OMG you've just had me in tears

I know exactly what you mean,

There's been days i could have just given up,
But i love my husband and kids so much and at the end of the day we're in it together.
It was our decision to go and to return.

We've had some really crappy days but the good days far outweigh the bad, It was terrifying to return. no home no nothing, but i know I'm a better person for the experience I've had,
I appreciate everything instead of taking it all for granted. And i am strong enough to realise this period we are going through is just a blip and each day gets better

Thankyou Tilly for your kind words

shelly x

hi shelly (and honeymummy)
like you 2 said, weve lost everything material too and it is scary starting from nothing again.....but it still feels like the right thing to do.its busier here and i think thats why u dont hear so much about those who return too.
my container has gone missing. i am in a completley empty house with 2 small kids. i really couldve cried and got straight back on the next plane - but u know what..family came round with portable tv, my sister was a star and bought kids bedroom furmiture, OH friend came round with a sofa, another friend came round with a table. then 2 more friends came round with paintbrushes and did the house with me to make it look better for the kids. the school had got second hand uniforms for the kids so they were wearing trhe same as the others for their first day back.
and you know something? none of these people live in such big houses as there were in oz, or have so much free time/disposable income...but they were there...when i most needed them. thats what makes it worthwhile
its then u realise the importance of people u love
c xxx

Hi sweetie
I'm so glad things are working out
and you are so right, it is frightening taking that step back, or forward as some say but its amazing how everyone comes up trumps, and its this coming together of friends and family that you don't ( or some of us don't have) when you move to a new country.
and you know what chance I bet your kids are happier? with all that love and support around them. I know mine are.

We've had a terrible stressful weekend, and this morning i felt completely drained and tearful missing my mum and dad, their first great grandchild fought for his little life yesterday and there no longer around to see him.
but there are so many lovely around, neighbours and people on this site, that are so supportive.
I've got the kids to school read the posts on here, had a good cry opened the curtains had a good tidy up and the day is so much better already
thankyou

Hugs and kisses all round

Shelly x

I've been reading these posts with interest and feeling somewhat emotional as to how those who have returned home have struggled through but they have managed with the help of friends and family.
It's times like these when I wish I was home with friends and my family to support me, instead of feeling very alone and isolated. We've had many problems, mostly $ related in the past year due to my wife starting a business with her mother (who lives with us, god help us), I'm working two jobs and every evening the bill collectors call. Nightmare.

I have 3 kids and somedays I'm too busy to notice how everything seems to be crumbling around me and other days I eat my lunch at my desk and read this website and pray for the support those who have returned home seem to have found. My kids are young, Canadian born and raised (my wife is Canadian too) so there's no jumping back across the pond. I don't think it would improve matters anyway, certainly not financially and it certainly would not help my wife to remove her from her friends and family...

Sorry, I'm just blabbing on but today is one of those days where it feels like its all crashing down on me and I'm craving something familiar to hold me up. Over 3 years since the last trip to the UK... feels like a lifetime ago

Hi Jonthelad

In the UK they advise you to face the bill collectors head on.......
Have you tried to contact them,

When we moved out to Canada we paid off the mortgage and a secured loan on our property, and our biggest credit card bill, the smaller one's we thought we would be able to pay the minimum and clear once hubby's wages started coming in.

The problem was the wages we we're promised didn't come in, so we we're paying out to set up our unfurnished rented place out there and also subsidising his low wages with our savings, plus we had his training to pay for upfront which we we're lead to believe the company paid for plus uniforms and flights, yes we would be reimbursed in the long run but it didn't help us in the short term..
So the long and short of it is, there's more of us that know what your going through than you probably realise.

Now back in the UK we have faced many worries including the one's you have at the moment, I'm sure there's many of us in that position, but not all are so willing to admit it.

It will get better. get in touch with them first, that will stop the calling, and face one at a time, that way life will feel a little more bearable,

i think its one of those days all round today

Shelly

Send me a pm if you like

Do your wife and mother in law realise how stretched the finances are?,

if not then maybe its time to get the cards on the table and make a plan of action.

After all if your all involved,

and remember the old saying

A problem shared is a problem halved

Chin up its not the end of the world, act now and tomorrow you'll feel a little better

Shelly

This is a perfect read for me. It outlines why I need to be back.
I am not even back yet and people are bending over backwards trying to make the move back easier.
My Dad is collecting the pets from the airport and my sister is having the dog and FIL is having the cats. My best friend is checking out rentals whilst I have others checking out ballet schools etc... all with the promise that we go on a knees up when I'm back. I know that this will mean karaoke at 2am at some dodgy pub and I can't wait
My life is just about to start again and this time I will make the most of it

[QUOTE=jonthelad]I've been reading these posts with interest and feeling somewhat emotional as to how those who have returned home have struggled through but they have managed with the help of friends and family.
It's times like these when I wish I was home with friends and my family to support me, instead of feeling very alone and isolated. We've had many problems, mostly $ related in the past year due to my wife starting a business with her mother (who lives with us, god help us), I'm working two jobs and every evening the bill collectors call. Nightmare.



Good advice from Shelly, I just thought I'd send you some karma

Those last words really hit home, my life is just about to start again and yes I will make the most of it and if I moan about the weather then it's OK to give me a slap.

Karaoke in a dodgy pub at 2am

The perfect home comming

well not quite

Now if you round that off with a good Ruby Murry

Thats the perfect home comming

You may need to educate a Southerner here

What is a Ruby Murry

A curry of course!!!!

Sorry

Shelly

dear jonthelad
the quote above from shelly says it all. your family need to be aware of the full picture. Please try to make them understand and then they can help or at least be more realistic about the situation. Let us lot know how u are getting on.
WoodyinOZ - when are you coming home? be lovely to hear how you are getting on.
hope the 3 of you are having a better day today
c x

The animals are ready to travel in October (fingers crossed that their blood test come back fine).

I would love to be back by Christmas. It seems such a long way away at the moment but I am sure that it will fly.
I can't believe that you are already there :scared: What are they doing about your container?

It must be great to have all of the family chaos again