Marriage soon to USC
Oct 2nd 2006, 4:48 am
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Re: Marriage soon to USC
Originally Posted by andrea874
I really think my favorite part of this whole thread is how the 'highly educated' OP states that he "excepts" responsibility for his actions....
Freudian slip...
Oct 2nd 2006, 4:49 am
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Re: Marriage soon to USC
So well put Rete.
Is it just me (and presumably you) or is there a ‘holier than thou/elitist/skate by if I can’ kind of attitude by the OP? And most importantly, he doesn’t see it ...
Just as you say here, I told him last week - “No worries - fret about nothing. I'm sure it'll all work out”. And he asked me “what’s your point”.
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Yes – the scary thing is, it probably WILL all work out for him.
I just don’t get, why if you have a wealthy fiancé (wealthy, not just rich, but wealthy) would you not retain the most top of the top legal counsel in this field and have him/her address and manage your concerns & affairs on the matter? Why would you get on an online forum to get suggestions and feedback ...
What’s with people?
Is it just me (and presumably you) or is there a ‘holier than thou/elitist/skate by if I can’ kind of attitude by the OP? And most importantly, he doesn’t see it ...
Just as you say here, I told him last week - “No worries - fret about nothing. I'm sure it'll all work out”. And he asked me “what’s your point”.
Sigh
Yes – the scary thing is, it probably WILL all work out for him.
I just don’t get, why if you have a wealthy fiancé (wealthy, not just rich, but wealthy) would you not retain the most top of the top legal counsel in this field and have him/her address and manage your concerns & affairs on the matter? Why would you get on an online forum to get suggestions and feedback ...
What’s with people?
Originally Posted by Rete
Jenney
Note the un-noticed remark in his post.
Who gives a chit about this character. He is above the law and can get away with it (at least he hopes so). Will probably enter Canada or Mexico, fly to the UK and return the same way with a driver's license.
He won't be the first to overcome hurdles and won't be the last to do it and get away with it.
Note the un-noticed remark in his post.
Who gives a chit about this character. He is above the law and can get away with it (at least he hopes so). Will probably enter Canada or Mexico, fly to the UK and return the same way with a driver's license.
He won't be the first to overcome hurdles and won't be the last to do it and get away with it.
Oct 2nd 2006, 6:00 am
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Re: Marriage soon to USC
Originally Posted by janadeen
What’s with people?
If my optimistic attitude and high hopes for the situation translates into my being an elitist, I might be compelled to ask "what's with you?"
Certainly by this comment "Yes – the scary thing is, it probably WILL all work out for him.", I'd definitely beg that question of you.
Would you prefer the opposite, just to spite me? To teach me a lesson?
Would in hearing that I'd failed satisfy 'your' need for justice?
I cannot sit here for the next year or two worrying that my plans will backfire, because it's not productive for me to do so, but I can prepare myself for the worst.
Oct 2nd 2006, 6:02 am
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Re: Marriage soon to USC
Originally Posted by Jenney & Mark
Did this attorney mention that if you leave the US -- married to a USC or not -- you will be banned from the country for 10 years? Or did you not tell her about your new sponsorship plans?
~ Jenney
~ Jenney
Oct 2nd 2006, 6:06 am
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Re: Marriage soon to USC
Originally Posted by fatbrit
The UK solicitor should communicate with your US immigration attorney to ensure that you are not pleading guilty to a charge that screws you up with US immigration down the road.
Leaving the US now before marriage AOS will make life much more complicated.
Leaving the US now before marriage AOS will make life much more complicated.
Oct 2nd 2006, 6:14 am
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Re: Marriage soon to USC
What bothers people, at the least ones here, is that we have all lived by the premise that there are laws in this country, right or wrong, and we have worked within the convoluted regulations of those laws to either get our loved ones here legally and/or ourselves, if we were the foreign spouse.
Yes, it pi$$es us off that there are people, such as yourself, and so many others who by virtue of their uwillingness to play by the rules instead make their own, can by pass the trials and tribulations that we have gone through and come out smelling like a rose bush alibet one with thorns.
Personally, as I said, I don't like care for people like you in any walk of life. I love an affirmative attitude and the will to succeed. However, only if the way to success is without stepping on people and/or bypassing the system that others have to go by to succeed. It is not giving the system a bad name but humanity, IMHO.
Yes, it pi$$es us off that there are people, such as yourself, and so many others who by virtue of their uwillingness to play by the rules instead make their own, can by pass the trials and tribulations that we have gone through and come out smelling like a rose bush alibet one with thorns.
Personally, as I said, I don't like care for people like you in any walk of life. I love an affirmative attitude and the will to succeed. However, only if the way to success is without stepping on people and/or bypassing the system that others have to go by to succeed. It is not giving the system a bad name but humanity, IMHO.
Originally Posted by BigTroubleinLittleChina
What's with people is a question we find ourselves asking a lot.
If my optimistic attitude and high hopes for the situation translates into my being an elitist, I might be compelled to ask "what's with you?"
Certainly by this comment "Yes – the scary thing is, it probably WILL all work out for him.", I'd definitely beg that question of you.
Would you prefer the opposite, just to spite me? To teach me a lesson?
Would in hearing that I'd failed satisfy 'your' need for justice?
I cannot sit here for the next year or two worrying that my plans will backfire, because it's not productive for me to do so, but I can prepare myself for the worst.
If my optimistic attitude and high hopes for the situation translates into my being an elitist, I might be compelled to ask "what's with you?"
Certainly by this comment "Yes – the scary thing is, it probably WILL all work out for him.", I'd definitely beg that question of you.
Would you prefer the opposite, just to spite me? To teach me a lesson?
Would in hearing that I'd failed satisfy 'your' need for justice?
I cannot sit here for the next year or two worrying that my plans will backfire, because it's not productive for me to do so, but I can prepare myself for the worst.
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Oct 2nd 2006, 6:17 am
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Re: Marriage soon to USC
Originally Posted by BigTroubleinLittleChina
Would you prefer the opposite, just to spite me? To teach me a lesson?
Would in hearing that I'd failed satisfy 'your' need for justice?
You must feel great in Church.
Oct 2nd 2006, 6:36 am
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Re: Marriage soon to USC
Originally Posted by andrea874
I really think my favorite part of this whole thread is how the 'highly educated' OP states that he "excepts" responsibility for his actions....
Oct 2nd 2006, 6:38 am
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Re: Marriage soon to USC
Originally Posted by Rete
bypassing the system that others have to go by to succeed. It is not giving the system a bad name but humanity, IMHO.
How can you justify saying that I'm giving humanity a bad name?
When and if I get my citizenship in this Country, I'm sure it won't have been an easy road by any means and I've suffered enough internally over the years, even thinking about the prospect of having to deal with this.
People like you don't question law, you swear by it blindly and stand by the morality of it, even if it's flawed, yet I ask a question of you.
Have you ever broken a single law in your life? Think about it.
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Oct 2nd 2006, 6:42 am
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Re: Marriage soon to USC
Originally Posted by Sally
Yes, I would.
You must feel great in Church.
You must feel great in Church.
The fact that you would participate in an online conversation and come to wish all out failure on an unknown person speaks volumes about your personality.
Oct 2nd 2006, 6:58 am
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Re: Marriage soon to USC
Originally Posted by BigTroubleinLittleChina
I haven't consulted with an attorney at this point, I've spoken with a British solicitor.
Oct 2nd 2006, 6:59 am
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Re: Marriage soon to USC
Originally Posted by BigTroubleinLittleChina
There's far worse things happening in this world than some man breaking a few rules to be with the person he loves.
How can you justify saying that I'm giving humanity a bad name?
When and if I get my citizenship in this Country, I'm sure it won't have been an easy road by any means and I've suffered enough internally over the years, even thinking about the prospect of having to deal with this.
People like you don't question law, you swear by it blindly and stand by the morality of it, even if it's flawed, yet I ask a question of you.
Have you ever broken a single law in your life? Think about it.
Yes, Mr. U I have broken laws in my life. And I have paid the fines for those broken laws and lived up to my responsibility for having done so.
Now a question for you? Why can't you do the same??????
Oct 2nd 2006, 7:00 am
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Re: Marriage soon to USC
Originally Posted by olliewat
Before you even consider leaving "un-noticed" and re-entering the US, you should really speak with a US immigration attorney. There might be a difference of opinion.
I've yet to consider it too seriously. But I will ask if it's a possibility.
Oct 2nd 2006, 7:10 am
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Re: Marriage soon to USC
Originally Posted by Rete
I don't have to justify my feelings for you.
Originally Posted by Rete
My fondest wish is for your rejection. You suffer? You won't allow that to occur. You'll find a way to bypass any suffering.
Concentrate now. Don't want you to waste another.
Originally Posted by Rete
Yes, Mr. U I have broken laws in my life. And I have paid the fines for those broken laws and lived up to my responsibility for having done so.
Now a question for you? Why can't you do the same??????
I hope to be as admirable as you someday too.
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Oct 2nd 2006, 7:22 am
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Re: Marriage soon to USC
Originally Posted by BigTroubleinLittleChina
I hope to be as admirable as you someday too.
