Confession
May 8th 2007, 9:24 am
#46
Tea Drinker
Joined: Nov 2006
Location: Kamloops, BC
Posts: 5,387
Re: Confession
You have nothing to feel foolish about, it's a completely new life on the other side of the world and at least you had the guts to try it out.
My only advice would be to stick it out for another 8 months or so as anything can happen..
Believe me, you aren't missing anything here in the UK at the moment except family & friends.
Good luck to you both
My only advice would be to stick it out for another 8 months or so as anything can happen..
Believe me, you aren't missing anything here in the UK at the moment except family & friends.
Good luck to you both
May 8th 2007, 10:09 am
#47
Home and Happy
Joined: Dec 2002
Location: Keep true friends and puppets close, trust no-one else...
Posts: 93,825
Re: Confession
you really need to move down here Polly, we are the only brits here and everybody has been fantastic we've had offers of everything from irons to washing machines till our stuff arrives. the woman at the furniture shop has even lent us a nest of tables! I just cannot imagine that happening back in the uk.
The neighbours my ex had in tassie were like that, all really friendly from when I first met them, but not nosey, just genuine - you felt they'd be there if you needed them.
May 8th 2007, 10:42 am
#48
'In limboland'
Joined: Sep 2006
Posts: 13,880
Re: Confession
May 8th 2007, 12:05 pm
#49
Home and Happy
Joined: Dec 2002
Location: Keep true friends and puppets close, trust no-one else...
Posts: 93,825
May 10th 2007, 9:16 am
#51
Home and Happy
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May 10th 2007, 10:36 am
#52
'In limboland'
Joined: Sep 2006
Posts: 13,880
Re: Confession
I'll get him to visit her in the small hours and put a bat up her nightdress..... (sorry, just been watching Fawlty Towers!)
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(sorry, just been watching Fawlty Towers!)http://vampirboard.de/phpBB2/images/...fledermaus.gif
May 10th 2007, 12:28 pm
#53
Ping-ponger
Joined: Jul 2002
Location: Dreich Alba
Posts: 12,013
Re: Confession
I want to go home, yes after 4 months. I feel really foolish at the moment, it wasn't that long ago i was writing how happy i was in my update which i have been waiting to do for over a year . Australia is not for me. I don't think it can give me and my family a better life. Maybe if we had of come with more money, but we seem to be watching the penny's all the time as my husband wages are a lot less than the UK. The dream of the 4 bedroom, 2 bathroom, and a pool gone out of the window. We live on a complex where the duck's like to crap around the pool.
I think the thing i miss most about the UK is the security. Our Pensions, life insurance, on the property ladder due to my husband's good wage. Here i live in a rented house, and husband with no job (due to his Kn*b of a boss) and when he did i don't think we could afford life insurance, good pensions and health insurance or even a Mortgage for a decent house plus the cost of living. I do miss my family and friends but it is not the reason i want to go home. I am very scared at the moment if i stay in Australia i am not going to give the kids the life i wanted for them.
I did do research before coming out on husband wage and the cost of living, but we were just so excited about coming i really did under estimate the cost of living. Also I've noticed
That some Australians not to be very friendly or helpful, which i can't get my head around.
How scruffy the kids look in there uniforms.
How much bad language you hear on the tele and radio.
How they beep there horn at you so quickly.
The postman has no respect for the post, squashing a big envelope in a small mail box ripping it to peaces, or leaving it half hanging out when it's peeing down of rain.
Undertaking on the motorway
This is just a few of the things that niggle me, and every day one more adds to the list.
Haven't told my family yet, don't know what's going to be worst when i told them i was leaving and the tears. Or that we are coming home and the "Told you so"
So there you are i have come out of the closet and i want to go home. Haven't decided when but definitely within the year.
From a very confused and scared,
Stacey
. Australia is not for me. I don't think it can give me and my family a better life. Maybe if we had of come with more money, but we seem to be watching the penny's all the time as my husband wages are a lot less than the UK. The dream of the 4 bedroom, 2 bathroom, and a pool gone out of the window. We live on a complex where the duck's like to crap around the pool. I think the thing i miss most about the UK is the security. Our Pensions, life insurance, on the property ladder due to my husband's good wage. Here i live in a rented house, and husband with no job (due to his Kn*b of a boss) and when he did i don't think we could afford life insurance, good pensions and health insurance or even a Mortgage for a decent house plus the cost of living. I do miss my family and friends but it is not the reason i want to go home. I am very scared at the moment if i stay in Australia i am not going to give the kids the life i wanted for them.
I did do research before coming out on husband wage and the cost of living, but we were just so excited about coming i really did under estimate the cost of living. Also I've noticed
That some Australians not to be very friendly or helpful, which i can't get my head around.
How scruffy the kids look in there uniforms.
How much bad language you hear on the tele and radio.
How they beep there horn at you so quickly.
The postman has no respect for the post, squashing a big envelope in a small mail box ripping it to peaces, or leaving it half hanging out when it's peeing down of rain.
Undertaking on the motorway
This is just a few of the things that niggle me, and every day one more adds to the list.
Haven't told my family yet, don't know what's going to be worst when i told them i was leaving and the tears. Or that we are coming home and the "Told you so"
So there you are i have come out of the closet and i want to go home. Haven't decided when but definitely within the year.
From a very confused and scared,
Stacey
Being an expat can be a financial crapshoot involving currency exchange rates, the property market in the UK and wherever you are, the type of employment you are in (i.e., whether you self-fund emigration or were financed by your employer), prospects for promotion in your adopted country and lots of other things. Some people are fortunate that all of these factors go in the "right" direction for them, others it can be the exact opposite.
My recommendation (take or leave) is to try to evaluate your likelihood of making a decent living (financially) in Oz and if it's low, cut your losses. Get back on the UK housing ladder, get back into a decent paying job and get back to normal. As others have said, this does not constitute failure and if people at home say I told you so (which I don't think is likely), ignore them. They are just small-minded people who are just bitter that they aren't brave enough to take a risk.
May 10th 2007, 8:58 pm
#54
Life is more than a dream
Joined: Oct 2006
Location: Kings Moss, UK - it's a bit like Emmerdale
Posts: 1,389
Re: Confession
Edited to add decent wages and better quality of life
Last edited by LouiseD; May 10th 2007 at 9:02 pm. Reason: To add a bit
May 11th 2007, 3:35 am
#55
'In limboland'
Joined: Sep 2006
Posts: 13,880
Re: Confession
And the lovely countryside, national parks, the lakes and hills and rivers, beautiful old cities, the fantastic spring weather we've had for the last month, lovely historic buildings, the culture, sense of humour, great shops, great service, good TV, great social life, nightlife, country pubs, country walks, great choice of everything, easy access/cheap flights to Europe, village fetes and fayres, enough sport to tire even the most avid sports fan, theme parks, funfairs, museums, theatres, zoos......
Edited to add decent wages and better quality of life
Edited to add decent wages and better quality of life
May 11th 2007, 4:35 am
#56
Australia's Doorman
Joined: Jan 2005
Location: The Shoalhaven, New South Wales, Australia
Posts: 11,056
Re: Confession
I reckon it's the luck of the draw - how your neighbours are - whichever country you live in. There were only three houses on my lane in the UK and we got on brilliantly well with the people on either side. In fact it's safe to say that the people I miss most are my old neighbours to the right of our old house. Got good ones here too - couple in their 50s on one side (Derek and Kathy) and an old retired lady called Margaret next door. Both sets were very welcoming when we arrived. I lived in Bath for a decade, had loads of friends there, but never even met the neighbours on either side of the house. When I was a kid, growing up in Letchworth, I knew pretty much everyone in every house 500 metres each way up and down our street. Times change I guess.
May 16th 2007, 2:46 pm
#57
Forum Regular
Joined: Jan 2007
Location: Poole, Dorset
Posts: 148
Re: Confession
May 17th 2007, 1:46 pm
#58
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Joined: Mar 2007
Location: Northern Virginia USA
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Re: Confession
I reckon it's the luck of the draw - how your neighbours are - whichever country you live in. There were only three houses on my lane in the UK and we got on brilliantly well with the people on either side. In fact it's safe to say that the people I miss most are my old neighbours to the right of our old house. Got good ones here too - couple in their 50s on one side (Derek and Kathy) and an old retired lady called Margaret next door. Both sets were very welcoming when we arrived. I lived in Bath for a decade, had loads of friends there, but never even met the neighbours on either side of the house. When I was a kid, growing up in Letchworth, I knew pretty much everyone in every house 500 metres each way up and down our street. Times change I guess.
May 17th 2007, 11:38 pm
#59
Australia's Doorman
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Location: The Shoalhaven, New South Wales, Australia
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