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Re: Abusive Spouse and Moving On Emotional
Originally Posted by ian-mstm
(Post 9231601)
She does if she wants to completely avoid her abuser! Did you miss that bit?
Ian |
Re: Abusive Spouse and Moving On Emotional
Originally Posted by g1ant
(Post 9231672)
You know what I meant.
If you don't have anything constructive to add - don't bother posting. Ian |
Re: Abusive Spouse and Moving On Emotional
Guys, please, this thread is already OT enough.
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Re: So hard to move on...
Originally Posted by crosscountryrider
(Post 9230731)
Hello,
I agree with Ian last response. Also file your divorce right away - it's easy. If you go to your court they most likely will help you to fill out the form if you explain your situation. He will receive a order to appear in court and if he doesn't appear he will have to find good reasons why not otherwise he will end up in jail. Also I saw that he is trying to figure out where you are. I would definitely dicuss a permanent protection order with court based on your evidence. We just had a couple of standoffs ( domestic violence) with similar cases and I consider those guys as potentially dangerous. When you file a divorce you might pull the trigger to make him explode. I hope not but my experience with similar cases just let me be cautious. I am not counsellor but a Emergency responder and we deal with cases like this a lot (unfortunately). Again as written in my first response -be cautious! Also a advise (this a tough one) : Try not get too much emotionally involved again - just see this a necessary series of task to resolve technical problem. Find some friends who will support you through the process. And as Ian said -DO NOT TALK WITH HIM .Talk with court and agencies which can help to resolve the problem! If you need any advise how to deal with the court just let me know .Also I have work with them as well and can ask them for some guidance at any time. Good luck CCR Unfortunately--I didn't show up on the 1 year protective order, I was scared. I guess I never deal with this like this before. But can I get another restraining order again if later on he started to call or stalk me eventhough I didn't do the 1 year permanent restraining order? |
Re: Abusive Spouse and Moving On Emotional
Originally Posted by Jerseygirl
(Post 9231311)
What you have to understand is the guy you fell in love with doesn't really exist...it was all an act. The guy who mistreated you is the real person and he will not and cannot change who he is.
I kept pushing the thoughts to myself now so I won't give myself a blink to even care about him. |
Re: So hard to move on...
Originally Posted by WA_Gurl 2009
(Post 9232068)
Hi CCR,
Unfortunately--I didn't show up on the 1 year protective order, I was scared. I guess I never deal with this like this before. But can I get another restraining order again if later on he started to call or stalk me eventhough I didn't do the 1 year permanent restraining order? He will receive a order to appear in court and if he doesn't appear he will have to find good reasons why not otherwise he will end up in jail. |
Re: Abusive Spouse and Moving On Emotionally and Physically
I'd suggest that you start another thread if you want some advice on the "moving on" part that does not have to do with USCIS/ICE. Separate out some of the very justified emotions away from the practical advice that you must consider for immigration.
I didn't read through all of the posts, but you must keep your PR status, whatever it is, current, and file to renew at the appropriate times. You do not need your husband/ex-husband to do this. If you are not a citizen, you will need to file change of address forms with USCIS. Keep current with this. |
Re: So hard to move on...
Originally Posted by WA_Gurl 2009
(Post 9232068)
But can I get another restraining order again if later on he started to call or stalk me eventhough I didn't do the 1 year permanent restraining order?
Ian |
Re: Abusive Spouse and Moving On Emotional
Not a good idea in this situation. This woman needs more than simply to be un-married.
Regards, JEff
Originally Posted by g1ant
(Post 9230946)
You can do the divorce yourself. All the information you need is out there on the net. You don't need a lawyer.
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Re: Abusive Spouse and Moving On Emotionally and Physically
I think a good place to start would be to contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline.
Information on: http://www.thehotline.org/ They will answer all your questions and provided you with constructive advice and tangible support in your area. Don't worry about talking to them (ie. ref your PR status)--they are more interested in helping you and will keep your information private. Good luck! |
Re: So hard to move on...
Originally Posted by Michael
(Post 9232138)
If he threatens or stalks you, the answer is yes. If he leaves threating messages on you answering machine, e-mail, or text messages, save those so that you have proof.
Highly unlikely that he will be put in jail since this is a civil matter. Usually the judge will just grant the divorce if a party doesn't show up. Then he will have to try to appeal the order (then he will need a good reason for the appeal) before the divorce is final. He still trying to get me back--so I bet he's trying to be super nice now, don't know later when he blow up--he might do something. |
Re: So hard to move on...
Originally Posted by Michael
(Post 9232138)
If he threatens or stalks you, the answer is yes. If he leaves threating messages on you answering machine, e-mail, or text messages, save those so that you have proof.
Highly unlikely that he will be put in jail since this is a civil matter. Usually the judge will just grant the divorce if a party doesn't show up. Then he will have to try to appeal the order (then he will need a good reason for the appeal) before the divorce is final. Appearantly he will go into jail if he is in contempt of the court. It's with the judge how he want to handle the case. In particular if it come to the separation agreement and OP or court wants to decide in favour of the OP. Kind Regards CCR |
Re: So hard to move on...
Originally Posted by WA_Gurl 2009
(Post 9232068)
Hi CCR,
Unfortunately--I didn't show up on the 1 year protective order, I was scared. I guess I never deal with this like this before. But can I get another restraining order again if later on he started to call or stalk me eventhough I didn't do the 1 year permanent restraining order? yes you will get another protection order.I would strongly recommend to get a attorney from a welfare or charity or even a ask the court to assign a attorney if you want to get a protection order. But no doubts that you will get another one . ( will be decided incident by incident ). Hope this helps CCR |
Re: So hard to move on...
Originally Posted by WA_Gurl 2009
(Post 9233672)
This far he only stalked me because he wanted to know where I live, but didn't do anything yet.
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Re: So hard to move on...
Originally Posted by WA_Gurl 2009
(Post 9233672)
This far he only stalked me because he wanted to know where I live, but didn't do anything yet.
... later when he blow up--he might do something. Protect yourself NOW... later may be too late! Ian |
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