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Originally Posted by scilly
(Post 12480187)
Smithers is a lovely little town ............. we've visited often as had relations who lived there beginning back in 1970.
Town itself is small, just over 5,000, but it is the service centre for the Bulkley Valley so has a lot more services than you think. The hospital is amazing! They managed to diagnose a problem that OH had been suffering for about 5 years ....... mind you, he'd never before seen a medic while suffering an attack! But they are connected, for example, to the Cancer Centre in Vancouver, for example, and can provide chemo in the hospital where so many other places cannot. Patients might have to travel to Prince George, Terrace or Prince Rupert for certain specialised treatment. I don't know what the mental health services are like. Family doctors were in short supply a few years ago, not sure what the current situation is. Our relatives went for about 8 years without a family doctor beginning around 2005. The airport is quite small, last time we flew there was just over 4 years ago (we usually drive), and they had only just got an X-ray machine for luggage ........... only one security gate. Greyhound has cancelled its service there, or is about to. But Smithers is on VIA Rail's The Skeena route between Prince Rupert and Jasper ........... I think the service is a total of 6 times a week, 3 in each direction. The train stops overnight in Prince George in each direction, and passengers have to stay in a hotel. Basically it is one train that just goes back and forth. They do get cold winters, lots of snow, and what is worse ......... freezing and thawing cycles 2 or 3 times a winter, so you end up with snow melting then freezing and snow falling on the top of that. Summers can be hot. Blackfly are bad about June, and mossies can be quite bad. Good skiing on Hudson Bay Mountain, and a super cross country course. I noticed one or two bus stops the last time we were there (summer 2014), but don't know how frequently the buses run. The airport is out of town and you would need transport there. Highway 16 runs east - west through the town, basically dividing it into two ..... that's the Highway of Tears. As always, not sure about rental accommodation. I know we have always wept at seeing the difference in the cost of house there vs Vancouver ........... and that dates all the way back to 1970! 2-3 Bedroom Oceanview Apartment Smithers , British Columbia , V0J Price: $ 695 Period: Monthly Bedrooms: 3 Bathrooms: 1 Incredible views of the harbour. Large bright units. Heat and hot water included in the rent. Just a few minutes drive to downtown However, using google image search,it appears these units are actually in Prince Rupert http://www.homebuyingcenter.ca/harbourview/ |
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Originally Posted by Siouxie
(Post 12480755)
I put a link upthread for rental accommodation, but this one looks pretty good!
2-3 Bedroom Oceanview Apartment Smithers , British Columbia , V0J Price: $ 695 Period: Monthly Bedrooms: 3 Bathrooms: 1 Incredible views of the harbour. Large bright units. Heat and hot water included in the rent. Just a few minutes drive to downtown However, using google image search,it appears these units are actually in Prince Rupert Harbourview – Oceanview Units in Prince Rupert BC There ain't no harbour in Smithers!!!!!!!!!!! It is almost 350 km from Prince Rupert by road, probably a bit less as the crow flies, but that crow would have to fly pretty high to get over the mountain range! Bet that's the owner who lives in Smithers! I can't think of an apartment block in Smithers, although there might be. I know our relative lived in an apartment above one of the Main Street shops back around 1970-72, and that was still there last time I walked down Main Street. Smithers is one of those little mountain towns that was done up as Bavarian back in the late 60s/early 70s, and Main Street is still mainly 2 storey building, with businesses at street level and some apartments above. |
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One issue in smaller communities is rental housing, its available but on a small scale so while rents are lower its also not as easy to find an apartment in smaller communities, not impossible just takes more planning.
Once weather improves and highway driving is no longer at risk for snow, we will go up and check out some of these towns. Any rental also has to be dog friendly which further reduces the available options since majority of rentals are not pet friendly. |
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Originally Posted by Jsmth321
(Post 12482076)
One issue in smaller communities is rental housing, its available but on a small scale so while rents are lower its also not as easy to find an apartment in smaller communities, not impossible just takes more planning.
Any rental also has to be dog friendly which further reduces the available options since majority of rentals are not pet friendly. |
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Originally Posted by Jsmth321
(Post 12482076)
One issue in smaller communities is rental housing, its available but on a small scale so while rents are lower its also not as easy to find an apartment in smaller communities, not impossible just takes more planning.
Once weather improves and highway driving is no longer at risk for snow, we will go up and check out some of these towns. Any rental also has to be dog friendly which further reduces the available options since majority of rentals are not pet friendly. You may find that small houses are an alternative in these small towns. I know our relation moved on from the Main Street apartment to a small house on a side street but still in the middle of town. |
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Originally Posted by Jsmth321
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Ill change the signature when I get to a PC.
Cannot seem to figure out how on the phone/mobile version of the site. The author of the article is pretty good writer. One of the lucky Canadians as well who was near a program that treats borderline. The signature is just how I feel. I really have given up. I just go to work and repeat. No future really. |
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Originally Posted by Jsmth321
(Post 12485448)
Ill change the signature when I get to a PC.
Cannot seem to figure out how on the phone/mobile version of the site. The author of the article is pretty good writer. One of the lucky Canadians as well who was near a program that treats borderline. The signature is just how I feel. I really have given up. I just go to work and repeat. No future really. :) |
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Originally Posted by Jsmth321
(Post 12485448)
I just go to work and repeat. No future really.
The option, which Siouzie has pointed out ain't fun either, so the work and repeat becomes more favourable. Those looking for work would give anything to be in your shoes presently JS. |
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Originally Posted by Jsmth321
(Post 12485628)
"what-not-to-say-to-someone-with-mental-illness"
I think most people know "pull yourself together" or "what have you got to be depressed about" are really not on. But many of those examples (not the god and devil ones, obviously :rolleyes:) are things that are 'postives' that people say to anyone. Or motivational. Encouraging. Like "move on" or "don't worry about things you can't fix." But the writer's opening sentence is One of my fears in talking about my mental health condition is knowing that some people might treat me differently because of it. It makes it all quite difficult for everybody really. :unsure: |
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Originally Posted by BristolUK
(Post 12485644)
Good article but it strikes me as a little contradictory.
I think most people know "pull yourself together" or "what have you got to be depressed about" are really not on. But many of those examples (not the god and devil ones, obviously :rolleyes:) are things that are 'postives' that people say to anyone. Or motivational. Encouraging. Like "move on" or "don't worry about things you can't fix." But the writer's opening sentence is So on the one hand that writer doesn't want to be treated differently because of her mental health while on the other hand she doesn't want you to say to her what would be okay to say to those without MH issues. It makes it all quite difficult for everybody really. :unsure: |
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I do understand JS, truly. ( in response to your earlier post)
I was working 50+ hours a week just to pay the bills and put food on the table and try to make up the deficit from when my hours reduced last year. I don't have benefits as I am self employed so I have to pay for the many medications I now have to take. I don't have unemployment or sick benefit to fall back on either. I don't have a pension or savings for my old age so other than the paltry sum that the UK government will let me have from my years of contributions there which I'll get when I am nearly 67. I don't have enough years of contributions to get very much from the Canadian government either.. my retirement will be non existent, because I can't afford not to work. Being unable to work for the past 3 weeks has resulted in zero income for May, but I still have the financial responsibilities to pay for. Yes, I went away with my sisters for a week last year - but that was my first vacation in 16 years and I was still trying to work enough hours to make up for the time I took off with no income when I had the stroke... I don't get holiday pay. Up until 3 weeks ago, I got up, went online to work, worked for 12 to 16 hours, went to bed, slept, got up .. ad infinitum. I'm sure there's a lot of others on BE that are in a similar situation. It's not fun! It's reality for many.. and it will be my reality for many years to come (albeit with lower hours, as I can no longer work the hours that I did). but it sure beats the alternative! |
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Just frustrstes me.
Paying obscene rent frustrates me to no end. At the end pay 20k in rent a year with nothing to show at the end of it all and constant stress about having to move again at some point with not a ton of notice. Stupid thing is if there were access to the appropriate treatment, I would stand a pretty good chance at a better life and feeling better. Maybe one day. I am also in a rut with work. I have gone as far as I can with this job. |
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Originally Posted by Jsmth321
(Post 12485980)
Just frustrstes me.
Paying obscene rent frustrates me to no end. At the end pay 20k in rent a year with nothing to show at the end of it all and constant stress about having to move again at some point with not a ton of notice. Stupid thing is if there were access to the appropriate treatment, I would stand a pretty good chance at a better life and feeling better. Maybe one day. I am also in a rut with work. I have gone as far as I can with this job. There's an exercise that I've suggested before. Look for the positive each day and write it down. Make a list. Today for me it the lovely blue sky and that I could play outside with my dog. Recognise the good stuff and quit swelling on the negative. |
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Originally Posted by Jsmth321
(Post 12485980)
Just frustrstes me.
.... I am also in a rut with work. I have gone as far as I can with this job. Do you think that you actively learn anything from every working day, or do you just treat each day as something to be endured? I hope its the former - each and every interaction is a learning opportunity, it's like free University if you choose to look at it positively. |
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I am a lead which is as far as I can go really other jobs are management or head office.
I have no bussiness skills or experience. No admin experience. No experience creating budgets. No idea how to create contract proposals. I am not remotely qualified for a management job and a degree is always listed as a requirement. We have corporate jobs open from time to time however a degree is always listed as a requirement and my job is not related to the jobs at head office in any way and I lack a degree and a bachelors degree is always listed as a requirement on head office jobs. Only so far one can go in low skilled jobs.
Originally Posted by Jingsamichty
(Post 12486003)
Again, defeatist. Please expand on your apparent belief that you can't go any further.... why? Is it your ability or experience? Is it lack of turnover into the next level at work? Please don't say it's a lack of experience or self-belief. You should be pushing for team leader positions.
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I would apply even if I didn’t have a degree. It shows initiative and belief in yourself. Tell them that you’ve been to the university of life and you have a lot of knowledge that somebody with a degree wouldn’t necessarily have. Sell yourself. Tell them that you’re the best. Make them want to talk with you regardless of their requirements. I know several people without degrees who have been offered “those†jobs.
Go for it! Don’t look for reasons why not to apply. Look for reasons why you should!
Originally Posted by Jsmth321
(Post 12486026)
I am a lead which is as far as I can go really.
We have corporate jobs open from time to time however a degree is always listed as a requirement and my job is not related to the jobs at head office in any way and I lack a degree and a bachelors degree is always listed as a requirement on head office jobs. |
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If I were like you, a lead at a safety-critical position, I would apply for every supervisory position I saw.
Have you ever sent your CV to recruitment consultants? |
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I also lack the knowledge and skills required for those jobs.
Its not just a lack of degree alone its a lack of skills/knowledge as well for those jobs. The degree is just one part of the puzzle. If I had the necessary skills and experience, could probably get around the lack of degree. |
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I have sent resumes to recruiting companies/temp agencies before.
Have never gotten a job through one. Have had general interviews and testing at a couple but never a job offer.
Originally Posted by Jingsamichty
(Post 12486039)
If I were like you, a lead at a safety-critical position, I would apply for every supervisory position I saw.
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Originally Posted by Jsmth321
(Post 12486026)
I am a lead which is as far as I can go really other jobs are management or head office.
Not so long ago you were looking for work & then you got this job and despite young'uns being a bit of a pain you are now a lead.:thumbup: You stuck your heels in and worked for this. Good on you. I have no business skills or experience. No admin experience. No experience creating budgets. No idea how to create contract proposals. I am not remotely qualified for a management job and a degree is always listed as a requirement. He calls himself a pit pony but he is glad he has work and an income. It gives a degree of bringing home the crust to the table. and so his self-esteem is fine with that. You are doing good J. Honestly you are. It's fine to put up your head and see what else is out there but always from a position of employment as that is the safe guard . I spent decades working at something I disliked . For reasons I shall not expand on,life just left it too hard for me to be brave enough to alter that. Still, I kept at it as to not work would have given me acres of stress. You'll work it through and sort it out J. |
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Originally Posted by BEVS
(Post 12486050)
Well I think that in itself is brilliant even if you don't feel that way at the mo.
Not so long ago you were looking for work & then you got this job and despite young'uns being a bit of a pain you are now a lead.:thumbup: You stuck your heels in and worked for this. Good on you. MrBEVs is just like this. He's also not cut out for the above . He calls himself a pit pony but he is glad he has work and an income. It gives a degree of bringing home the crust to the table. and so his self-esteem is fine with that. You are doing good J. Honestly you are. It's fine to put up your head and see what else is out there but always from a position of employment as that is the safe guard . I spent decades working at something I disliked . For reasons I shall not expand on,life just left it too hard for me to be brave enough to alter that. Still, I kept at it as to not work would have given me acres of stress. You'll work it through and sort it out J. :thumbup: I have another example, much the same as you BEVS. M always thought that general labouring was a far as he would go. He had plenty of self taught skills but lacked confidence as he felt he wasn't book smart. When he took a job for a local city parks department it was badly paid but had good benefits but it also meant no moving up or earning more but he was content. He then got the chance to move to the Public Works department working on the Public Water Systems. He now is Chief Water Plant Operator, has more licenses than any other employee. As he worked his way up he gained more confidence and he will tell anyone that he never thought he would do more than labouring in his work life. Sometimes it is worth looking outside the box.:nod: |
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In the past when I have worked for larger companies, I did apply for a variety of jobs that paid more.
I was never successful. Companies have given me different reasons and sometimes no reason. I have been told I am needed more in my current role at the time. I have been told a college degree would be helpful if I wanted to go anywhere. Been told while they felt I would be good for the role they felt outside hiring would be more beneficial. And then sometimes no reason at all. Its certainly not from a lack of effort. I have nevet in 20 years gotten a bad review or been written up for anything in any job. I have found as I get older its more difficult to even get interviews. I also try for local government jobs and sometimes provincial. |
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Its really the rent that is the issue more then the job. If rent matched income things would be better.
If I could find a job I can manage at the same pay but lower rent, it would not be so bad. I cant just take any job, if a job triggers me or is high stress it can lead to a meltdown which is what happens when I work in customer service jobs which I am just not suitable for personality wise. I think one reason I do well behind the scenes at airport is not dealing with customers and its not too stressful and while physical we get breaks between flights. If it was 10 hours straight of hard labor not sure I would have the stamina. If I could get hired at AC long term there might be more opportunity there. A few from my work have been hired. I do apply just have not been successful. It would be a 5.50/hr pay cut though.
Originally Posted by BEVS
(Post 12486050)
Well I think that in itself is brilliant even if you don't feel that way at the mo.
Not so long ago you were looking for work & then you got this job and despite young'uns being a bit of a pain you are now a lead.:thumbup: You stuck your heels in and worked for this. Good on you. MrBEVs is just like this. He's also not cut out for the above . He calls himself a pit pony but he is glad he has work and an income. It gives a degree of bringing home the crust to the table. and so his self-esteem is fine with that. You are doing good J. Honestly you are. It's fine to put up your head and see what else is out there but always from a position of employment as that is the safe guard . I spent decades working at something I disliked . For reasons I shall not expand on,life just left it too hard for me to be brave enough to alter that. Still, I kept at it as to not work would have given me acres of stress. You'll work it through and sort it out J. |
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If our stupid healthcare system would just modernize and realize medication isn't the solution to fixing mental health issues and cover the necessary treatments that have the best end results, it would lead to a lot more positive for people.
The current system pops pills like candy, and while meds work for a variety of mental health issues there are some where medication does little to no good. I take medication daily, it does nothing for me to help, but there is no medication for borderline, best the medication can do is possibly limit some of the symptoms from becoming overly severe, but the core problems of the disorder remain. Its annoying that there is a really good center not 10 mins away who specialized in borderline and there is no way to access it. It really brings one down when you know its unlikely you will ever fully live life because of the issues holding you down that you simply cannot fix on your own.
Originally Posted by BEVS
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Well I think that in itself is brilliant even if you don't feel that way at the mo.
Not so long ago you were looking for work & then you got this job and despite young'uns being a bit of a pain you are now a lead.:thumbup: You stuck your heels in and worked for this. Good on you. MrBEVs is just like this. He's also not cut out for the above . He calls himself a pit pony but he is glad he has work and an income. It gives a degree of bringing home the crust to the table. and so his self-esteem is fine with that. You are doing good J. Honestly you are. It's fine to put up your head and see what else is out there but always from a position of employment as that is the safe guard . I spent decades working at something I disliked . For reasons I shall not expand on,life just left it too hard for me to be brave enough to alter that. Still, I kept at it as to not work would have given me acres of stress. You'll work it through and sort it out J. |
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Originally Posted by Jsmth321
(Post 12487687)
If our stupid healthcare system would just modernize and realize medication isn't the solution to fixing mental health issues and cover the necessary treatments that have the best end results, it would lead to a lot more positive for people.
The current system pops pills like candy, and while meds work for a variety of mental health issues there are some where medication does little to no good. I take medication daily, it does nothing for me to help, but there is no medication for borderline, best the medication can do is possibly limit some of the symptoms from becoming overly severe, but the core problems of the disorder remain. Its annoying that there is a really good center not 10 mins away who specialized in borderline and there is no way to access it. It really brings one down when you know its unlikely you will ever fully live life because of the issues holding you down that you simply cannot fix on your own. ...... and would you get any better treatment anywhere else in the world, and at a price that you could afford? |
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Originally Posted by scilly
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...... and would you get any better treatment anywhere else in the world, and at a price that you could afford?
I am not an expert on the worlds healthcare system's so your asking a question that cannot be answered by me. It's just extremely frustrating living somewhere with so called universal healthcare only to be denied healthcare because I can't afford it. |
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Originally Posted by Jsmth321
(Post 12487827)
I am not an expert on the worlds healthcare system's so your asking a question that cannot be answered by me.
It's just extremely frustrating living somewhere with so called universal healthcare only to be denied healthcare because I can't afford it. I'm just going off what I have read, and learnt over the years. I very much doubt whether the US would be an option ................ medical treatment is expensive down there, and I know from a friend that the treatment he delivers as a psychologist/psychiatrist doesn't come cheap. He once told us that the insurance takes so long to be paid out to the doctors that he will no longer treat patients that way. The patient has to pay up front and then claim back from their insurance. That came after several months where the group had so many bills outstanding and awaiting payment from the insurance groups that there was less than $400 to be shared among 4 doctors as one month's salary after they had paid the rent and salaries to the staff. UK has free prescriptions, but I don't know how easy it would be to get the treatment you need there. It's just you keep saying Canada is not providing you with the services you need. Is there anywhere that would? Or should you start looking for that 1 good thing that has happened every day, as someone has already suggested? |
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Originally Posted by scilly
(Post 12487850)
I'm just going off what I have read, and learnt over the years...UK has free prescriptions, but I don't know how easy it would be to get the treatment you need there...
Originally Posted by Jsmth321
(Post 12487827)
It's just extremely frustrating living somewhere with so called universal healthcare only to be denied healthcare because I can't afford it.
The Guardian is full of news reports about the same lack of mental health care in the UK and a friend of mine back there blogs on his MH issues and his complaints mirror yours. |
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Originally Posted by BristolUK
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Reversed quote order.
I think what scilly is getting at is it would likely not be any better anywhere else - although there may be some statistical anomaly somewhere with fluke funding/resources disproportionate to population. The Guardian is full of news reports about the same lack of mental health care in the UK and a friend of mine back there blogs on his MH issues and his complaints mirror yours. Borderline also has the highest death rate of any mental illness but is the most difficult to receive treatment for. Anyhow, I am trying to decide if I should take a pay cut and go to another job that might lead to more opportunities down the road, but would cause hardship in the short term (a few years at minimum) and would requiring being able to move up in positions as the position available tops out at 17/hr after 10 years per the current union contract. Hard to decide, not possible to do my current job + the one I am thinking about as both require open availability and ability to work any shift without restrictions from school or another job. My current job pays more, but as we are an outsourcing company its all fairly short term, contracts only run 3-4 years with no guarantee of renewal. |
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Originally Posted by Jsmth321
(Post 12488301)
Anyhow, I am trying to decide if I should take a pay cut and go to another job that might lead to more opportunities down the road, but would cause hardship in the short term...
My current job pays more, but as we are an outsourcing company its all fairly short term, contracts only run 3-4 years with no guarantee of renewal. If you didn't make that possible move now, could it be made later? And if it didn't work out, could you make a move back to the current one? Speaking from experience a little hardship is certainly do-able if you know, absolutely know, it will get better. |
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Originally Posted by BristolUK
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So how long into that 3-4 years are you now?
If you didn't make that possible move now, could it be made later? And if it didn't work out, could you make a move back to the current one? Speaking from experience a little hardship is certainly do-able if you know, absolutely know, it will get better. Moving companies would be unknown, who knows how long if ever I would be able to move up, in theory it would be possible, but reality I haven't a clue if it would actually happen. |
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Originally Posted by Jsmth321
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I know what she was getting at. Doesn't make it any less frustrating.
Borderline also has the highest death rate of any mental illness but is the most difficult to receive treatment for. Anyhow, I am trying to decide if I should take a pay cut and go to another job that might lead to more opportunities down the road, but would cause hardship in the short term (a few years at minimum) and would requiring being able to move up in positions as the position available tops out at 17/hr after 10 years per the current union contract. Hard to decide, not possible to do my current job + the one I am thinking about as both require open availability and ability to work any shift without restrictions from school or another job. My current job pays more, but as we are an outsourcing company its all fairly short term, contracts only run 3-4 years with no guarantee of renewal. However, I’ll repeat myself yet again: - You are not alone in living with mental health problems. - You’ve had good comments & been given suggestions for options/resources for mental health treatment repeatedly. - Many of us who try to support you here live with “short-term†contracts (3 - 4 years is NOT short term in my book) and/or low wage jobs. Not to mention mental health issues. I realize that much of your (what can be perceived as) negativity and “shooting down†all and any helpful suggestions/advice/comments is the BPD talking, however: - you are holding down a job (and I know that’s not easy) - You have a roof over your head (and I know it’s expensive) - You have options (which may or may not be viable in the short term, but you still have them) It may happen that you never get a better paying job, or never get to move up the “career†ladder. That’s reality for a huge number of people who don’t struggle with BPD or any other illness/disability/health issue. |
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Originally Posted by Jsmth321
(Post 12488301)
I know what she was getting at. Doesn't make it any less frustrating.
Borderline also has the highest death rate of any mental illness but is the most difficult to receive treatment for. Anyhow, I am trying to decide if I should take a pay cut and go to another job that might lead to more opportunities down the road, but would cause hardship in the short term (a few years at minimum) and would requiring being able to move up in positions as the position available tops out at 17/hr after 10 years per the current union contract. Hard to decide, not possible to do my current job + the one I am thinking about as both require open availability and ability to work any shift without restrictions from school or another job. My current job pays more, but as we are an outsourcing company its all fairly short term, contracts only run 3-4 years with no guarantee of renewal.
Originally Posted by Shirtback
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I’ve been sitting on my hands/trying to restrain myself from commenting since I came back to checking BE.
However, I’ll repeat myself yet again: - You are not alone in living with mental health problems. - You’ve had good comments & been given suggestions for options/resources for mental health treatment repeatedly. - Many of us who try to support you here live with “short-term†contracts (3 - 4 years is NOT short term in my book) and/or low wage jobs. Not to mention mental health issues. I realize that much of your (what can be perceived as) negativity and “shooting down†all and any helpful suggestions/advice/comments is the BPD talking, however: - you are holding down a job (and I know that’s not easy) - You have a roof over your head (and I know it’s expensive) - You have options (which may or may not be viable in the short term, but you still have them) It may happen that you never get a better paying job, or never get to move up the “career†ladder. That’s reality for a huge number of people who don’t struggle with BPD or any other illness/disability/health issue. It's a very easy step to take to find yourself in that situation regardless of Border Line or not.. Hubby has been looking for a job for a year now. He is up and down like a yoyo and I never know what to expect. This morning for example he was lovely and smiling and joking, fast forward just a couple of hours and he is down in the dumps and feeling very sorry for himself... he can't see an end to this cycle of "apply for job, don't hear back, apply for another job, get interview, don't hear back...and repeat". It's heart breaking to see this big strong man gradually fall apart in front of me and there is nothing I can do to help him! So yes, JS, pull yourself together, you have to fight those demons and get the better of them... it's bloody hard and you said that the odds are basically against you, but think about it, there are others worse off than you, you at least have age on your side... but I understand that it's so much easier said than done! |
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I do what I can.
As for treatment there is unforutnanly nothing in the public healthcare system that provides the necessary treatment that I am aware of. Ive been in and out of the system for the last 7 years and have always been told there is little that can be done. I have done what was offered but it was general short term groups geared mostly towards addiction and depression. The public system refers me to the private center which at this time does not offer a sliding scale. It is easier said then done and yes others are in the same boat however that does not invalidate how I am feeling and the outlook I see. Yes I have housing until end of August for sure. Not sure we can pay rent beyond that since we lose disability so that is still unknown. Just because a city has mental health office does not mean they offer the needed services or appropriate services for every mental health condition. I was told by the mental health office last spring they wish there was something they could do to help but they dont have the services needed. I just know I cannot do this job forever. My body is feeling its age now and getting hard to do with foot problem and knee problem I have now. Just not sure what other jobs I would do well in. Hotels never work out as they are high stress same with retail and fast food. I am also becoming annoyed at work so only a matter of time before I reach a point I cannot handle it anymore and my mental health is worn down and affected in a poor way. I am on the verge of going home today. |
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Originally Posted by Jsmth321
(Post 12491018)
I do what I can.
As for treatment there is unforutnanly nothing in the public healthcare system that provides the necessary treatment that I am aware of. Ive been in and out of the system for the last 7 years and have always been told there is little that can be done. I have done what was offered but it was general short term groups geared mostly towards addiction and depression. The public system refers me to the private center which at this time does not offer a sliding scale. It is easier said then done and yes others are in the same boat however that does not invalidate how I am feeling and the outlook I see. Yes I have housing until end of August for sure. Not sure we can pay rent beyond that since we lose disability so that is still unknown. Just because a city has mental health office does not mean they offer the needed services or appropriate services for every mental health condition. I was told by the mental health office last spring they wish there was something they could do to help but they dont have the services needed. I just know I cannot do this job forever. My body is feeling its age now and getting hard to do with foot problem and knee problem I have now. Just not sure what other jobs I would do well in. Hotels never work out as they are high stress same with retail and fast food. I am also being triggered more and more at work so its only a matter of time before I end up quitting. |
Re: Some updates.
Originally Posted by DandNHill
(Post 12491032)
Ever tried EFT?
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