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Please dont feel bad about going back. I worked with a dear friend who relocated with her husband and four kids to the USA, stood it for a month, if that, and decided "enough is enough" and moved the family back to the UK, pronto and hardly spoke of it again!
We all have different tolerance levels. My relocation has been for five years but Im very clear that thats a big enough chunk out of my life for this particular phase and we are returning this year. So glad you both feel the same about going back!

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+1.

Most people look at me in horror when I say we want to emigrate. The rest say "wow - I'd love to do that but don't have the guts". So I'd say it's a real life experience and something that all of us will learn a lot from. Whether you learn that you prefer somewhere else to the UK or whether actually you prefer the UK is by the by. You'll know that you gave it a shot and decided it wasn't for you. Nothing to feel bad about.

I *love* Canada but am not niave enough to think it will be a bed of roses - I might even not like living there - you just don't know until you try it do you?

:)

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Hi Geordie Lass
I would always say to anyone wanting to emigrate, go for it. If you have done as much research and 'homework' as you can and it's what you think you would like to do then do it. At some point it is a leap of faith. It's either going to go one way or the other. You may love it or hate it, it may go exceedingly well or it might go completely tits up. But you'll never know until you try. Although I have to say we don't hate it and nothing has particularly gone tits up (we have a good income, nice rental etc) it's just not how we want to live our lives and we prefer the UK. The UK has more to offer us as a family. I have a piece of writing on my fridge which talks about 'risks' .......... To laugh is to risk appearing the fool
To weep is to risk being called sentimental.......
The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing and becomes nothing
He may avoid suffering and sorrow but he simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow or love
Chained by his certitude he is a slave, he has forfeited his freedom,
Only the person who risks is truly free
(author unknown)

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I completely agree with everything you say and your reasoning.

Love your quote about risk.

I wanted our house to be sold and to go over with PR. The house hasn't sold - we are having to rent it out and we are going over on a TWP. Risk doesn't sit easy with me generally but I think this one is worth coming out of my comfort zone. Like you say - it might be amazing or go tits up. Won't know til we try! :)

I wish you all the best in your move back. PM me if you want to chat more :)

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We wanted to move house anyway, but if not we would have rented it out even though we have PR. I think its a good idea you renting out your house whilst on TWP, just to cover all bases so to speak.

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It's a good fall back I know but it brings it's own stresses doesn't it? :)

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Yes it does and I thought it would be a little unsettling knowing we had the 'base' back home to run to. Didn't make any difference whatsoever to how we felt in the end, just proves its not the house, its the people and place that is home. However you have to deal with the cards you have been dealt and go with it. So for you renting out your house is the way to go for now.

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Well decisions are easier if they are made for you (like the one not to sell... nothing is shifting here at all). Anyway - I am taking over your thread so will stop now... :)

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What a great quote.

Yes, I really thought that Canada would be THE place, that I would never want to return to Europe. How wrong I was.

The attraction to Canada was the great work opportunities, the stark but nevertheless beautiful landscape and plenty of space. My delusion that the cost of living would be cheaper than the UK, and numerous other comparisons.

Of course several holidays to Canada got me thinking that N.America was a better place to be then Europe.

Hey ho.