An Old Guy Going Home - Advice Please
Feb 24th 2009, 12:01 am
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Re: An Old Guy Going Home - Advice Please
Also, the Rover's Return is a bit more appropriate for the life in Thailand chat, I think.
I admire people who leave the cushy life to work for little pay in rough parts of the world. I'm sure you got a lot out of it, so I wouldn't call it sacrifice, but it's very worthwhile.
Bev
I admire people who leave the cushy life to work for little pay in rough parts of the world. I'm sure you got a lot out of it, so I wouldn't call it sacrifice, but it's very worthwhile.
Bev
I did have an OK life in the UK, but there were aspects that I found unrewarding at the time and the need for something else, hence my stay in SEA. I did get a lot out of it, probably more than I gave in many ways and you're quite right it wasn't really a sacrifice. I just should have thought more before burning bridges - a lesson learned! thanks
Feb 24th 2009, 12:13 am
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I am beginning to see that most of the responses are good, well meaning and light hearted, so will start to blend in as much as I can. It's a bit unrealistic to ask people just to respond to the same thing over and over again I guess.
OK I start anew, same original question, but feel free to jump in with other stuff - I am really happy to be here folks and will give more of myself when I can.
Feb 24th 2009, 12:15 am
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Feb 24th 2009, 12:21 am
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Its unusual as far as BE goes. The suggestion of the Far East forum was merely because you were saying that you didn't want to post your story on this thread and take it off topic. As you are new to BE it was quite possible that you were unaware of the existence of the other forum.
The only reason for my posting on here at all was because the thread had been reported.
The only reason for my posting on here at all was because the thread had been reported.
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And in that part I’m with you all along
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Feb 24th 2009, 12:24 am
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I think any cloak and dagger posts make people both nosy and suspicious, It makes it look like something is being hidden and therefore not genuine. I'm not suggesting you're not sincere, just that when someone pours their whole life story out, they tend to get a barrage of immediate support and people wanting to offer help. I have seen this many times on this forum. There are some very kind and caring people here.
Of course, you may not feel comfortable doing this and this should be respected but maybe as you post a bit more about yourself, you'll find more people willing to step in and offer advice.
Personally, I don't mind if threads meander and go off topic, I think it makes them more interesting. Bit like going on a mystery tour.
As long as you don't put your real identity out there, you're safe to make friends and open up a bit more. Then you get more back. Just my own experience talking here.
Whatever you do, don't ignore the women who answer your posts or you will be up the creek without a paddle.
Of course, you may not feel comfortable doing this and this should be respected but maybe as you post a bit more about yourself, you'll find more people willing to step in and offer advice.
Personally, I don't mind if threads meander and go off topic, I think it makes them more interesting. Bit like going on a mystery tour.
As long as you don't put your real identity out there, you're safe to make friends and open up a bit more. Then you get more back. Just my own experience talking here.
Whatever you do, don't ignore the women who answer your posts or you will be up the creek without a paddle.
Certainly wouldn't want to be up the creek without a paddle.....unless of course it is with one of those women
Feb 24th 2009, 12:40 am
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Feb 24th 2009, 12:43 am
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Yes, I would very much like to be in Cambridgeshire, sort of Huntingdon way. What exactly is 'sheltered housing' in today's terms. I recall when I lived in UK the term covered many areas and many different people - or am I getting confused with something else?
Thanks for stopping by - much appreciated.
Thanks for stopping by - much appreciated.
Many people think they are like nursing homes, but they are far from it. Usually it is either a block of flats or a whole kind of housing estate run by housing associations, and the basic rule is that you must be over 55 or disabled in some way to be eligible to live there. Everyone lives a completely independant life just as they would anywhere else. The great thing is that they usually have a person who lives there and is employed to be a warden to check on people who are ill or have special needs, and also make sure that the day to day running of the place is kept up to standard regarding maintenence etc.
Feb 24th 2009, 12:45 am
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Feb 24th 2009, 12:53 am
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Flea, You're a treasure, I know. So is Sans. You both give your best and try to help people as much as possible. And you're fun. Jeez, I've got some miserable plonkers around me at the moment. Wish I hadn't said I was going home. It's like I've been sent to another planet for committing the crime of being happy.
Feb 24th 2009, 1:33 am
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Flea, You're a treasure, I know. So is Sans. You both give your best and try to help people as much as possible. And you're fun. Jeez, I've got some miserable plonkers around me at the moment. Wish I hadn't said I was going home. It's like I've been sent to another planet for committing the crime of being happy.
I've not really been much fun of late. I guess i deserve to be ignored sometimes, but i use this place to offload. When you are stuck at home most of the time and everyone else is out in the world working and having a life, I run short of company, so use this medium to get it all off my chest. I do like to help people wherever i can, but alas, many people on here have a very childish attitude. As soon as you say something they dont like, all of a sudden your offers of help or opinions are blacklisted. Its like a schoolyard mentality. But bugger them i say...
I wont stop doing it
Thankfully I dont have miserable plonkers around me. Although one of my Aussie friends is driving me nuts, treating me like some sort of mentally defunked invalid. Bringing me apple pies, lecturing me on the need to keep mentally stimulated and talking to me like i am 5yrs old... bless her. I know she means well and i do appreciate her concerns, but sometimes i just want to yell out SHUUUUUT UPPPPPPPPPP!!!!!!!! PMSL
Gawwd... i'm rambling now... back in my box
Feb 24th 2009, 1:38 am
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Why thanks I've not really been much fun of late. I guess i deserve to be ignored sometimes, but i use this place to offload. When you are stuck at home most of the time and everyone else is out in the world working and having a life, I run short of company, so use this medium to get it all off my chest.
I do like to help people wherever i can, but alas, many people on here have a very childish attitude. As soon as you say something they dont like, all of a sudden your offers of help or opinions are blacklisted. Its like a schoolyard mentality. But bugger them i say...
I wont stop doing it
Thankfully I dont have miserable plonkers around me. Although one of my Aussie friends is driving me nuts, treating me like some sort of mentally defunked invalid. Bringing me apple pies, lecturing me on the need to keep mentally stimulated and talking to me like i am 5yrs old... bless her. I know she means well and i do appreciate her concerns, but sometimes i just want to yell out SHUUUUUT UPPPPPPPPPP!!!!!!!! PMSL
Gawwd... i'm rambling now... back in my box
I've not really been much fun of late. I guess i deserve to be ignored sometimes, but i use this place to offload. When you are stuck at home most of the time and everyone else is out in the world working and having a life, I run short of company, so use this medium to get it all off my chest. I do like to help people wherever i can, but alas, many people on here have a very childish attitude. As soon as you say something they dont like, all of a sudden your offers of help or opinions are blacklisted. Its like a schoolyard mentality. But bugger them i say...
I wont stop doing it
Thankfully I dont have miserable plonkers around me. Although one of my Aussie friends is driving me nuts, treating me like some sort of mentally defunked invalid. Bringing me apple pies, lecturing me on the need to keep mentally stimulated and talking to me like i am 5yrs old... bless her. I know she means well and i do appreciate her concerns, but sometimes i just want to yell out SHUUUUUT UPPPPPPPPPP!!!!!!!! PMSL
Gawwd... i'm rambling now... back in my box
Feb 24th 2009, 2:32 am
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I guess my working in a guarded situation for so many years and being very careful what I say and to whom has left its mark (could I be paranoid?) and it will take time to get back to normal.
I'm gaining some insights here as well as good advice.
Looking forward to chatting with you more.
Feb 24th 2009, 2:37 am
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Sheltered housing is for people over 55. My sister is a warden for one of these complexes.
Many people think they are like nursing homes, but they are far from it. Usually it is either a block of flats or a whole kind of housing estate run by housing associations, and the basic rule is that you must be over 55 or disabled in some way to be eligible to live there. Everyone lives a completely independant life just as they would anywhere else. The great thing is that they usually have a person who lives there and is employed to be a warden to check on people who are ill or have special needs, and also make sure that the day to day running of the place is kept up to standard regarding maintenence etc.
Many people think they are like nursing homes, but they are far from it. Usually it is either a block of flats or a whole kind of housing estate run by housing associations, and the basic rule is that you must be over 55 or disabled in some way to be eligible to live there. Everyone lives a completely independant life just as they would anywhere else. The great thing is that they usually have a person who lives there and is employed to be a warden to check on people who are ill or have special needs, and also make sure that the day to day running of the place is kept up to standard regarding maintenence etc.
Hmmm which area is your sister in?
Feb 24th 2009, 2:41 am
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Flea, You're a treasure, I know. So is Sans. You both give your best and try to help people as much as possible. And you're fun. Jeez, I've got some miserable plonkers around me at the moment. Wish I hadn't said I was going home. It's like I've been sent to another planet for committing the crime of being happy.
Feb 24th 2009, 3:12 am
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I'm intrigued by something.
In post no. 22 on this thread, someone quoted a post from the "old guy" Catch 22 (which was subsequently deleted so I can't quote it here).
The final sentence says "I am married to a Karen"
(Karens are one of the ethnic groups along the Burmese/Thai border. I believe that some of the Karens wear many bands around their necks to make them longer?)
Is the O/P planning to take his Karen wife back to the UK with him?
In post no. 22 on this thread, someone quoted a post from the "old guy" Catch 22 (which was subsequently deleted so I can't quote it here).
The final sentence says "I am married to a Karen"
(Karens are one of the ethnic groups along the Burmese/Thai border. I believe that some of the Karens wear many bands around their necks to make them longer?)
Is the O/P planning to take his Karen wife back to the UK with him?