ChrisBan

Personally I'd say a bottle of wine would be standard contribution in that situation

bats

There are indeed.

Shard

+1

scrubbedexpat091

I'd agree flowers or chocolate or a dessert would be polite thing to bring. I wouldn't expect someone to bring booze though, a lot of people don't drink and would never even consider bringing a bottle of wine or beer as it's just not part of their lifestyle.

I don't drink and I don't want to assume someone else does if I don't know them well, so I never bring booze to anything.

beckiwoo

I think it's the culture I have grown up in, family always had alcohol available but I have always been very mature about it. Not a big drinker either right now but if someone wants to turn up with beer, wine, tequila, champagne...not going to complain.

Tirytory

I always think if you're going somewhere where you will accept glasses of wine it's best to bring a bottle... If you don't drink desert or flowers are good. I'll often take a combination of the two somewhere. Dinner is expensive and the effort alone dictates it... As well as the follow up thank you

BristolUK

Wine's good. The recipient needn't drink it and it can be regifted so it serves a purpose.

ChrisBan

Absolutely!!!

bats

My husband doesn't drink but will take a bottle with him, usually he choses flowers or chocolates as he is never sure which wine to buy. We have some friends who are foodies and wine buffs so it's quite hard to chose wine for them as we know the food and wine selections will already have been made and so I will take something like a bottle of white port.

Similarly you should never presume that your guests will bring wine with them, let alone wine that you might want to drink.

There should always be a gift for the hosts regardless of whether or not you drink.

scrubbedexpat091

Well I'd never accept a glass of wine at a dinner party, wine is vile stuff. I don't know how anyone drinks that stuff.

I just bring a dessert with me if I go out somewhere (I rarely accept invitations to go to someone's house, I don't like social situations.) I have been invited to, usually a cake or pie, or a box of decent chocolate.

If I brought wine, it would be the cheapest bottle I could fine, and probably not very good, so figure better to bring more useful item and one I would accept if offered.

scrubbedexpat091

I'd bring something, it just won't be alcohol.

bats

Then you would be most welcome at ours

Paul_Shepherd

Just been reading through all these posts on this thread.....it all sounds way to familiar, my biggest pet peeve is why these games?? why?? if two people like each other then why delay it?

With regards to OP hearing nothing from this guy...ive been there (hearing nothing from a girl) I arranged to meet with a girl for dinner sometime back....i paid for everything....never heard from her again. That said i was quite relieved she wasnt what she thought she was.

She seemed to be the wholesome girl next door type....how wrong i was! Following dinner (quite and expensive dinner) we went somewhere else for a drink, she then preceded to tell me about her and i quote "....my winter ***** buddy" and that she has "needs" call me old fashioned but is this really the conversation you have on a first date after what i thought was get to know each other dinner? Do i really need to know about some sordid relationship she had with this guy? what was she hoping to achieve?

Some of my friends said maybe she was hinting lol. That said she kept saying i have to be going soon i have work early next day, so i have no idea what the whole thing was about!!

Needless to say i havent suggested dinner with a girl since, unless i know a lot more about them!

So you see Beckiwoo.....there are ungrateful weordos everywhere! and no i wouldnt text him again!

beckiwoo

Thanks Paul!!

This was a few week ago now and I did end up hearing from him in the end and he asked to meet up again that weekend. I agreed. A few days later I then suggested the Saturday and he was busy and then Sunday but his priority was the junior world hockey tournament - he received a text telling him to 'forget it' - problem now solved!

ChrisBan

Aww thats great you heard back from him again though, sorry it didn't quite work out though!