Visitor fatigue
Sep 21st 2016, 8:54 pm
#16
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Re: Visitor fatigue
About a day, having visitors stresses me out.
Sep 21st 2016, 9:27 pm
#17
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Re: Visitor fatigue
So glad I'm not alone! I do look forward to the visitors but it's so tiring,
Sep 21st 2016, 9:55 pm
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Re: Visitor fatigue
Seven days in to a fourteen day visit and I'm feeling battered. My visitor has done nothing wrong, she's friendly, helpful, no trouble at all but I'm feeling the strain of entertaining, deciding what to eat, where to visit, what to see. Talking even, I'm not used to talking and listening all day.
How long do you last before you collapse on the couch clutching paracetamol?
How long do you last before you collapse on the couch clutching paracetamol?
Being in New Zealand we seem to have an annual stream of visitors. I love seeing them and playing catch up and all that but it is as you say, quite hard work to make their stay enjoyable as it can be.
My days are quite quiet without people around all the time so I know what you mean about the talking and listening. I usually find I end up with a weird type of sore throat which I think is my vocal chords getting rid of the rust on them.
Sep 21st 2016, 10:01 pm
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Re: Visitor fatigue
I think a lot of you are just looking for things to be stressed out by. I'd of thought most of you would be at work all day and so your visitors would just take care of themselves, then all you have to do is meet up for dinner somewhere. 
Sep 21st 2016, 10:48 pm
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Re: Visitor fatigue
We normally have at least 3 sets of visitors a year. Some take care of themselves, others have to be wet nursed. The only things that irritate me are everyone sits around and waits for me to get home to cook, and they all think we are on holiday too. So staying up drinking until 2am every freakin night is acceptable.
Sep 21st 2016, 11:04 pm
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Re: Visitor fatigue
In 10 years in Australia I've had one visitor who stayed 2 weeks. I work all day so gave her the bus/train schedule and a bunch of pamphlets of stuff to do.
When I visit Canada I either stay with my sister, which is like being at home, or if I'm not alone I stay at an AirBNB house so I can do what I want and not impose.
When I visit Canada I either stay with my sister, which is like being at home, or if I'm not alone I stay at an AirBNB house so I can do what I want and not impose.
Sep 22nd 2016, 12:09 am
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Re: Visitor fatigue
Well done on making it to 7 days! When the in-laws came to visit 1 day was too long, and they stayed for 3 weeks 
We had a number of things planned for them but the only things they wanted to do was sit in the garden and eat at expensive restaurants. 
(Cheap) alcohol did help.
We had a number of things planned for them but the only things they wanted to do was sit in the garden and eat at expensive restaurants. (Cheap) alcohol did help.
Sep 22nd 2016, 12:12 am
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Re: Visitor fatigue
Well done on making it to 7 days! When the in-laws came to visit 1 day was too long, and they stayed for 3 weeks We had a number of things planned for them but the only things they wanted to do was sit in the garden and eat at expensive restaurants. (Cheap) alcohol did help.
We had a number of things planned for them but the only things they wanted to do was sit in the garden and eat at expensive restaurants. (Cheap) alcohol did help.Do live anywhere nice?
Sep 22nd 2016, 12:19 am
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Re: Visitor fatigue
No, but they never do anything else at home so I suppose they just wanted to continue as normal, and the restaurants weren't anything special but they just wanted the ones that cost more even if they weren't better than the cheaper ones
and just in case it isn't obvious I don't like the in-laws
and just in case it isn't obvious I don't like the in-laws
Sep 22nd 2016, 12:22 am
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Re: Visitor fatigue
Sep 22nd 2016, 12:25 am
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Re: Visitor fatigue
No, but they never do anything else at home so I suppose they just wanted to continue as normal, and the restaurants weren't anything special but they just wanted the ones that cost more even if they weren't better than the cheaper ones
and just in case it isn't obvious I don't like the in-laws
and just in case it isn't obvious I don't like the in-laws
Were they picking up the tab?
Sep 22nd 2016, 12:49 am
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Re: Visitor fatigue
They offered once or maybe twice, but otherwise we were, so they had to slum it a few times 
and we certainly knew they weren't happy about it. Oh well, they haven't been back since, so maybe that's the answer if you want the visits cut short 
and we certainly knew they weren't happy about it. Oh well, they haven't been back since, so maybe that's the answer if you want the visits cut short
Sep 22nd 2016, 2:59 am
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Re: Visitor fatigue
I don't get many visitors, which is just as well. The worst thing about moving so far away is that any who do come want to stay for so long to make it 'worth it'. It doesn't take long before everything annoys me unfortunately. Someone just being there is such a strain that even people trying not to be annoying is annoying.