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Old Feb 26th 2008, 6:14 am
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Originally Posted by meauxna
There's not only two sides to a story, there's three.. but how can you say 'there are two sides' and then go on to make a conclusion about the situation after reading only one side of it???

I can actually make up a whole scenario about this where Mrs Roland is completely in the right and he is the one who messed up. But we have NO idea of the background of this story or what agreement Roland and Co had regarding family communication and this issue.



Bingo. Right, wrong or indifferent, they had an agreement. changing that midstream without mutual agreement is going to make a problem; that shouldn't have been a surprise.




You're a poor substitute; at least when our Dear Departed posted something silly like that, the joke was perfectly clear. Aren't you just stealing someone else's material?
I didn't make a conclusion - I said "It sounds as if...."

If I only get to talk to one person, I sort of go on what they say, if it sounds plausible. But nowhere did I say it was an absolute conclusion.

However - from the beginning, his very first post - before she even got angry, it does sound as if he felt intruded upon, and that his communications with his family were being "approved" by her. Which is something I would think is a problem.

Also, her reaction did sound somewhat childish to me - stomping off to bed.

But an absolute conclusion - no. Do I probably stand by my thoughts - yes.
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Old Feb 26th 2008, 6:21 am
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I didn't make a conclusion - I said "It sounds as if...."

If I only get to talk to one person, I sort of go on what they say, if it sounds plausible. But nowhere did I say it was an absolute conclusion.

However - from the beginning, his very first post - before she even got angry, it does sound as if he felt intruded upon, and that his communications with his family were being "approved" by her. Which is something I would think is a problem.

Also, her reaction did sound somewhat childish to me - stomping off to bed.

But an absolute conclusion - no. Do I probably stand by my thoughts - yes.
Splitting hairs. Perhaps she stomped off because of his attitude when she spoke up! We had to be there to know, perish that thought.
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Old Feb 26th 2008, 6:23 am
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Splitting hairs. Perhaps she stomped off because of his attitude when she spoke up! We had to be there to know, perish that thought.
Well we can never know for sure, of course, if we weren't there.

But actually - I remember when I said "there are two sides" I was referring to the fact that he had one too - when he originally seemed to be figuring out how to make it up to her.
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This is why we do most of our laughing in bed at night.

FACT!
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Old Feb 26th 2008, 7:07 am
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This is why we do most of our laughing in bed at night.
FACT!
We have a plastic bathtub - its not as cold as an iron one.
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Old Feb 26th 2008, 7:09 am
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This is why we do most of our laughing in bed at night.

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That is a very dangerous post.
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Old Feb 26th 2008, 7:30 am
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That is a very dangerous post.
But it is very true. I do Harpo Marx routines. Well as best as I can without a bicycle horn.
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Old Feb 26th 2008, 7:32 am
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Originally Posted by Xebedee
We have a plastic bathtub - its not as cold as an iron one.
Aye, but a deep cast iron bathtub (like mine, for example) retains the heat of the water longer than a plastic bathtub. ... ...

And cold my foot... bunkum, hogwash, rhubarb...

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Aye, but a deep cast iron bathtub (like mine, for example) retains the heat of the water longer than a plastic bathtub. ... ...

And cold my foot... bunkum, hogwash, rhubarb...

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I agree with you on that. The cheapy plastic ones they install standard in homes now days suck. I'd love to have a nice deep tub like that. The kind you can fill up to your neck and still have some room before it starts draining out the safety outlet. To this day my mom craves the tub that we had in Germany. Good quality and super deep.
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I agree with you on that. The cheapy plastic ones they install standard in homes now days suck. I'd love to have a nice deep tub like that. The kind you can fill up to your neck and still have some room before it starts draining out the safety outlet. To this day my mom craves the tub that we had in Germany. Good quality and super deep.
Yep, and why not indeed... to luxuriate in a deep hot tub instead of a shallow type thing that offers virtually no real sense of bathing pleasure. My OH, when here, loves it, bathes in it, reads in it, and takes leisure time soaking away any stresses and strains. That, added with a nice glass of wine when desired ...

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Originally Posted by britex01
Yep, and why not indeed... to luxuriate in a deep hot tub instead of a shallow type thing that offers virtually no real sense of bathing pleasure. My OH, when here, loves it, bathes in it, reads in it, and takes leisure time soaking away any stresses and strains. That, added with a nice glass of wine when desired ...

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Oooohhh! I want to do that right now. God that sounds so good. I'd fire up my iPod of some classical Boccherini or my new age stuff by Steve Roach and just drift away with the suds.


Dammit! Where's Calgon when I need it.
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Oooohhh! I want to do that right now. God that sounds so good. I'd fire up my iPod of some classical Boccherini or my new age stuff by Steve Roach and just drift away with the suds.


Dammit! Where's Calgon when I need it.
Calgon take me away!
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Originally Posted by ugacrew
Oooohhh! I want to do that right now. God that sounds so good. I'd fire up my iPod of some classical Boccherini or my new age stuff by Steve Roach and just drift away with the suds.


Dammit! Where's Calgon when I need it.
Such simple pleasures as that, I admit, are good for the soul ... ... And hey, a decent bath can be thought as an essential asset towards one's overall sense of well-being, can it not?

Les Cailloux or a nice Chardonnay, jeune dame? ...

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Originally Posted by ugacrew
Dammit! Where's Calgon when I need it.
No idea! I haven't see Cal in ages.
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No idea! I haven't see Cal in ages.
Well of course. He's gon.
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