Teenager
Mar 12th 2008 | 8:59 pm
#46
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Joined: Feb 2008
Posts: 85
From: UK
Re: Teenager
I so feel for you. We had/have similar 'problems'.
Three years ago we decided that we wanted to move to and live in Canada (my childhood dream). Went on a holiday with hubby and son (then 13); daughter (then 17) didn't want to come. Holiday was great and we bought a holiday home in Canada shortly after, and the three of us were so excited about a possible move to Canada; daughter still didn't want to know (we kept thinking that she would eventually change her mind).
Last year (a year after applying for PR) our son changed his mind. He was determined that he wouldn't ever move to Canada should PR be granted. We still kept on going, researching, planning.
My daughter's behaviour also got worse. She told me she would hate and never forgive me (mum) if we ever moved away from the UK. She asked me how I could ever consider deserting her?! We still kept on going, researching, planning.
A few months ago my son surprised me when he told me 'I would really like to go to school in Canada once I have finished my GCSE's this year'. So now I am planning on getting a student visa (school stuff has already been sorted).
My daughter (now 20 and mum to 5-months-old baby girl), also seems to be coming around. She is having major problems with her boyfriend (she thinks that he might not be the right one after all - after mum and dad have told her this for years!), and although she is still not planning on coming with us (should PR be granted, or LMO gets approved first), she is understanding more and more that it is something that is very important to us. She can also see now that it wouldn't be a case of me deserting her, as we are still including her in our application.
All I want to say is, that it really depends how much this means to you. I mean, if my kids had thrown a real wobbler I might have reconsidered, but I could see in my sons's case that he was just going through that stupid teenage phase. We've been having a few problems with my daughter for a few years (boyfriend related), so I wasn't surprised by her behaviour either.
What I think is very important is to fully include your children in your plans at every stage. They need to understand what it means to you and what it could do for their quality of life. Even when my daughter didn't want to know I still talked to her, and I guess that is why we have a much better relationship regarding our plans. Teenagers are funny creatures, and I have yet to find a book that explains how they really work.
Good luck to all.
Sabine
Three years ago we decided that we wanted to move to and live in Canada (my childhood dream). Went on a holiday with hubby and son (then 13); daughter (then 17) didn't want to come. Holiday was great and we bought a holiday home in Canada shortly after, and the three of us were so excited about a possible move to Canada; daughter still didn't want to know (we kept thinking that she would eventually change her mind).
Last year (a year after applying for PR) our son changed his mind. He was determined that he wouldn't ever move to Canada should PR be granted. We still kept on going, researching, planning.
My daughter's behaviour also got worse. She told me she would hate and never forgive me (mum) if we ever moved away from the UK. She asked me how I could ever consider deserting her?! We still kept on going, researching, planning.
A few months ago my son surprised me when he told me 'I would really like to go to school in Canada once I have finished my GCSE's this year'. So now I am planning on getting a student visa (school stuff has already been sorted).
My daughter (now 20 and mum to 5-months-old baby girl), also seems to be coming around. She is having major problems with her boyfriend (she thinks that he might not be the right one after all - after mum and dad have told her this for years!), and although she is still not planning on coming with us (should PR be granted, or LMO gets approved first), she is understanding more and more that it is something that is very important to us. She can also see now that it wouldn't be a case of me deserting her, as we are still including her in our application.
All I want to say is, that it really depends how much this means to you. I mean, if my kids had thrown a real wobbler I might have reconsidered, but I could see in my sons's case that he was just going through that stupid teenage phase. We've been having a few problems with my daughter for a few years (boyfriend related), so I wasn't surprised by her behaviour either.
What I think is very important is to fully include your children in your plans at every stage. They need to understand what it means to you and what it could do for their quality of life. Even when my daughter didn't want to know I still talked to her, and I guess that is why we have a much better relationship regarding our plans. Teenagers are funny creatures, and I have yet to find a book that explains how they really work.
Good luck to all.
Sabine
Mar 13th 2008 | 5:08 am
#47
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Joined: Jul 2007
Posts: 1,108
From: Back in Yorkshire
Re: Teenager
I so feel for you. We had/have similar 'problems'.
Three years ago we decided that we wanted to move to and live in Canada (my childhood dream). Went on a holiday with hubby and son (then 13); daughter (then 17) didn't want to come. Holiday was great and we bought a holiday home in Canada shortly after, and the three of us were so excited about a possible move to Canada; daughter still didn't want to know (we kept thinking that she would eventually change her mind).
Last year (a year after applying for PR) our son changed his mind. He was determined that he wouldn't ever move to Canada should PR be granted. We still kept on going, researching, planning.
My daughter's behaviour also got worse. She told me she would hate and never forgive me (mum) if we ever moved away from the UK. She asked me how I could ever consider deserting her?! We still kept on going, researching, planning.
A few months ago my son surprised me when he told me 'I would really like to go to school in Canada once I have finished my GCSE's this year'. So now I am planning on getting a student visa (school stuff has already been sorted).
My daughter (now 20 and mum to 5-months-old baby girl), also seems to be coming around. She is having major problems with her boyfriend (she thinks that he might not be the right one after all - after mum and dad have told her this for years!), and although she is still not planning on coming with us (should PR be granted, or LMO gets approved first), she is understanding more and more that it is something that is very important to us. She can also see now that it wouldn't be a case of me deserting her, as we are still including her in our application.
All I want to say is, that it really depends how much this means to you. I mean, if my kids had thrown a real wobbler I might have reconsidered, but I could see in my sons's case that he was just going through that stupid teenage phase. We've been having a few problems with my daughter for a few years (boyfriend related), so I wasn't surprised by her behaviour either.
What I think is very important is to fully include your children in your plans at every stage. They need to understand what it means to you and what it could do for their quality of life. Even when my daughter didn't want to know I still talked to her, and I guess that is why we have a much better relationship regarding our plans. Teenagers are funny creatures, and I have yet to find a book that explains how they really work.
Good luck to all.
Sabine
Three years ago we decided that we wanted to move to and live in Canada (my childhood dream). Went on a holiday with hubby and son (then 13); daughter (then 17) didn't want to come. Holiday was great and we bought a holiday home in Canada shortly after, and the three of us were so excited about a possible move to Canada; daughter still didn't want to know (we kept thinking that she would eventually change her mind).
Last year (a year after applying for PR) our son changed his mind. He was determined that he wouldn't ever move to Canada should PR be granted. We still kept on going, researching, planning.
My daughter's behaviour also got worse. She told me she would hate and never forgive me (mum) if we ever moved away from the UK. She asked me how I could ever consider deserting her?! We still kept on going, researching, planning.
A few months ago my son surprised me when he told me 'I would really like to go to school in Canada once I have finished my GCSE's this year'. So now I am planning on getting a student visa (school stuff has already been sorted).
My daughter (now 20 and mum to 5-months-old baby girl), also seems to be coming around. She is having major problems with her boyfriend (she thinks that he might not be the right one after all - after mum and dad have told her this for years!), and although she is still not planning on coming with us (should PR be granted, or LMO gets approved first), she is understanding more and more that it is something that is very important to us. She can also see now that it wouldn't be a case of me deserting her, as we are still including her in our application.
All I want to say is, that it really depends how much this means to you. I mean, if my kids had thrown a real wobbler I might have reconsidered, but I could see in my sons's case that he was just going through that stupid teenage phase. We've been having a few problems with my daughter for a few years (boyfriend related), so I wasn't surprised by her behaviour either.
What I think is very important is to fully include your children in your plans at every stage. They need to understand what it means to you and what it could do for their quality of life. Even when my daughter didn't want to know I still talked to her, and I guess that is why we have a much better relationship regarding our plans. Teenagers are funny creatures, and I have yet to find a book that explains how they really work.
Good luck to all.
Sabine
