You know the scarey thing Chels, I could have written that. All the same reasons, and the same hope - that maybe the permanent job wil seal it......

I third it!

oh god tht reminds me of someone telling me about an old bloke who lives in gosford...he regrets not going back and has been here for 20 years. that really got me thinking.

thats the reason i went back early...The thing is , if you leave it too long your kids may be old enough to stay in Oz, then you either split the whole family up or stay where you dont want to be. the thought of that terrified me, but , as i said before, i think that although i didnt get citizenship for them, it is something they can do for themselves should they want to later. its horrible staying some place when one is happy there, one isnt. I just had to take that gamble in the end that OH would follow if he knew i was serious.

After all, kids dont want to pick up on the fact that their parents are miserable and i think if i hadve it'd of been like being a bit of a marter (sorry that sounds wrong - cant think of right noun!)

If i stayed for citizenship,the kids might of felt guility when they are old enough to understand or i may be resentful/bitter.
If dont get citizenship, i may feel guilty, the kids may be resentful. So you see, you can use the same outcome with both choices - therefore your choice on whether to get citizenship at the end is not the be all and end all. the outcome of your life depends not on this, but on how happy you are with the choices long term.

Follow your gut feeling in this and good luck.
c xxx

Hiya Tass

Sorry I missed this thread and wasn't around when it started. Sending you a PM

They're all on the M25 :scared:

(Tried to upload a photo but it keeps failing - just try to imagine an 8 mile 3 lane car park)

If I remember rightly, you're working for a State Govt department too (but QLD rather than NSW) :scared: I've read some of your other posts, I hope that you sort out a permanent role soon. Lots of jobs come up in my field here in NSW, but I've only had PR for a week or so and so can only now apply for them.

I'm hoping that getting the permanent job will give me some security - my first government contract role finished four months into a year contract because a senior executive took a dislike to me, probably hated English people - and it may help make me feel more settled, give me some roots?

Maybe I'm going about this the wrong way - I should stick a pair of trainers and go for jog on the beach tonight! Rave about a bike ride and all the amazing sights I see (more sea, more cliffs, more bush - I'm am so over the scenery, shallow person that I am)! Invite people round for a BBQ tonight (in the dark and in the rain)! Shove a bucket of water into the corner of my backyard, call it a pool and jump in it!

I'm feeling a tad bitter today

But I cheered myself up by looking at lots of nice things in David Jones during my lunch break

My other half is in the UK and I have not had enough just a bit..............Hmmm, how can I say it. Pissed at the fact that I didn't know what to expect but I didn't expect this if you know what I mean. I love the country I think I am just missing my other half. The house sale has not given as much as we thought it would either. Lots of soul searching and looking for a cheaper place to live I think lol

love it though just missing people more than I thought I would

thanks for listening

lace xx

Sad, reading posts like this. It took us a long time to sell the uk house and then got far less than we thought (or were told by several estate agents (spit)) but luckily we were left with enough to buy a nice place - ok big mortgage when we thought we would have none!!

Have you thought of investing in a webcam - and buying one for relatives/friends (early Christmas Present) that way you can all catch up and see each other live and you may find it reduces the problem of missing people.

AIM and MSN have this feature built in these days and it's free to use.

Good luck and may your re-union with your OH be very soon

Well who would 'like' Gosford? Stunning scenery but what happened to the CBD? I spose the meth clinic is a bit of a draw card.
Seroiusly I love the central coast really but Gosford?! drive past it - if you do stop hang onto your handbag. :scared:

tell me about it. white trash everywhere. tracky dacks and teenage mums.

sounds like a lot of places in england too

thanks for that arnie2oz,
just feeeling that way out. he place is miles better than the UK. I am just sick of working real hard for everything. Some people are luck it comes to them straight away. I have never been that lucky. Just ignore me lol feeling blaaaaaaaaaaaa at the mo. lol

lace xxx

Keep your chin up lace, you have worked hard and waited soooo long for this and the first 6 months really are the hardest. You are separated from your partner too so this makes it especially hard as 'your new life' can't begin yet. Once you are back together again things will all start to fall into place. I am up in northern perth but if you ever fancy a chat just let me know.
Carole xx

[QUOTE=Tass]Thanks for the replies everyone.
I know there are many other people out there who have similar experiences and worries. There is just not a forum for us to chat on without being labelled "whingers" !

Hi Tass,
Sorry to hear that you are not doing so well. I can relate to how you feel. It's hard to be stuck at home with no adult interaction. I to know what you mean about the competitiveness. I remember well, many years ago when the female manager of my eldest son's soccer team came storming up to me saying " Do you know what your son has just said to me?" Well, you can imagine all the things that went thro' my head! I thought I'll kill him! What he had said was " My mum says that it doesn't matter if you win or lose as long as you enjoy the game and have done your best!" Her face was a study when I said that was exactly right. You don't have to compromise your principles and never be afraid to comment on things you don't agree with. You'll be amazed how readily that is accepted. It took me a long time to be settled here, with many ups and downs before I did but after 40 years I am so glad I did. My husband too took to the country like a duck to water. It is easier for them as the are out and about interacting with other adults. I know I'm biased now but don't give up. This is a wonderful country and I know my sons would never have achieved what they have if we had not come. Feel free to PM me if you are feeling down.