I've never been back and have no plans to.

Personal and misplaced dig aside, aren't you rather missing the point about families? Good and bad parts, rough with the smooth and all that.

I'm too chicken sh1t to say no. I would love to say eff off after 3 days please but what comes out of my mouth is more like "sounds great, stay as long as you like."

I like my visitors, the current one especially but it is tiring trying to be a good host and tour guide. I don't keep in touch with people I don't like so they wouldn't be asking to visit.

What about those friends from whom you may have drifted apart, and don't necessarily want to see, but who are keen to visit you (for their own convenience)? I have one like that, I don't wish to be rude, but at the same time, dislike being asked for hospitality after years of minimal contact.

When it's the in-laws there's an obligation to have them visit so you don't always have a choice, but I haven't spent a single night in their house and have no intention to ever do so. I have happily paid for hotels so I don't have to stay with them.

our visitors are told before they arrive ...we all work ....cant afford tae eat out much...if you use the truck you better put fuel in it and YOU buy the flat o beer and WE are not a café...and enjoy your self!

i suppose that would depend on how long they wanted to stay and how much it matters if you offend them by refusing.

I don't have anyone in that category really. I dont send Christmas cards so any other contact is meant. I'm a marmite type of person, either loved or hated so people who ask to visit want to see us and not bum free accomodation.

Here's the answer

I love this thread. Makes me realize I'm by no means the only one who finds it difficult to tolerate guests. I'm always so relieved to have the place back to myself.

My daughter is always asking to have friends to sleep over. I dread it.

S

As a positive counter point. I love it when my brother visits. I get to see him every two years or so.
I don't mind acting as a fully inclusive resort for him, as he spends a lot of his time doing stuff for my parents. Running them to hospital appointments and the like.
I consider it my way of thanking him for all he does for them.
He's also hilarious to be around

Why would you ever take tea with your worst enemy?

Keep your friends close and your enemies closer.

Obviously you don't get humour very well here do you?