Originally Posted by burton bunch

Hi all

I am having terrible trouble with my 12 year old girl at the mo.

Hubby is in Canada at the mo as he had to go start his new job and as quite a few of you know I am left here to sell the house and look after the kids.

Over the last 12 months Hannah has been complaining of stomach aches and headaches which the doctor has diagnosed as being Migraine, and because of the severity of these Migraines has had to miss some school days.

I have now gotten to the point with her that she is suffering from them for days on end, with nausea and a kind of deep depression, and she doesnt seem to be able to shake them off and they are going on for days and days. She wont eat, sleep or talk to hardly anyone .

She is a Year 7 student at the local High School here in the UK and through trying to drag information out of bits of conversations I have managed with her over the past couple of days she has told me how desparately unhappy she is at her High School and that she doesnt know how she actually gets there in the morning. She has even admitted to me that she has considered playing truant from certain lessons.

I can hear you saying well it's her age - but knowing my daughter I know that this is not what she is usually like. I am also aware that upset like this ,due to school, is not helping the Migraine but probably triggering them.

I cannot request a school move as the school know we are in the process of coming to Canada - and I feel that they are very unlikely to move her due to them considering all the extra administration wil just be a waste of time.

So my only solution is to send her off to dad in Canada so that she can also start her new life, but due to the amount of money it would cost for all 3 of us to go (2 of us on a return ticket) I cannot justify taking her - and as dad as just started his job he cannot take any leave as he will probably want to take that when we all arrive for good.

Any suggestions ??? Have suggested that she go unaccompanied minor but the problem being is that she will have to "land" on her own and sort out a study permit which I feel is way too much for a 12 year old to be expected to do.

Gaynor
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Originally Posted by welshmaid

Hi
I dont have kids of my own, but I do know when my neices moved to New Zealand the younger one who was 14 at the time went through what you daughter is. They still had 2 months before they moved but her dad had to leave to start work. My sister in law laid down the law in her school as they didnt seem to want to help as they new she would be leaving soon.
But it got sorted, the whole school new she was leaving and everyone was asking her about her move, she felt like a queen for the last few weeks of term.