Originally Posted by marcpiano

Depends on your mindset - I was negative in the UK, came out to Australia positive and my gradual cynicism and jaded nature kicked in again - I found fault in that which others would find favour.

So it really does depend on an attitude adjustment - when I return to the UK (with a career lined up) I'll know exactly what to expect, both good and bad. This time, however, life has taught me in the importance of perception and perspective. So I'll focus on the positives and avoid, as far as possible, exposure to that which set me into the negative last time.

Also remembering that 99.9% of what is in the media has no personal or direct effect on you helps, no matter which country you're in.

Originally Posted by franki

Hi,

I moved back to UK with my USC and 2 kids a year ago after living in US for 7 years or so. I was quite miserable in US, not at first but after about 4 years or so. I think I became more miserable after my mum died whilst we were in UK visiting and then 6 months later my dad was diagnosed with colon cancer. I knew I had to be here in UK to be close to my dad. Thankfully, he's now fine.

Well, we've been here a year, bought a house etc. My hubby is completely miserable. He hates his job and the fact that he's earning less than half he was in US. The cars we drive are pretty much bangers. I have to work evenings and weekends so don't get enough time to spend with kids of hubby. Our mortgage is massive so don't have any spare money for holidays etc.



If you are thinking of moviI feel so much guilt about dragging my family back here and wish we could have our life back in USng back to US
with nice house and nice cars. I know material things aren't everything but I know I'd be able to give my kids more over there, including time. I'm pretty sure they'd have a better life.

I'm not even sure if it's an option to go back as we don't have the money. I didn't apply for a re entry visa as we thought this was a permanent move so probably have to apply from scratch for residency.

It seems like it would be a good time to do it though with the low cost of houses in US and exchange rate. Will I feel the same again though? I know it's an impossible question for anyone to answer but you guys really helped me when I was moving this way so any thoughts would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

Originally Posted by quoll

Have you been reading my mind? This is so much like me. One of my boys has emigrated back to UK for exactly the same reasons as your son and the other lad did his "this is boring" bit and headed off for nearly a year but now has decided that being self sufficient in the bush is the way to go.

Originally Posted by king kong

I have often thought of living out in the bush and trying to be self -sufficient ,but after much self examination i came to realise it was the crass materialism of australia i was trying to run away from .

Originally Posted by grevillia

Ah, I was visiting in Cambridge only a couple of weeks ago. Traffic just as bad as ever, but there's a beautiful new John Lewis store on St Andrews St now. And the spring flowers along The Backs were a fine sight...

Originally Posted by king kong

Very surprised to see you posting again Beryl as i used to follow some of your posts while you lived here in perth and they were very thought provoking and if there was one person i wouldnt see posting again it would have been you .
It just shows how fragile our minds are when it comes to migrating and returning etc .
We have just come back yesterday from a five week trip around the uk ,with trips to bournemouth ,wimborne ,poole ,purbeck hills ,south wales ,lake windermere,edinburgh ,musselburgh ,glasgow ,hexham,corbridge,berwick upon tweed,coldstream,jedburgh,bamburgh castle,whitby,scarborough,carlisle,lindisfarne,and york .
I have touched on a few places we went in five weeks and not for one minute was we bored and not for one minute was we thinking of perth and if we had of done it would have been ''how far would i get in five weeks from perth if driving ?''.
I have no advice to give but if i could say one thing it would be take a few weeks off and load the car up and travel around the wonderful country they call britain and stay at little B&B,s and youll discover the country you know is home .

Originally Posted by Beryl the Peril

Hi KK - sorry I didn't respond to your post - I've been off line for a while! Well, if I'd known you were going to be in Wimborne, you could have come for a cup of tea! That's where I live!

Originally Posted by daisymoll

Not necessarily, we moved to NS, Canada in 2002, had a baby in 2003, got incredibly homesick for the Uk and moved back there late 2003. Within about six months we knew we had made a mistake and in 2004 we moved back to Ontario, Canada.

When in NS we only used to remember the good things about the UK and forgot about all the reasons why we left in the first place, we also had many romantic notions about how it would be with family and grandchildren etc, truth was we couldn't afford to live anywhere near our family in the South east. We definitely had rose coloured specs on.

Since coming back here, three years later we are so happy we can't believe it....thank goodness we went back to the UK though as now we know for absolutely sure that this was the right move for us, I can honestly say I rarely miss it now.

HTH