DS will be distraught if he has to leave his dad, or if he stays here and the rest of us go.
So, guys, a tip for you...don't be British and keep the stiff upper lip. Let it all out, wail, nash your teeth and bare your soul, apparently it's the only thing that shows you mean it.
Dreading telling DD when she gets home from school later. SHe kept saying to me last night that it was only the CAFCASS report, didn't mean the end, it'll all be ok. Oh sh*t. What wasn't addressed was the effect on the relationship between DD and her dad. She told him a long time ago that she would never forgive him.
Sooo looking forward to going in to work this afternoon Thank you to everyone who has kept me going so far, hugs to you all x
So, guys, a tip for you...don't be British and keep the stiff upper lip. Let it all out, wail, nash your teeth and bare your soul, apparently it's the only thing that shows you mean it.
Dreading telling DD when she gets home from school later. SHe kept saying to me last night that it was only the CAFCASS report, didn't mean the end, it'll all be ok. Oh sh*t. What wasn't addressed was the effect on the relationship between DD and her dad. She told him a long time ago that she would never forgive him.
Sooo looking forward to going in to work this afternoon Thank you to everyone who has kept me going so far, hugs to you all x
#295
Re: STEP CHILDREN
Oh gawd Fi. I can't even begin to think what your family are feeling about this outcome. .
Of course you should all go to court.You have to play this out until the bitter end don't you . I'm so sorry to read this for your family.
Of course you should all go to court.You have to play this out until the bitter end don't you . I'm so sorry to read this for your family.
#297
Re: STEP CHILDREN
So, back from Court. Turned out to just be solicitors asking for it to go before Circuit Judge - probably some time in September - for a whole day. EX, CAFCASS and I will have to give evidence and be cross examined by Barristers. Talking big bucks. But i will NOT roll over and give in. By rights I should have been living in NZ for the past 14 years, I won't let him win again.
More statements to write for Court so chip in guys!!
And a huge thank you for all the good wishes and crossed fingers
More statements to write for Court so chip in guys!!
And a huge thank you for all the good wishes and crossed fingers
#298
Re: STEP CHILDREN
So, back from Court. Turned out to just be solicitors asking for it to go before Circuit Judge - probably some time in September - for a whole day. EX, CAFCASS and I will have to give evidence and be cross examined by Barristers. Talking big bucks. But i will NOT roll over and give in. By rights I should have been living in NZ for the past 14 years, I won't let him win again.
More statements to write for Court so chip in guys!!
And a huge thank you for all the good wishes and crossed fingers
More statements to write for Court so chip in guys!!
And a huge thank you for all the good wishes and crossed fingers
Just keep plugging away
#299
Re: STEP CHILDREN
So, back from Court. Turned out to just be solicitors asking for it to go before Circuit Judge - probably some time in September - for a whole day. EX, CAFCASS and I will have to give evidence and be cross examined by Barristers. Talking big bucks. But i will NOT roll over and give in. By rights I should have been living in NZ for the past 14 years, I won't let him win again.
More statements to write for Court so chip in guys!!
And a huge thank you for all the good wishes and crossed fingers
More statements to write for Court so chip in guys!!
And a huge thank you for all the good wishes and crossed fingers
#300
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Joined: Feb 2009
Location: Wellington
Posts: 217
Re: STEP CHILDREN
So, back from Court. Turned out to just be solicitors asking for it to go before Circuit Judge - probably some time in September - for a whole day. EX, CAFCASS and I will have to give evidence and be cross examined by Barristers. Talking big bucks. But i will NOT roll over and give in. By rights I should have been living in NZ for the past 14 years, I won't let him win again.
More statements to write for Court so chip in guys!!
And a huge thank you for all the good wishes and crossed fingers
More statements to write for Court so chip in guys!!
And a huge thank you for all the good wishes and crossed fingers