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It's cooler more than it's hotter up there. I was there in August a couple years back and it was in the mid 80's. From what I was told and hearing all the local weather casters is that those temperatures were unusual. For the most part it will remind you of blighty from what I'm told. It's usually cool, misty, and has overcast skies. You are saved from lots of drenching rains given that the rain forest west of Seattle and the ridge that separates the Olympic peninsula from the rest of the state keeps the total rainfall lower than expected.

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But cheer up our kid Strangeways, Shameless is on the box here plus where you are is a billion times better than being in Kansas. I can tell you, that is just utterly shite so all in all things are looking up. Plus you can always escape up to B.C. ;)

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Why thank you dear.:wub: The state of Kansas appreciates your recommendation but if you'll notice I'm in Missouri;).

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Gets worse then. Good luck with that.

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Just the opposite.:D At any rate Missouri is a temporary state of mind for me. Virginia is where my heart is.

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Erin, You are the Unsinkable Molly Brown


RESPECT! :)

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Peoria Illinois :confused: ....redneck :confused::confused: never :D

Homesickness !!!! been there a time or two. In the very begining I hated this place, the people, the food,the beer, the tv... all of it. Now .....well quite simply I'd never leave.
For me it was all about attitude and a swift kick up the arse.....remembering why the move was made (gorgeous woman with big norks who became my wife). It literally happened one day, just woke up and decided not to live with the regrets and bitterness any more and to just get on with it ....it being life...no one else can do it for you.

Good luck though

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Yep, I can relate to the OP's homesickness. At first I just wanted to go back, kept grumbling to my wife about it. I found myself missing some absolutely ridiculous things, like the variety of the weather, red-brick semi-detached houses, Sainsbury's. Sometimes I have to remind myself what I don't like about Britain: mainly kids hanging about on street corners taking the p**s out of my glasses.

Like the OP, it was, and to a certain extent still is, the loss of control that made me pine for home. In England I had a pretty ordinary, low-level clerical job at a university, a place I enjoyed working for. I could hop on the bus to work, or get the train down to the coast to visit old university friends. Here, while the public transport is pretty good, I don't really feel any urge to go out and explore, not yet anyway. And once you're out of the downtown area you really need a car. Being visually impaired, I can't drive.

The weather is a bit of a mixed bag. I like the winter, very similar to the West Country, where I came from. But months of sunshine and (admittedly dry) 90-degree days in summer does get a bit boring.

The one thing I did notice was that my longing for the UK grew in inverse proprtion to how well I am doing here. For example, I'm currently looking for a job and things are very slow. I had a couple of interviews and things were looking up - I hardly thought of the old country. But then I didn't get the jobs, and am back to square one, with nothing on the horizon - I feel a little homesick.

But after 8 months I'm beginning to realise that things could be alot worse. I live in a great part of the country (Sacramento, CA), where rednecks are few and far between. And my wife is just the greatest person ever, being supportive and understanding, and putting up with all the gumbles and gripes I have about the USA. I often say to her that I have no regrets at all about marrying her, but I have a few misgivings about marrying her country! :)

The longer I'm here, the more I'm willing to make a go of it. It took a lot of time and effort to get where I am now, and the least I can do, for me and my wife, is give it all I've got.

I really would say that it does get better, slowly but surely. There are ups and downs too.

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Interesting story, nicely written!

Good Luck in Sacramento - I hope you get a job soon! I don't know if you can get to Davis easily (without a car) but it's been described to me as a more 'college oriented' town, which may be more up your alley.

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its not that you cant work for at least 90 days at all. You cant work until your EAD comes through. It can take 90 days but it can take a lot less. Especially if you file by post rather than electronically. I think one lady on here got hers in under 2 weeks. So stop looking on the black side of things - as that wont help your mood any.


also - do things now to fill your time. If you cant drive yet then use the internet and research all the places you would like to visit when you can. find out the opening times, locations, costs etc so that when your able you can go striaght there and enjoy.

Also research and create an american style resume (ie C.V) so that when your EAD comes through you are good to go straight away. Research what type of jobs are out there that you might like - see where things are advertised, look for agencies, etc etc. This will mean you are quicker to get going when it is possible.

It sounds like you are wallowing in self pity somewhat and dont want to fill your time up so you can enjoy yourself. Only you can make the effort to fairly try the new life. It may not be for you but it honestly sounds like you dont really want to even try it fairly.

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I've been here about 3 months now and know how you feel. I left a very full time busy job and came here with my husband leaving our 2 sons in theirs 20s at home, so yes that did hurt! Homesickness was a problem and so was the boredom for a bit as I am also waiting for the EAD to come and not able to drive at present, only got one car and thats needed by the other half who has to work!

However I decided to give this a major go and have found so much to do that I dont want to work when I get the EAD, as I have now discovered that there is another side to life, as I've volunteered and started to explore the area on mass transit and starting walking (sorry hiking). Only advantage that a job will have is income and maybe make a few friends but then when willI go hiking, shopping, exploring etc etc..

So really what I'm trying to say is be positive, find something different to do and you may well enjoy it - you will always miss those at home but thats what the phone and computer are for. Its an amusing place, loads to find out and loads of places to go!!!

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You should just try to be more like ne. Hip and cool and 35.

Start by clicking your tongue, a firing of your finger pistol, and saying, "Catch you on the flipside."

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but can I do hip, cool and over 50????

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Sure.


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F*** yeah! That photo is sick.:thumbsup: