Rose

So sorry to hear about all this. Hopefully the coming weeks will bring some positives

Hope you are getting all the support you need.

ShitBalls - just seen this
My ma had BC for the second time - this time last year (totally unrelated to first time 15 years before) if you want to pm with any questions or chat about the treatment, pl do xxxxxxx

Personally I'd sit down and have a good howl, it does make you feel better. A few years back we had a similar shitstorm situation that lasted about a good 18 months, and I used to quite often drive to an isolated spot and scream and shout every bad word I could think of, it just got the anger and frustration out without hurting anyone else, sometimes I'd be there a long time. Whatever you feel might be a good idea to help you grope through, give it a go!

Lots a very best wishes.

You still have each other which is your biggest asset. Stay together and fight it together and this too shall pass. You will come out of it stronger and wiser. I have had a shitty year too and I kept in my mind that old chestnut of a quote from Churchill, "When you find yourself going through Hell . . . keep going!"

As said by everyone else, best wishes for a speedy recovery and I hope you can get treatment asap. Two of my sisters are cancer survivors, (breast and ovarian) and it can be beaten. This is the time when retail stores are hiring extra help for the Christmas rush so hopefully your OH can get something soon.

xxx

Shit, what a week.

Best wishes and hoping some good news comes your way soon.

Hope things work out ok for you Rose....sending you good luck vibes xxx

what a shock!! luckily you have many ears on this site ready to listen so vent away.

good luck with your treatment and job hunting.

What a terrible week you are having indeed, so sorry to hear about your health issues.. the job and the car are replaceable so don't worry about them, just concentrate on getting better


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Very best wishes

Holy crap that's a lot for anyone but in the space of a week? I can't think what you must be going through. Heartfelt best wishes and prayers for you and your family.

On a side note, getting diagnosed with cancer did bring up a conversation with some ex pat friends of mine last weekend. 3 Brit nurses all agreed if they got diagnosed with cancer they'd hop on a plane and get back to blightey for treatment (not sure how feasible that is?) because although the care in Canada is good once you get it, as you say it's a long wait list. Whereas the UK don't do the preventative care in the first place, they crisis react and are therefore quicker at getting you in once diagnosed. One friend even went back to Sweden (her home country) in order to receive the initial operation and then came back here to continue with the care, actually recommended by the Canadian doctors to do this too.

Is it something for you to consider? I can imagine at the moment your head is spinning with all kinds of thoughts and questions. Just putting out there.

It had crossed my mind, but not sure if its feasible.

For one thing I have not been resident in UK for over 7years, so don't reckon to qualify for NHS treatment, and with Alan being out of work, finances are a little tight to be flying back for private treatment. I might think some more about that....

I thought I'd bring it up as it had got me thinking "what would I do". Granted I've not been in the UK for 6 years, haven't paid any contributions etc., however not sure how it stands, are they bothered, do they check? Are you entitled because you're a UK Citizen? No clue, maybe someone on here has had some experience.

Unfortunately, no, you are not entitled to treatment - you should show that you are a UK resident. Yes, they do check, though I am sure some slip through the net - and I'm sure, if push came to shove, you could "prove" you are a resident somehow - though you wouldn't be with a GP to refer you...

Rose, if you are going through Tom Baker Centre, I have heard very good things about them - once you are in the system. Let's hope some dates present themselves quickly.