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Re: So hard to move on...

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Originally Posted by ian-mstm (Post 9233738)

What do you mean he "didn't do anything yet"? Stalking is illegal. You know that, right? He's not following you... he's targeting you!

Legal definition of stalking

A form of harassment generally comprised of repeated persistent following with no legitimate reason and with the intention of harming, or so as to arouse anxiety or fear of harm in the person being followed. Stalking may also take the form of harassing telephone calls, computer communications, letter-writing, etc.

http://law.yourdictionary.com/stalking

Legal definition of harassment

Unjustifiable conduct, typically persistent and repetitive, aimed at an individual, that causes distress or discomfort.

http://law.yourdictionary.com/harassment

I doubt that what he did recently would be considered stalking or harassment. Normally you have to give specific instances of such behavior. Just trying to find and/or contact someone is neither stalking or harassment in a legal sense.

Re: So hard to move on...

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Originally Posted by Michael (Post 9235376)

A form of harassment generally comprised of repeated persistent following with no legitimate reason and with the intention of harming, or so as to arouse anxiety or fear of harm in the person being followed. Stalking may also take the form of harassing telephone calls, computer communications, letter-writing, etc.

Why are you being so obtuse? Even in the definition you posted, there's the word "generally" - which means neither always or even consistently... and then there's the whole bit about "... so as to arouse anxiety ... in the person being followed."

The guy is an abuser. He will never stop, and he will escalate the situation. Why are you deliberately trying to minimize the danger he poses?

Ian

Re: So hard to move on...

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Originally Posted by ian-mstm (Post 9235767)

Why are you being so obtuse? Even in the definition you posted, there's the word "generally" - which means neither always or even consistently... and then there's the whole bit about "... so as to arouse anxiety ... in the person being followed."

The guy is an abuser. He will never stop, and he will escalate the situation. Why are you deliberately trying to minimize the danger he poses?

Ian

I'm not minimizing the danger but just indicating that a permanent restraining order will likely not be granted based on his current actions. The older actions would probably not carry much credence since of the amount of time that has passed and she kept living with him and when she finally filed for a restraining order she didn't attempt to make it permanent.

Now she could get lucky where he doesn't show up to contest the restraining order so it will then be granted by default.

Re: So hard to move on...

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Originally Posted by Michael (Post 9235921)

The older actions would probably not carry much credence since of the amount of time that has passed and she kept living with him and when she finally filed for a restraining order she didn't attempt to make it permanent.

Pray that you never experience the same psychological horror as abuse victims. The victim fears retribution by the abuser... all the time... even when the abuser isn't there. Her actions are totally consistent.

Ian

Re: Abusive Spouse and Moving On Emotionally and Physically

I appreciate everyone's passion in this thread.

The OP should start a new one with her immigration questions. You gentlemen should consider how your personal tangents affect the OP's immediate situation.
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