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Old Sep 21st 2016, 2:31 pm
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Seven days in to a fourteen day visit and I'm feeling battered. My visitor has done nothing wrong, she's friendly, helpful, no trouble at all but I'm feeling the strain of entertaining, deciding what to eat, where to visit, what to see. Talking even, I'm not used to talking and listening all day.

How long do you last before you collapse on the couch clutching paracetamol?
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Old Sep 21st 2016, 2:39 pm
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I turned our spare bedroom into a dressing room. Visitor problem solved.
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Old Sep 21st 2016, 2:43 pm
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Originally Posted by bats
Seven days in to a fourteen day visit and I'm feeling battered. My visitor has done nothing wrong, she's friendly, helpful, no trouble at all but I'm feeling the strain of entertaining, deciding what to eat, where to visit, what to see. Talking even, I'm not used to talking and listening all day.

How long do you last before you collapse on the couch clutching paracetamol?
I don't get many visitors, which is just as well. The worst thing about moving so far away is that any who do come want to stay for so long to make it 'worth it'. It doesn't take long before everything annoys me unfortunately. Someone just being there is such a strain that even people trying not to be annoying is annoying.
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Old Sep 21st 2016, 2:44 pm
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I feel your pain. We used to have almost entire families descend on us for three weeks at a time - they felt that since they were coming such a long way it was important to maximize their visit!
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Old Sep 21st 2016, 2:44 pm
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Originally Posted by bats

How long do you last before you collapse on the couch clutching paracetamol?
For you, I'd recommend clutching a bottle of gin instead.

Hang in there, I can't usually manage as long as you have already.
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Old Sep 21st 2016, 2:45 pm
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Lol, it's time the visitor did some self exploring now u shown them the ropes.

Or take em to a spa, and treat the both of you :@)
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Old Sep 21st 2016, 2:55 pm
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For you, I'd recommend clutching a bottle of gin instead.

Hang in there, I can't usually manage as long as you have already.
Oh yes, copious quantities of gin and tonic are being downed. Visitor makes them but with not enough gin or ice.

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Lol, it's time the visitor did some self exploring now u shown them the ropes.

Or take em to a spa, and treat the both of you :@)
Newly retired so not much income these days. Visitor has gone out for a long walk so I'm basking in the silence.

Haha, maybe we'll come and take you out for a Timmies! That's almost like a spa????
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Visitors are like fish. After three days, they smell. Having said that we've just had BIL/SIL for two weeks (16 days) and they were quite happy to sit in back garden, sunbathing and reading which suited me just fine. They're actually quite good company but we're glad to get back to our regular routine. They've been before so we've done all the touristy things with them.
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Old Sep 21st 2016, 3:52 pm
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Understandable.

To answer your question: 3 days.
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Old Sep 21st 2016, 4:09 pm
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I feel your pain. We are six days in on a visit from MIL, only another 27!!! to go. It's hard work trying to keep cheery and keep her occupied.
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Originally Posted by bats
Seven days in to a fourteen day visit and I'm feeling battered. My visitor has done nothing wrong, she's friendly, helpful, no trouble at all but I'm feeling the strain of entertaining, deciding what to eat, where to visit, what to see. Talking even, I'm not used to talking and listening all day.

How long do you last before you collapse on the couch clutching paracetamol?
I know where you are coming from, but i have only had 2 visitors in the 7 years ive been here and no family, so i suppose its more of a novelty to me when they do come, if they come.

Only problem with me is the exception of a few obvious tourist attractions, and as im single most my entertainng takes place in various pubs! lol so its like a holiday anyway..... I remember the wife of my last visitor feeling a bit pubbed out at the end of it.....so it worked the opposite away for me! lol

I may be saying the opposite if and when they do come though.....as they make statements like when we do come, we want to make it worth it. I odnt get that, its just a 7 hour flight, whats the big deal???
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I may be saying the opposite if and when they do come though.....as they make statements like when we do come, we want to make it worth it. I odnt get that, its just a 7 hour flight, whats the big deal???
Have you asked them what the big deal is about? Could it be some kind of protest?
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Last time my parents were visiting I managed a week and a half. Which is a week longer than usual...for that I thank my medication!
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Last time my parents were visiting I managed a week and a half. Which is a week longer than usual...for that I thank my medication!
The only visitors I get are a couple of active service officers on leave. I just give them a key and fob and leave them to it. No tour-guiding needed as apparently their only goal while here is to hook up with as many girls they can, but as I have a rule that they can't bring any back to our place, I don't see much of them. My mother on the other hand checks into a hotel when she comes to visit, not out of any sense of good grace its just she wouldn't step foot in our meager apartment.
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We stay in a hotel when we go to our daughter's for Christmas visits ........... her husband can't stand his routine being disrupted for more than 3 days. We're usually there for 9 days.

He has been diagnosed as high on the autism scale .............. extremely intelligent, low on social skills, and this dislike of upset routines is one of the common symptoms in a lot of people!

After several trips of attempting to live with his antics, pushing ourselves as far into the corner as possible so we'd be out of the way, etc etc, we finally decided 2 years ago that it made for a much better, much less stressful and therefore more enjoyable visit if we went stayed somewhere else.

Of course it makes the trip to see them about $1200 more expensive

We've usually been lucky ourselves ............ our visitors have wanted to see other parts of BC, or visit with friends elsewhere. Our visits from mother-i-l were usually split into two ................ she would make sure she spent equal time with OH and his sister who lived 800 km north of here. If she came for a 4 week visit, she'd spend the first and last weeks with us, her daughter had her for 2 weeks.


We've just had a couple visiting from the UK ........... drove from Calgary to here, spent Friday to Tuesday with us, then drove back to Calgary. They camped much of the time. The guy had been several times before, so after one day when OH showed them the sights, they took themselves off and guy showed his new partner around. We saw them in the morning for breakfast and then not until dinner.

Still, the talking and the drinking tired us out!
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