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Point taken. Thanks, and apologies for the sarcasm.

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I did...Oh well,, cant get them all right I guess. I hope it works out for all concerned.

I do think having to post, or at least be a member for a short while before starting a thread would help to some extent, it seems to work OK in other fora I contribute to.

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How can someone moan about a "troll thread" and then keep veiwing it and then take the time to post on it. Here is a thought. If you think a thread is not real then don't read it or post on it.

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But

A:it was Friday afternoon and there was much time to be wasted...

and more seriously

B: Its hard to sit back and watch other that you sort of know and respect through previous interaction here get sucked in by an troll, human nature I guess...gotta scratch that itch, even though you know you shouldnt.

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Sorry, but having just returned to that thread, I've got to say I think Retes response to Crickets post was right on the money. Cricket could have sugar coated their view of things a bit, but that doesnt really happen much around here does it.

God, it makes my life seem like a bed of roses though, gotta be gratefull for what Ive got here. Good Luck.

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Well sorry, I don't agree! The way I was feeling yesterday (with my depression) hit me like a freight train when I read Cricket1's very blunt and tactless reply.....not only was I shaking with rage but I had quite a few moments where I felt all those usual feelings associated with this dark illness (if you know what I mean :( worthless, useless, pathetic, a neglectful parent, etc.... Unless you've experienced depression to such a degree like me where you wonder daily if life is worth living anymore, then you show some tact at least when giving advice rather than hitting them in the face with insults.

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Thats why Im glad Im not a moderator... its not easy being the punch bag in the middle, someone is not going to agree, one way or the other.

They have to decide whats acceptable and normal, and cant really be expected to take everyones own particular circumstances into consideration. Its not like Cricket set out on a long tyrade against you, it was one of half a dozen posts they had in that thread, and although blunt, Ive seen worse.

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yeah i had to go and have a read, i dont go into that forum as i cant add anything :blink::blink:
i think when you post such a thread it does get hit with alot of different people, sometimes such a private matter gets slapped about.
i really feel for Ruby and her situation, but as i have never been through this i would not offer advise and do look at life differently, but that is my life and not hers.

I do feel that some posters get above there selfs and must remember that although a open forum and we are oepn to trolls, that most of the posters on here are humans and some posters need support, maybe not the right place to come sometimes, but they are here..................

What happened to 2009 being better :sneaky:
When some of the expats on here start, i just feel like deleting my account, but better to walk away, there is always another day :thumbup::thumbsup:

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Very true...there are days where a break is a good thing in order to calm down and let things run out of steam rather than get hept up about.

I still, however, would like Rete herself to explain to me what her interpretation of "respect & dignity" towards BE Members means and how they differed in the instances of the two threads :p

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but two peoples view's are different on a subject and her interpretation maybe different to yours and mine ;)
Maybe mod's see one thread and not another and that is why they act upon one and have not seen another thread ;)

ruby - please don't take stuff the wrong way hun, sometimes when stuff is bad we read into stuff, people on here are strangers and sometimes write things different to how they want it to be said.
Your situation is a hard one, you need to listen to the people closed to you, not a bunch of strangers on here, they are the people that can advise the best :unsure:

i wish you luck and happiness to whatever you decide to do :wub::wub:

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Ruby....
i was sent a ace peom when i was down and didnt see away out a few months back

When things go wrong as they sometimes will,
When the road you are trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,

When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest, if you must, but do not quit.
Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As everyone of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
When he might have won had he stuck it out.

Don't give up though the pace seems slow -
You may succeed with another blow.
Success is failure turned inside out,
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt.

And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far.
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit -
It's when things seem worst that you must not quit.

i find that i go back to it when i feel in that place :thumbsup:

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That was lovely...and I will keep that too and stick it in my diary.
Bless ya MD :wub: xx

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She didn't treat you disrespectfully, Ruby. Cricket1 told you how she saw your situation when you went on about the abusive nature of your relationship over the last 11 years and you said you finally decided it had to end.

It wasn't what you wanted to hear as it was not a shoulder to cry on or an empathic pat on the back. But it was not said disrespectfully although it was preceived by you as disrespectful.

Moon, hope that answers your question as well.

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Just as a matter of interest, Rete, and you can tell me to mind my own business if you wish...but what exactly is the role of a Moderator...and what makes you a "Super" one? You're the only Super Moderator I've seen on BE. Not being sarcastic, so please don't read this question the wrong way.....I'd just like to know. :)